To tell elderly neighbour just to use this online shop

[Orangeblossom78]

I have been emailed to say we can have a recurring online delivery slot due to DH's medical conditions, every week at the same time until October.

However it is with Asda. Have only used them for my parents before. Anyway it seems as I'm on their email system they contacted me.

Thing is I have been shopping for elderly neighbour who is not leaving their house, and they just want things like specific salads and bread from M&S or certain coffees from Waitrose. Also newspapers from a certain newsagent all on different days etc

So, now we have this slot is is unreasonable to say I can oder them some stuff with it also and they will have to make do with that?

Maybe they can arrange their newspaper to be delivered also and prescription. Not sure. I have their daughter's number who rang to thank me for sorting out their mum's shopping etc. But they don't seem to be helping with redirecting things and the mother doesn't use internet etc.

There was an old thread linked elsewhere about really anal and uptight in-laws and parents from a few years ago, it was chock full of stories about people who have to buy this particular brand of something from this shop, this other thing from this other shop, people who refuse to use the internet or drive, people with super fixed routines etc. which made me think...how are these very rigid and inflexible people coping if they're shielding!?

No good deed goes unpunished OP, you're doing a nice thing offering the ASDA slot and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Do what you can and that's enough (especially if you're shielding a family member yourself!)

You may enjoy this OP - I think you've got one of these on your hands:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/1651633-Omg-such-anality-from-pil-Come-and-share-your-anal-behaviour-stories-lighthearted

OP- You cant complain, because you have offered to continue doing this!!! Rather than asking the neighbours daughter to do online shopping for her own mother, you have said nothing except you will continue doing it!!!

The fact your OH has a delivery slot means that HE is high risk, yet you seem more concerned about helping the neighbour, when she already has family that can help. Why are you jeopardising your OH's health- shopping around, handing over shopping, taking cash???

Zia yes it is like that. Down to the doilies etc for tea and cake. Maybe it is a way of being on control not sure. Thanks for the link!

I've just fixed my neighbours laptop and wrote instructions so that they could use my asda slot. We prefer sainsburys and had been adding stuff on for them but we're aware it's a bit more expensive and they're creatures of habit (go to asda every sunday at 8.45) so thought the familiarity of asda would maybe be better.

I wouldn't be going to several shops for specific things, that's totally taking the piss.

I have managed to get her to buy milk, just 'a pint to see what it's like'. It's milk