I have posted about my DH before and his issues with alcohol.
The lockdown has meant he has had little access to alcohol so that has been good.
However, DH contracts and finished his last contract in December and has not found a new contract. He has had an interview since lockdown and he can do the work remotely, but the jobs are few and far between.
Obviously, this is stressful for DH and all the family. So his days need to be spent looking for jobs on his phone. He doesn't get out of bed until about 9.30 and then gets dressed in trackpants and lies on the bed most of the day doing goodness knows what - I know sometimes he is playing games on his phone, sometimes looking for jobs. He seems to have no get up and go, no motivation. I think he is depressed, but he gets angry if I say this. I get frustrated at this lack of motivation and I feel lying all day on your phone whatever you are doing can't feel good for ones soul. So I get cross with that and all the mess he is happy to ignore. Then he says - if you think I'm depressed, why do you put me down? It is just an impossible situation.
The other day, he was not in a good place, went for his daily walk and bought beers (even though we have an agreement not to go into any shops as feel it is not safe and have food delivered) and then had a beer while I went for a walk and told DD to not tell me. DD hid the other beer he had and told me,. A big argument ensued and then he walked out of the house to wander the streets for hours and drank more beers. I don't know what to do. His mental health is not good, but he blames me and won't try and work on himself. He just likes to blame me for feeling like he has cabin fever and nagging him to clean up. I feel drained from being around someone so unmotivated that won't admit they have a problem.
I feel lying on a bed all day can't make you feel good.
Help. This lockdown is killing me. what do you suggest?