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Original poster

To want to report my own family

55 replies

Littlebb2020 · 14/04/2020 16:39

Their not sticking to the lock down rules and it’s extremely annoying me. They live a few doors down and have had relatives over but have said they are only in the garden and are sitting apart, also children have been running around.
I’m pregnant and self isolating and won’t go near them. I think they are being incredibly fucking selfish.

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bruce43mydog · 14/04/2020 17:05

Have you told them that your not happy with them.

You could phone 111

But I would have a word with them first

Yellowsubmarinedreams · 14/04/2020 17:16

Don't be so ridiculous!! Stop curtain twitching and get a grip. Read a book or something. They're your family. I hope you're not expecting any childcare help from them in the years to come if you do report them.

Davespecifico · 14/04/2020 17:22

I don’t agree yellowsubmarinedreams. Even if the OP is curtain twitching, she knows that her family are not social distancing as they’ve been asked to do and are putting each other and others at risk - potentially of death!
Police have asked people to report these breaches and I suggest the OP does report it.

BadDaughter01 · 14/04/2020 17:25

I have visited relatives but they have been in their house and I've been distancing from the garden gate, at least two metres away. The same relatives who are pensioners came to our block of flats' car park so we could drop some essentials in the boot. We spoke through a cracked open window on the passenger side again two metres away. They left after 10 minutes. It's hard enough not seeing your relatives but when they have additional needs (mine cannot stand for hours outside a supermarket due to health issues) then you have to help them. We do ring them and we do video chat but their lives have shrunk to almost nothing and having face-to-face contact at a safe distance really boosts their mental health. Maybe your family are not self-distancing but is it really up to you to report them? Let them get on with it, ffs.

Wewearpinkonwednesdays · 14/04/2020 17:28

How is this affecting you in any way? Sounds like you want to report them because you are jealous.

Original poster
Littlebb2020 · 14/04/2020 17:28

Yes have asked what they are doing. To be told they don’t sit near each other and who ever goes over has self isolated. I can understand we need to build immunity to it and everyone is finding it hard isolating. But it pisses me off when their sharing on social media about their clap for the nhs and then their not sticking to lockdown.
My nan is also nearly 90 and at least one has been to visit her.

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Yellowsubmarinedreams · 14/04/2020 17:29

@Davespecifico then you too need to get a grip. Jesus, it's like the vigilante. Maybe now is the perfect time for people to discover some exciting hobbies?

Original poster
Littlebb2020 · 14/04/2020 17:32

I am jealous but also bitter my mom works on a corona ward and said it’s bad and she’s worried going to work. Then you got those fuckers who never worked a day in their life sitting around having a family gathering and maybe spreading it even more that then will put more pressure on the nhs and workers like my mom.
I have fully isolated and miss my family so much why can’t people just do as told ?

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lazyarse123 · 14/04/2020 17:34

I'd report them. You don't need to tell them it was you. I can't understand the pp telling you to mind your own business. It's everybodys business, this virus is killing hundreds of people every day. Ffs what will it take for people to understand.

GrannySlippersAreAStepTooFar · 14/04/2020 17:40

Why don't you just mind your own business. I'm sick to death of people whining on about other people not following 'The Rules'.
You can't police the world, your street or anybody. People will either be sensible or behave like idiots. YOU cannot make them change.
You're pregnant, I suggest you calm down and worry about what you're doing and keeping yourself safe.
Oh and by the way, even the rich are behaving like entitled idiots, not just the unemployed. Hmm

LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 17:40

Yep. Report them right now

Howfar12 · 14/04/2020 17:41

No one likes a snitch

Lockheart · 14/04/2020 17:41

Do what you want, but if you have to seek validation for it from strangers on the internet then you probably shouldn't.

ilovedjerrymore · 14/04/2020 17:42

@GrannySlippersAreAStepTooFar 👏👏well said!

myusernamewastakenbyme · 14/04/2020 17:42

Keep your sticky beak out of other peoples business !!!

LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 17:43

To Grannyslippers.

We all I assume want this pandemic over asap. It won't happen with behaviour like that. Can you not process the risks in doing this?

Many people are dying daily because they are in contact with other folks who pass on the disease. Wake up

Howfar12 · 14/04/2020 17:44

@LesLavandes This situation is only a few people - it won’t make a difference as thousands of other people are also breaking the guidelines

lljkk · 14/04/2020 17:45

Crack on if you want them to hate you forever. Not sure what else you hope to achieve. Personally I have learnt (the hard way, admittedly) to try to keep peace with neighbours.

Writerandreader · 14/04/2020 17:46

The police actually have not asked people to report. They set up report forms because their 111 lines were being besieged by people snitching on neighbours

I promise you they will not be interested in neighbours sitting in gardens. They have specifically said they can't respond to most and are only likely to turn out to major breaches like large groups in parks or big parties.

Please try to remember that we have huge obedience to the rules across the UK which is what we needed to flatten the curve.

WhatTiggersDoBest · 14/04/2020 17:46

YANBU to want to report them, but at the same time it's probably best to just let them be completely stupid. Some people won't get it until they die from not having a ventilator.

LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 17:47

Howfar. I'm talking about everybody in our nation

Follow the rules.

So many people on this thread just don't get it.

PumpkinP · 14/04/2020 17:47

I wouldn’t report my own family. Prefer to be disowned if you do!if you’re happy with that then go ahead

HildegardeCrowe · 14/04/2020 17:48

Go on, report them. And then deal with the fallout.

LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 17:48

Whattiggers.... or they put other people apart from the stupid family on a ventilator and they die

Howfar12 · 14/04/2020 17:48

@LesLavandes the police won’t do anything as they are in the garden.

Secondly, why would you snitch on your own family?