AIBU to be furious at the arrogance!?😡

[The1andonly11]

My neighbours have their grown up son, girlfriend and granddaughter (2yr old) over to visit every day. Plus other grown up son has his girlfriend over to stay 50 per cent of the week.

We're close to our family and miss them terribly... especially today when we'd have all got together. Neighbours are all sitting round their garden table having a family BBQ

My 6 six year old misses his cousins. We are obeying the lockdown rules for obvious reasons so why aren't others? FFS!

Similar here. NDN has had both her kids, their partners and the grandkids (six of them) round this week, as well as some guys doing work in her garden. At one point, they were all in the garden at once, no social distancing at all.

She’s sending them round the back gate so other neighbours can’t see the comings and goings. Nonsense, just nonsense.

At least two of the neighbours on my road have had their adult children and grandchildren over. One family has them
Every day! It is frustrating because I would like to see my family.

But Amy is clearly bright and selfless, she went to volunteer teach in India and also in an orphanage in Romania.

Not like they have suffered enough.

Report them, every time. I reported my neighbours for having 3 separate sets of visitors today and one man came twice 5! They’re over 70 and no one was dropping anything off and they’re fit enough to have been doing their front garden all week so no care needs. I don’t care if that makes me a MN snitch!

Amy is struggling I hope she hasn't been banned MNHQ.
Some people do inflame when struggling, I've done it myself in the past as i admit MNHQ for your understanding.
Please allow her to continue posting, if people don't rise or better still, help her, I'm sure she'll be better sooner.

My neighbour has had her daughter and grandchildren around 3 times this week, shes only in her 50’s and in good health so they aren’t doing her shopping. Ive not seen my nearly 80 old dad for weeks and had Easter dinner without him, he lives on his own and missing us like mad. I don’t normally give a toss what other people do but it annoys me so much, the longer these idiots carry on the longer we will all go without our loved ones.

The curtain twitches are probably watching us too. My FILs electrics went so they stored food in the garage, walked through the garage and sat in the garden 2m away while we made them dinner (with gloves on using their food).

My mum was widowed two years ago and my brother moved out before this started. I'm very worried about her mental health (recovering alcoholic). I'm in the vulnerable category but we all think we've had it so very hard to turn away family in need. Just to be clear - can't control who else FIL sees but we were careful with distancing and mum is seeing no one else. Reckon the neighbours think we are assholes though.

Amymayapple Sun 12-Apr-20 19:34:26

because people have an individual choice

When your individual choice involves endangering others, should you really be so gung ho about your rights?

I mean, I have the right to do lots of things, but is it ok to ask others to pick up the pieces or suffer the consequences if I decide to, for instance, exercise my right to drive at the speed limit on a snowy motorway?

Is there any thought to 'responsibility' here? Any consideration of the fact that your relatives will still hopefully be around in a few weeks or months and you can visit each other then? Deferred gratification isn't an infringement of your rights.

YABU for missing your family terribly!!!!!!! They've not gone to war fgs!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get a grip ( and ignore others)

Two sets of Neighbours had family over visiting today. Visiting children playing in the gardens, no distancing at all. I’m living in fear of my partner coming home from work in nhs with the virus while I’m meant to be shielding and having to look after my two kids stuck in the house with me. I’ve not been further than my back door for weeks now and I hate the thought that I’m going to be stuck in even longer that the initial 12 weeks because these people needed to visit their relatives over Easter. So they may not have the virus yet but in no time it will be their turn and the more people disregard the rules, the longer lockdown will remain in place. It’s not easy for any of us ffs but some entitled twats feel their desire to visit relatives in the sunshine is more important than the survival of swathes of society angers me. What makes them so fucking special that they don’t have to follow the rules the rest of us do? I’d love to see my mum and dad right now. I’d love a hug from another adult human being but I’m not going to be getting that for another couple of months yet... maybe longer if people keep flouting the rules

@Amymayapple

Your reply is a wind up right? If it’s actually serious, you need to take a good hard look at yourself and think about how you’d feel if you passed the virus onto a loved one and they died alone in hospital. Would you e so stupid and arrogant then I wonder

What the hell? How is it unreasonable to miss your family? I miss mine and talking on the phone isn't the same. They may not have gone to war but they could still die.
I would report anyone breaking the rules,not just because I miss my family but because hopefully it'll make these people realise that the rules apply to them too.

@HebeMumsnet

I would also like to know what you mean by 'showing Amy the door'

Are people thrown off here for disagreeing with the status quo?

They certainly aren't thrown off here for being rude, insensitive, inflammatory or nasty that's for sure. A quick look at most threads will tell you that.

I think the majority of us are struggling . It's hard

I've not seen my mum or grandad for about 5 weeks now.

I haven't seen my grandchildren for about the same time

I have an autistic 7 year old who is struggling massively, as is he's 9 year old brother because all he does is scream because of the change of routine . We just have to get on with it , all those front line workers putting themselves at risk every day and some people can't even stick to the rules .

Obviously people who have caring duties for family members are different. My anxiety is through the bloody roof. Can't imagine what it's like for people who suffer witb their mh anyway.

(@ILoveJoeBrown*

Careful, chastising your “adult” children for idiotic behaviour during the lockdown makes you an abusive parent (according to some posters on MN). You’ll be getting yourself arrested for such abusive behaviour!

i am struggling to understand how we as a nation have become such snowflakes? When did that happen?

Callmeadoctor what has Snowflakes got to do with it?

My MiL is a prime example. BiL went to hers to drop off something she’d ordered - well he’d ordered so they sat in the back garden and had a chat and a coffee. But it’s ok cause she put it on the floor and he picked it up. DH said, yes, but who made it? You could give Covid to him and he’ll take it home to his family, who are all followi the rules or he could give it to you and kill you.
Then today DH FaceTimes her and our DD went round yesterday or Friday and had a coffee in the garden and looked through her photo album. We won’t even let DD in our house because she decided to stay at her boyfriends. We miss her but them’s the rules.
DS has asthma and is only in the last few months getting better with it after a few really tough years. I have asthma and am frontline working in ITU. I have moved into a different bedroom and we are staying socially distant within our own home to reduce the risk to DH and DS.
WTAF don’t they understand? My colleague’s husband died this week. Another colleague also died and his wife also a colleague is ill in hospital with it.
I am doing MiL’s shopping for her but she’s still going out. Don’t mind her going to the allotment but today she was askin gin DH to go down there with Ds and the dogs- she’s got chairs and she’d make sandwiches and a flask of coffee 🤦🏻‍♀️😡. I was in the background saying “no, you’re not allowed” and shaking my head and DH agrees with me but obviously didn’t want to upset her. So now I’m the bad guy for taking screenshots of the laws and putting them only on his family WhatsApp and not mine. But like I said, my family are following the rules- apart from DD who won’t be told anything hence why she won’t stay here. I am deleting with the lot of them.
I’m worried and scared every day going to work. DH and DS are too because they don’t want me to get it and die and all the other duckers are just carrying on like it’s a jolly holiday.

Sorry but this post is ridiculous and inflammatory. They caught a virus. She didn’t cause it or have any impact on their immune system.
They caught a virus... from someone. Unless you’re a front line worker, they quite probably caught a virus from someone not self isolating like these people. They then had to compete for hospital resources with others who also caught it from their own behaviours. They are absolutely causing the problem.

My fave post at moment.

@ChillinInMyBacta - AWESOME!

Until everyone starts realising how serious this is the whole country will suffer. The longer the location, more deaths etc.

leflic

Sorry but this post is ridiculous and inflammatory
They caught a virus. She didn’t cause it or have any impact on their immune system

You do realise that it is people that aren't following the guidelines that are spreading the virus around quicker? So of course people who have lost loved ones have every right to be angry at the selfish idiots, a few of which are on this thread! How dare you tell someone who has lost loved ones they are being ridiculous.

Amymayapple

Your reply is a wind up right? If it’s actually serious, you need to take a good hard look at yourself and think about how you’d feel if you passed the virus onto a loved one and they died alone in hospital. Would you e so stupid and arrogant then I wonder*

This is a real life question that this poster has consistently refused to answer.

Oh dear, bold fail there, apologies.