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Third baby dilemma

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MeMeMy · 17/04/2020 08:56

I have two young children and a good relationship with DH. I am very broody and ready for the next baby, but we have made plans to move abroad in the next few years and DH keeps saying stuff like "it would be the worst thing if you got pregnant now" - quickly followed by "I think we should have a happy accident" with the next baby. Financially, it would not be great - but I'm convinced we would make it work and figure things out.

We are not using protection as I have mentioned to him I don't want to go on contraception, and he doesn't seem motivated enough to source condoms.

So my question is: AIBU to keep having sex with him with the hopes of getting pregnant?

He would NOT be keen on actively trying - but is also clearly pining for a next baby as he is repeatedly asking our other two if they would like a new sibling. He doesn't need much convincing to "do the deed" so it's not as though I'm twisting his arm - and in my mind, he is choosing to have sex with me without protection, and has to accept responsibility that it may lead to a baby. AIBU?

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4amWitchingHour · 17/04/2020 12:14

I think the second reply you got (from @LouiseTrees) is the most sensible one. Be open with him, he needs to stop denying he wants another child now. The reality is you are ttc, whether you're timing sex or not, and you should be on the same page about it

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