Have you told anyone to step back ? Aibu ?

[borislovesme]

I was stood outside supermarket.
A youngish man came right behind me.
Immediately I panic a bit and try and step a tiny bit forward as the line moved.
Then he coughed so I moved forward again.
Once again he moved forward.
So I snapped and said
"Sorry do you mind stepping back a bit,your too close and you need to keep a distance"
He gave me a dirty look and moved a tiny bit back.
I said thanks
What's so hard about keeping space between each other ?
Why can't some people manage it.

Sobbing and shaking is a key feature of Mumsnet

Is it?! I have been on MN for years and have never sobbed and shook with emotion.

Not shouted but firmly told people
The queue to get into our Sainsburys was back along the (narrow) pavement next to the entrance/exit to the carpark. A man who was walking in the road to get to the back of the queue panicked when a car came and tried to get up on the pavement next to me, at most he would have been about 1 ft away if I had let him. I said that he couldn’t come onto the pavement and he said “but there’s a car” I just told him that it would have to wait, which it did. 5 minutes later the same happened and again I said they couldn’t come onto the pavement next to me. It happened 3 times and each time I got an eye roll but they walked off. They were in no danger as the cars were waiting and to be honest I think it was more thoughtless than anything else - car coming, must get off road.
It’s a relatively new thing and people are getting used to it, you have to be conscious of your distance from people at all times and it’s not instinctive

I haven’t needed to tell anyone to move as no one has got too close to me. I imagine I could manage to do it calmly and politely though.
I’m concerned about the long term consequences of all this, I think people are going to be paranoid about going near others for some time. And people seem to think they can shout and yell at others rather than just ask them politely to step back a bit.

@hellsbellsmelons if you swore at me I’d have chucked the broccoli at your head. Absolutely no need. I suppose you’re absolutely perfect in everything you do?

I was sobbing and shaking with emotion.

Do you also scream and cry at works of art such as the Sistine Chapel?

I’ve told plenty (delivery drivers, man in pharmacy, shop assistants standing either side of a door less than 2m wide). Typically they reply “it’s fine, I haven’t got it” and don’t move until I tell them my husband has had it for 3 wand I don’t want to infect them (I’m 14 days past symptoms so fine) at which point they suddenly don PPE and run to 4m away. I suppose no one thinks it’s going to affect them until it does...

I asked someone to move back yesterday. To be fair he was on the phone so I guess not concentrating. He apologised and moved back and didn’t come too close again.

*3 weeks and, not 3wand

if you swore at me I’d have chucked the broccoli at your head. Absolutely no need. I suppose you’re absolutely perfect in everything you do?

Exactly this. Why are people shouting and swearing at people, instead of just calmly asking?

I had to tell someone to put their dog back on a lead. That went down well lol

@kitchenconfidential

I've only been out for a walk twice in the last few weeks and saw a woman (we usually avoid) come walking up the hill so tucked into a field gate. Thought that as it was inset she could pass without having to divert.

No the bloody woman came and stood behind us and started chatting shit telling us the house across the field used to belong to her.

Some people just dont get it

I sobbed and shook with emotion in Marks and Spencer when I realised all the bags of mini walnut whips had gone during the panic buying.

Bastards.

Lololol @StatementKnickers

No need to be so emotional op

In real life, the only time I have ever shouted “stand back” was when evacuating an aircraft and I was waiting for the slide to inflate.

I seem to have missed the Sistine chapel thread. Can someone link me?😂😂

In ASDA last night - some bloke aimlessly bumbling around the fruit and veg aisle (ignoring the 1 way system). I just politely asked him to give me some space. He rolled his eyes, muttered for fucks sake and wandered off (the wrong way down the one way system which is clearly marked with massive fuck off green arrows stuck on the floor)

Someone shouted at me to put my dog on the lead from so far away I couldn’t hear what she was saying so she came storming across the field shouting until she was close enough to see that my dog was actually on her lead and had been the whole time and then told me to fuck off

Then yesterday afternoon, took DD’s arthritic elderly pony for a walk in hand down the bridleway. Someone came marching up to me, closer than 2 metres, to tell me I shouldn’t be on the bridle way as it was against the rules. Not sure why it was ok for her to be on the bridle way and not me, but there you go

@Chillicheese123 of course I am

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3178898-DH-embarrassed-by-my-sensitivity

Enjoy!

Every time I go out.
People encouraging their dogs to walk 20m over to my dog to have a sniff.
On a big green space which would/should be big enough for 10 families to play without encroaching nearer than 10m of one another, parents letting their little kids run around the whole field - right up to other families.
People in shops barging right past rather than waiting two seconds for a space to appear.
I think many people are just thick as shit, unfortunately.

I shout at people on my daily run. Whenever I can I'll be the one to move round people, running in the road to move around other pedestrians on pavement if its clear.
Yesterday 3 cyclists, 3 generations of a family aged roughly 30, 50, 70 were cruising along on bikes, all on the pavement, coming towards me. The road next to the pavement was empty, and clear cycle lanes marked on road also. I assumed as they got nearer they would do the right and obvious thing and move onto the road- but nope- all cycle right up to me on pavement and I shout at them to get on the road- they then start exclaiming back to me gormlessly- I'm wearing my ear pods and moved past them by then so couldn't hear- but nothing they could say would excuse their behaviour anyway.

Something similar to this with absolute morons happens every day, I always get the rage.

Yup. Some guy behind me in the aisle at the supermarket. I was giving the woman in front of me some space while she selected something and I was standing near an item he wanted. He kept coming closer despite me asking to give me 2m of space. When the woman in front moved on, I told him to go ahead of me because he was pissing me off as picking up some crisps was clearly more important than both of our personal safety.

Do people really go around shouting and swearing at people or is this just a Mumsnet thing?

"she said 'it doesn't matter I've been at work all day'"

I can't work out why on earth she thought it was relevant that she'd been at work all day. How can that mean that she shouldn't maintain a 2 m. distance from others in the supermarket?