Am I allowed to help 80 year old mother look after bed bound father

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I know you will all roll your eyes at this, but dad was meant to have a care package out in place after release from hospital early march, but due to covid nothing was done, he is bed bound and mum can't toilet him or deal with his demands.

My sister who usually lives at home is a doctor and since vivid has resided close to the London hospital she works at.

District nurse comes weekly but can't get carers in till after covid.

I'm leaving groceries etc and paying their bills but mum needs a break and I know it's a risk going over morning and night to dress and tend to dad but I feel I'm trapped.

Mum is beyond exhausted.

Oh the op didnt even mention the situation. I was a bit confused why anyone would ask. It makes more sense now with the extra information.

Well sorry op as you did not mention any of that only about whether to offer care or not.
It came across in your op that way.

Like many of the questions on mumsnet since lock down, of people asking questions of what they can or cannot do, when it is actually quite clear from the regulations.

Anyway sorry, that this is a more difficult situation, so I would say offer help if you are able to and willing to. You know more about how you feel in this situation. Good luck with what you decide.

EKGEMS
More than you could ever realise, I know that. I also know when or why I would not offer care and was in this situation a few years ago and did not offer care to a father that abandoned me.

However that is not what was in the op. It was framed as a quite basic question, as should she offer care with regards her household, the lock down and she mentioned the mp that had been in the news.

Of course you are allowed to help. Most 80nyear old need some care of their own.