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To want to report my own family

55 replies

Littlebb2020 · 14/04/2020 16:39

Their not sticking to the lock down rules and it’s extremely annoying me. They live a few doors down and have had relatives over but have said they are only in the garden and are sitting apart, also children have been running around.
I’m pregnant and self isolating and won’t go near them. I think they are being incredibly fucking selfish.

OP posts:
LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 17:49

Better a fall out than a funeral

Gammeldragz · 14/04/2020 17:49

The government never expected 100% of the population to comply 100% with the rules. Enough are doing so (way more than expected) that the desired impact is being achieved.
Don't stress about it.

disorganisedsecretsquirrel · 14/04/2020 17:51

Yes of course ignore it.. stop twitching curtains, stop caring that they are ARSEHOLES !! because that's just fine and dandy and will get us out of this.

To everyone who thinks OPs behaviour is fine to ignore .. I really HOPE your family member doesn't die gasping for breath.

Then again OP.. give up. You really can't argue with unbelievably stupid.

LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 17:51

How far. Read my posts.

If only the government would make lockdown like Spain or Italy . Oh! Then we might get over this quicker... but most of you here on this thread prefer to take your chances or at least approve of people doing so

Howfar12 · 14/04/2020 17:53

Well the Government hasn’t made lockdown like Spain or Italy

ChainsawBear · 14/04/2020 17:53
  1. compliance with the lockdown is very high - much higher than the government anticipated.
  2. unless they are hosting gatherings of dozens of people, the police will file the report in the circular filing cabinet.

The only conceivable result of reporting them is that you will make yourself very unhappy and potentially turf your relationship with them permanently.

Focus on what you can control i.e. your own behaviour. Let the other things go, for your own sake.

LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 17:53

Thank you, disorganised. One of few people who agrees with me. It's very disheartening and scary that so many think a gathering is fine

Oldhaggard · 14/04/2020 17:54

Police have asked people to report these breaches and I suggest the OP does report it.

My local force has a recorded message telling you not to continue with the call if it's to report a coronavirus breach unless it's a large gathering in a public area or anti social behaviour, when you ring 111. Which I did last week after seeing and disturbing some little shit trying car doors on our road and the gobshite dog barked and disturbed him, so he vanished.

LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 17:55

Howfar. Unfortunately not - yet but there are rules and this family is breaking them and maybe other people they will break too with their selfish behaviour

ChainsawBear · 14/04/2020 17:57

Police absolutely haven't actively asked people to report breaches. If anything, they've asked people to stop reporting petty breaches, or channelled them to online forms they fully intend to ignore, because they aren't a police matter and are a waste of police time.

Mammatino · 14/04/2020 17:57

You’re feeling tense and stressed out like everyone else and you are pregnant so double trouble. Concentrate on the things you can control in your own home. Yes they shouldn’t be doing it but reporting them will get you no where except even more isolated than you are now. I do agree people should not be mixing households especially with a 90 year old in the mix. Take care and look after you and your baby.

Howfar12 · 14/04/2020 17:58

Reporting them will make you feel even worse imo. Your family will view it as betrayal and although I don’t know them, they might not help you with your child or speak to you. Just focus on you and your child

Mlou32 · 14/04/2020 17:59

When people talk about 'minding your own business' - this is everyone's business. Infringements of the rules affect everybody. It facilitates the spread of this virus which can very well impact on the OP. One of the family members catches coronavirus at the supermarket. They then break the rules and visit the rest of the family, as described by the OP, while asymptomatic. One of the other family members then pick it up. Said family member then goes to tesco a couple of days later. They shed viral load on a pint of milk that they pick up then put back for one with a longer shelf life. The next person picks that up and also picks up the virus. See where I'm going with this....?

Breaches of the rules affect us all.

LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 18:02

Howfar. She doesn't have to say who she is!!!

Laylor · 14/04/2020 18:03

I can't believe people find this acceptable. I miss my family like most folk but there is no way I would do this or sit back and watch it happen. I have a newborn baby who hasn't met half of our families and I for one want to keep him safe. Yes its boring staying indoors I get that but please follow the rules

ilovesooty · 14/04/2020 18:04

Either it should be reported or it shouldn't. I don't think the fact that it's your family should enter into it.

WiseOwl69 · 14/04/2020 18:16

I wouldn’t report because actually I think nothing would come of reporting.

However I would attempt to tell my family why they need to not visit each other and see if explaining why we all need to isolate gets the point through to them.

I’d also feel quite sad about having such selfish relatives. The rest of us are sitting in our homes and not having visitors, so why can’t they?!

bamboothrough · 14/04/2020 18:31

Snitches? Hmm I’ve reported people and will continue to (using the online form as advised). If people don’t follow the guidelines this will go on longer and more people will die

Alialialiali · 14/04/2020 18:49

Why don't you fake your own coronavirus death, then a resurrection and then make them promise they'll lock down properly otherwise they'll lose you forever
There are no flaws in this plan... apart from if you find they never cared... but hey, it'll be good to know.

Orangeblossom78 · 14/04/2020 18:51

I take it the OP needs to shield / self isolate which must be hard - but sounds like the family are keeping their distance. I understand it must be hard shielding but maybe best protect yourself rather than focus on others- if in the vulnerable group you need to look after yourself.

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Littlebb2020 · 14/04/2020 19:10

Just going to leave them to it. Yes I am stressed and wound up and a poster Makes a good point, I should just focus on myself and my unborn baby.
Just worried about my Nan. I’ve told her what their doing anyway.

If people want to be stupid I’ll leave them be now, tbh it would of been for their own good as much as everyone else’s.

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SorryDidISayThatOutLoud · 14/04/2020 19:18

I'd report them as well. There is an advert that says something like 'six feet apart or six feet under'. People are crazy. They think it will never happen to them.

AnnUumellemahaye · 14/04/2020 19:23

They live a few doors down and have had relatives over but have said they are only in the garden and are sitting apart, also children have been running around.
I’m pregnant and self isolating and won’t go near them.

Then you will be absolutely fine.

LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 19:24

Report them OP. You could be saving many more than your Nan's life. Nobody will need to know it is you. Take care

opticaldelusion · 14/04/2020 19:36

Ooh, wonderful. Another 0800-snitch thread. We don't have enough. Report them at the very least. Actually shooting them is preferable.

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