Calling police?

[Catloveisreal]

I know the police are busy right now but I am very worried. My husband who has been living with OW since lockdown has texted saying he's coming back. There is no spare bed and my daughters are having panic attacks at the thought. My son can't bear the thought either. All older kids 16y plus. Husband is an emotional abuser and also appears to be very angry and possibly unstable. I want to stop him coming here and as I'm a care worker I really can't allow him in but he's extremely intimidating. Is it unreasonable to ask police to intervene?

An alternative to changing the locks is to add extra because if he's on the deeds as I understand it he should have a key. If you've put extra bolts on as a lone female with children in the house it's another way around it.
I know you have emailed your solicitor but please have a look at occupation orders via the links I gave you also look at a non molestation order

Yes and change the locks.

What a total piece of .... he is. Terrorising his older kids and you. I hate him just hearing that! He should NOT be allowed to get away with it.

Fenell do those links apply if we in Scotland x

I can check

I can't get clarity on the NCDV site, it's called an occupancy order in Scotland. You can apply through the sheriffs court. Please contact those two websites and if they can't help you they will know who can x

Your lawyer is the person to speak to here. You need a court order.

I am afraid the police advice is correct.
I changed the locks and my ex started to go crazy about it...demanding a key etc.
Technically as he owned half the property he could have broken in as was his legal right apparently.
Thankfully he did not attempt this and as he had been gone several weeks my arguement was that I was rntitled to privacey in my own home. Luckily he did not want to move back in he just wanted the control of having access to the property.
I actually think the police described it as a civil dispute or matter and it needed to be handled through the solicitor. My ex contacted the solicitor, but I never gave in, I also think the police had a word with him.
It is awful that he is harassing the children also as I know how this feels.
I hope he does not move back in, but I have a horrible feeling the law is on his side and he has not been away from the house for long.
I am sure if you are actually scared for your safety then it may be a different matter.
Please let us know how you get on.

Hi thank you to everyone who replied. He's still with OW and the tone of his texts are less crazy but it always comes in cycles..

Report him for harassment. Get a statement taken. Domestic related harassment. Get an emergency injunction.

Please don’t wait for him to show up. He is being harassing and attempting to rule by fear to you and your children.

Get the kids to block him.

Also speak to your solicitor and sort the housing situation. Sell the place if you have to, just get away from him and stop him having the power to pull these stunts

Block him on all
Of your children’s phones. And your phone. It isn’t right that he is harassing them

Can your children not block him on their phones? If they’re late teens they don’t need to speak to him or see him. Set up an email address just for him to contact them then they get to control what they have to endure.

Sounds like you need an injunction in place to keep him out of your home. Hope he stops harassing you.

Hi OP, how are things now? Have you made any progress?

He turned up here during the week and is living in a caravan in the garden. I've been tipped off he's trying to sell the place and has interested parties though he knows he needs my agreement. He is so twisted and doesn't care at all that the kids are terrified to lose their home.