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AIBU to be furious at the arrogance!?😡

176 replies

The1andonly11 · 12/04/2020 18:52

My neighbours have their grown up son, girlfriend and granddaughter (2yr old) over to visit every day. Plus other grown up son has his girlfriend over to stay 50 per cent of the week.

We're close to our family and miss them terribly... especially today when we'd have all got together. Neighbours are all sitting round their garden table having a family BBQ

My 6 six year old misses his cousins. We are obeying the lockdown rules for obvious reasons so why aren't others? FFS!

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Scoobydoobywho · 12/04/2020 20:44

Our next-door but one neighbours have had non resident family or friends round this afternoon. The thing is not only are they Italians so the liklihood that they have probably lost a family member over in Italy. But he manages a restaurant, makes me wonder what else he is lacks about.

AndromedaPerseus · 12/04/2020 20:50

Sadly if my very average surburban street is representative of the country as a whole at least 1/3 of households are still seeing friends and relatives regularly. If the deaths continue to rise they will clamp down even more and we will be encouraged to report people breaking the rules

mrsBtheparker · 12/04/2020 20:54

It is breaking every human right out there.

Things like 'uman rights legislation only really works if everyone's playing by the same rules, it's like the Geneva Convention, it needs everyone in or it's useless. Personally I think that the more you flout laws the fewer 'uman rights you can claim, there needs to be a sliding scale.

Andante57 · 12/04/2020 20:55

Madame what has voting Tory got to do with this?

I wondered that. Care to answer, Madame?

dayswithaY · 12/04/2020 21:05

So many people bending the rules. A friend was boasting about the long, long bike ride they were going on and posted pics of their idyllic picnic in a farmer's field. When we pointed out how much was wrong with this she just said she would be happy to pay a fine as it was worth it to have a day out and what did it matter as no one would ever see them anyway? They are now busy making posters supporting the NHS to hang in their window. With absolutely no trace of irony. Not sure if they are arrogant or just thick.

Another friend says her son has dug out an old bike
from the shed and disappears for hours every day. When he comes back he eats all the chocolate in the house. She thinks he is just exercising.

Snugglepiggy · 12/04/2020 21:07

What infuriates me is that some of these idiots with friends and family over this weekend will be clapping the NHS on Thursday
Even worse applying for financial assistance from the government's rescue package whilst ignoring the guidelines

BootShakin · 12/04/2020 21:10

Amymayapple I sincerely hope that neither you or a member of your family dies because of your stupidity.

I think none of her household should be treated if they do get the virus. It's about not being controlled and being free don't ya know?

Disfordarkchocolate · 12/04/2020 21:13

In my street we have -

  • family and gardener have been to the house
  • pensioner couple who have family visiting
  • grandchildren visiting every few days
  • adult son visiting

I've lost and Aunt and a parent. Why are people being so reckless?

Bigjigsaw · 12/04/2020 21:14

As my Dh says you can't educate the stupid

JohnFinlaysNewTeeth · 12/04/2020 21:22

If you think this behaviour is acceptable you’re ignorant, stupid and selfish. “Lockdown is breaking people” and you know what else is breaking people, family members dying alone and in pain, nhs families being separated longer than they need to because people like @Amymayapple think they’re more important than everyone else while in fact they’re pond scum.

LagunaBubbles · 12/04/2020 21:27

understand why you're angry, but it really isn't your business

I hate seeing people trot this out. I think it's everyone's business to protect the staff on the NHS. People that aren't following the guidelines are putting them all at risk to, as well as themselves with their own stupid behaviour.

RumpoleoftheBaileys · 12/04/2020 21:31

@HebeMumsnet - what does "we've seen that poster to the door now" mean?

If she was a troll - fine, ban her;
If she wasn't - please explain?

(I obviously didn't agree with what she said, but would like clarification on the Mumsnet policies of moderating non-trolls)

GrandTheftWalrus · 12/04/2020 21:36

Right now I'm sitting in an entertainment venue that's getting changed into a hospital for the patients with covid 19. I don't want to see it used for this as its usually filled with people enjoying themselves. I hope it doesnt have to be used.

But its selfish fuckers like @Amymayapple that are going to make it be used.

DollyDaph10 · 12/04/2020 21:36

DH’s family (living abroad but still with social distancing in place) sent a pic of an Easter hunt and all hugs and kisses. Meanwhile we haven’t seen my family in 6 weeks as they live further than walking distance, we are following advice to not mix households and I’m pregnant & asthmatic. Really rubbed the salt in!

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MintyMabel · 12/04/2020 21:41

Again we have yet another complaint based solely on a childish whinge of how unfair it is that others are doing something the OP isn’t doing.

Surely the only reason to be upset at people not following the rules is because it is putting people at risk? Or is lockdown turning people into selfish whiny brats?

Lynda07 · 12/04/2020 21:46

DollyDaph10 Sun 12-Apr-20 21:36:48
DH’s family (living abroad but still with social distancing in place) sent a pic of an Easter hunt and all hugs and kisses. Meanwhile we haven’t seen my family in 6 weeks as they live further than walking distance, we are following advice to not mix households and I’m pregnant & *asthmatic. Really rubbed the salt in!
......
They were probably trying to cheer you up! Obviously a wrong decision but I doubt they meant to rub anything in.

Please try not to be bitter, it will spoil your pregnancy. One day everything will be back to some kind of normal.

Do you not like being at home, no garden perhaps but most people are allowed to go out for a walk as long as they keep their distance from others and a bit of fresh air is good for asthma and for you generally.

Good luck.

Flowers
DollyDaph10 · 12/04/2020 21:51

I should have said they were 3 households all mixing! So my annoyance was more that they aren’t following the guidance and have potentially put out lovely niece at risk

Leflic · 12/04/2020 21:52

Just do what you think is right.

If other people aren’t complying let the law deal with them.

It’s all you can do. Time will tell.

Leflic · 12/04/2020 21:56

This week, three of my relatives have died, alone in hospital, from covid. Thanks to selfish, idiotic cunts like you more will do so over the coming weeks.
You're a fucking disgrace.

Sorry but this post is ridiculous and inflammatory.
They caught a virus. She didn’t cause it or have any impact on their immune system.

Teaandbiscuitsallday · 12/04/2020 22:05

Well amy, do what ever then. You will have to deal with the consequences. It's an immature attitude to have , extremely nasty and selfish . You could be very ill , die ,.kill numerous others. How can you say your human basic rights are being taken away and that is more important than actually using your brain , swallow your pride , grow up and do the right thing!!

WhereIsTheLove1234 · 12/04/2020 22:09

If their son lives with them and his girlfriend is bringing the child to see his father then it’s allowed. Children are allowed to go to both parents houses if they don’t live together. Unless I’ve misunderstood and the son doesn’t live with them.

misscockerspaniel · 12/04/2020 22:10

I wonder if the poster bleating about human rights watches the news and see the stories about those who have lost their lives due to this virus. And I want to ask the poster - is ignorance bliss?

Livelovebehappy · 12/04/2020 22:10

Don’t understand why people even engage with idiots on these posts. Do you really think someone who is happy to flout the law and mix with others not recognising social distancing, is really going to possess an IQ high enough to understand and rationalise as to why it’s wrong? You can’t argue with stupid I’m afraid.

WhippedCreamInARoll · 12/04/2020 22:13

I've visited my Mum every day for the past week. I sit in her garden 2m apart. I'd rather not (DH are both wfh with young children) but I've been asked to by my Mum's care team. My Mum has mental health problems and was not coping on her own at all. She was calling her care team, the GP, 111, 999 because she thinks she has covid. So I've been told that I can leave my home, walk to my Mum's home and sit with her in her garden for an hour each day to keep her calm (and to stop her calling everyone else). Phonecalls weren't working. We suggested weeks ago that she stay with us but she refused. She is generally well enough to cope on her own quite happily (regular visits and support from us aside) but these are not normal times.

These threads are hard to read. Obviously some people are just twats but I don't doubt the curtain twitchers are watching me too.

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