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My neighbour has struck again with racist attack - long

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myboysmum · 17/04/2020 00:11

I posted here before about my neighbour who complained to the council about my outside light. The council told her to keep a diary which she did

and she then reported that we had it on for hours at a time every day which was a complete lie as I had also kept a diary and she had exaggerated loads. The council then wanted to come to my house to do their own investigation and look at the light but I said no as I am shielding so not accepting any visitors so to contact me in 12 weeks. She also called the police who paid us a visit. A couple of weeks later when I was standing on my doorstep, she stood there and stared at me. I asked her what her problem was and she kept saying she couldn't hear me. I repeated it several times and she then said I wasn't talking English. I didn't understand what she meant at the time. I am English and white by the way and so is she. This is relevant later. Couple of days ago my partner was jet washing our pathway and also our side of the fence between our houses which were covered in green mildew. The fence does belong to her. She then ranted at him that he was breaking the law by jet washing the fence and the water was also splashing onto her driveway and she would call the police if he didn't stop. He said it was only water and he was actually doing her a favour by cleaning her fence. He had actually finished at that point so came indoors.

Today it has got worse. He got in the car to go shopping and then realised half way there that he forgot his wallet so returned home. There were no other parking spaces so he parked across her drive and popped quickly into the house. We then heard the sound of a car horn constantly so he ran back outside and she screamed at him not to block her drive. He apologised and said I just popped in to pick up wallet. She just carried on shouting like a mad woman. I then went outside to see what was going on. Six months ago I was diagnosed with cancer and have just completed my chemo which has made me completely lose my hair. I wasn't wearing a wig or hat at the time and she looked at me and said "uhh look at you, what do you look like" I was so shocked and screamed at her that I had fucking cancer, she then said "oh well that's what you get for living with him" and pointed at my partner who is black. She then went on about our light (which we haven't used in the last 2 weeks) and the jet wash again and said we were breaking the law and people from this country do not do things like that and she was calling the police. I then realised that she is racist and that's what her problem has been all along. I told her actually both me and my partner were born and bred in this country and to go ahead and call the police and I would tell them exactly what's she's like. She came back 5 minutes later and said the police are on their way although we haven't had a visit. We have lived here nearly two years and have never had a problem with her. She never spoke to me even if I said hello to her but she had spoke to my partner a couple of times and seemed fine. Just out the blue she has completely turned physco. I know my partner should not have parked across her drive and he apologised for that but did we really deserve the abuse we got regarding my hair loss and his race. Can't believe some people can be so fucking nasty.

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Dieu · 17/04/2020 22:33

She's a mental, nasty bitch. Keep away from her OP, as she sounds unhinged. I'm sorry you had to go through this Thanks

leckford · 17/04/2020 22:34

She sounds unbalanced, feel sorry for the council and police having to deal with her

Neron · 17/04/2020 23:05

It was petty not allowing the council round to look at an external light. You didn't need to open the door to the council. How did you speak to the police when they came round then? Also, standing at your door because you were arguing with her? You must have known enough to have kept your own diary to prove your side and say if she'd spoken to you about it, you would have done something about it - yet you still haven't?
This whole thing is petty.

myboysmum · 18/04/2020 00:18

Nor petty at all to not allow council round, he actually agreed with me and it was just days before the lockdown anyway. I didn't have any visitors here including my family for two weeks before the lockdown started and I was also having chemo up until 3 weeks ago and have suffered a lot of side effects so was not really up to it either.
The conversation with the police was done over the phone after they popped a card through my letterbox asking me to call them and my conversations with her were with me standing on my doorstep and her on her driveway about 12 ft apart. I kept my diary after the letter from the council said they had asked her to keep a diary. I suspected she would exaggerate it so that's why I kept mine. If I haven't used the light for the last 3 weeks obviously I have done something about it yet she is still complaining about it when it hasn't even been on.

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