To be so frustrated at the supermarket

[MinnieAnonyMouse]

I'm just so fed up. We've been observing lockdown really carefully but going to the supermarket just makes me despair.

DH is a nurse but I work from home so to try and keep delivery slots for those who really need them I go and shop once a week. There are so many people either trying to cheat the system or just ignoring it completely. A shop assistant was periodically shouting that only one person could come in per trolley / household but so many couples / families were there. These people then stood separately, got two trollies and walked round together. I completely understand about single parents etc. but there was a family behind me with both parents and three kids. Why on earth would you drag your kids round? There was also a woman who had apparently arranged to meet a friend or family member - they got out of their cars and queued up together for a good old natter. No thought to distance.

Likewise, the shop has put a one way system in place with arrows but the vast majority seemed to ignore totally, wander where they want and if you were where they wanted to be, no matter, just lean across you rather than wait.

I'm worried about DH given his work and this total lack of thought just makes me so cross.

I know IABU for being angry about something I can do nothing about but AIBU to hope that people would have more bloody sense

@QuestionableMouse I am really sorry to hear of your mother's disabilities but doesn't this situstion highlight the need for your fsther to begin to know where to start with the weekly shopping. How hard is it to follow a list. How easy is it to facilitate sexism.

It's interesting on threads about shopping at the moment: half of people say their supermarket is awful due to people coming too close and not respecting social distancing, the other half say the one they go to is great and there are no problems. It makes me wonder if actually they're all in the same shop - presumably the awful, non-social-distancing people in the first supermarket didn't think there was a problem!

@CasperGutman hahaha good point... I think u nailed it

I went to Sainsbury's the other day, goodness it was stressful, no one really knows what they are doing so it just ends up a mess.

My local Tesco has a one way system, but it doesn't work, you come in half way up an aisle, there are three aisles, if you want milk and chocolate loo roll or tea bags you end up having to try and get past the people queuing to pay.

DH can go next time.

Staff are working and have no choice to be there. Customers can go later in the day when its quiet. Without staff you wouldn't be able to get your food and were at risk more than ever. Customers need to keep away from other customers and staff. They should close the aisle down till staff have finished but cannot see them doing that

femail You're making the mistake of assuming everyone lives somewhere shops are open long enough to have quieter times. Here they open 9am-3pm and are rammed the entire time as a result, the same numbers would go the usual opening hours spread out but it's been decided to squash them all into six hours meaning there's always a massive queue now.

I've no choice but to go in mornings anyway as that's when my conditions are the most stable, especially this time of year when warmer weather is a major trigger for my conditions.

Staff can't demand when customers shop. Especially not when opening times are so heavily restricted.

I can't move away from a physically fit and healthy staff member whose decided to lean over me or block the aisle right in front of me trapping me between him and another customer. It's not difficult. In a shop where only two are allowed you wait until I've finished, not come up to me, within 2m insisting I squeeze past.

That staff member gets to wear a mask and gloves. I don't.

My point is it's everyone's responsibility. But as long as staff ignore the rules they don't get to complain others do too, and certainly don't get to expect customers to move away from them. Everyone in the shop is at risk just by being there.