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Original poster

To get two shopping slots in two days to gift one to my neighbour

41 replies

FullOfCake · 11/04/2020 07:36

So we've done our shopping, we are extremely lucky and grateful. I have asthma and a newborn and a two year old, DH is a keyworker (not NHS but essential). We've been getting home deliveries for years so have a pass. Our edit time is now up, as we are asked to leave 72hours for fulfilment. We've added a few bits and bobs for others down our road who are vulnerable. However a family over the street have also health conditions but are unable to get a food shop delivered home and need a full shop. I can get them one the next day after ours. Would I BU to get it delivered here on our pass and then walk it across the street? I have no moral issues but sense the curtain twitching... Am I really being selfish having two here in two days??

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EssentialHummus · 11/04/2020 07:41

Do it, no one in their right mind will care. In future possibly add their shopping to yours and have one delivery? Better all round.

Dilbertian · 11/04/2020 07:42

Can you order it for delivery to their address?

HarrySnotter · 11/04/2020 07:42

Not selfish if you're giving it to other people. Can you change the address on the order so it goes straight to them? You'd need to edit the order anyway to suit their needs.

We've been getting home deliveries for years so have a pass.

I have to ask how you got a pass? Which supermarket is this with? I ask because I'm a keyworker (though shielding at the moment) and have a child with an autoimmune condition. I've been getting my weekly shopping delivered by the same supermarket for about 12 years and had no idea a pass was possible.

TriangleBingoBongo · 11/04/2020 07:43

Can’t you just add their stuff to your slot? That’s what I’ve been doing for my neighbour. He sends me a list.

TriangleBingoBongo · 11/04/2020 07:44

Sorry your edit time is up, I don’t see the problem with this. I have done the same for my parents with a click and collect when I saw a slot. I’ve collected it and dropped it off to them. I let them use my account and they’ve paid me back.

For a neighbour I probably wouldn’t want them using my account though.

GertiMJN · 11/04/2020 07:44

Change the delivery address on your order.

howmuchfood · 11/04/2020 07:46

I don't see how this is any different than buying food for any other neighbour on the street

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FullOfCake · 11/04/2020 07:49

@GertiMJN I thought about this but I'm terrified of hitting the edit delivery button in case I bodge it up and lose the slot. They love opposite us so could get the driver to leave on the lawn and carry it over ourselves

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TemoraryUsername · 11/04/2020 07:50

The limited resource here is the delivery slots- so many households who have been told to shield, can't get them. What about combining the two shopping lists and get them in one slot not two, therefore leaving the other slot free - and use Internet banking to sort the money?

HarrySnotter · 11/04/2020 07:50

@TriangleBingoBongo depends which supermarket - Tesco have a limit of 80 items (not products - so if you buy 3 tins of beans that's classed as 3 items).

Original poster
FullOfCake · 11/04/2020 07:51

In future we can try and add to ours.

I guess MN has got to me seeing so much bashing about deliveries. I know it will look bad the van pulling up outside twice in two days

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TemoraryUsername · 11/04/2020 07:53

Oh I didn't take in the edit time and the fact that you're talking about this week - yeah I'd be okay with that for this week, and then try to combine theirs and your shopping into one slot in future?

Original poster
FullOfCake · 11/04/2020 07:53

@HarrySnotter morrisons

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HarrySnotter · 11/04/2020 07:54

I shouldn't think anyone will even notice OP. If they're sitting looking out their window they'll see you take the shopping straight over to your neighbour anyway.

HarrySnotter · 11/04/2020 07:57

@HarrySnotter morrisons

I guessed as much - I've been using Tesco for years and hadn't been able to get a slot for weeks. My friend uses Morrisons and has been able to get a slot every two and half weeks or so and because there's no limit on products she can buy enough to get them through without taking up another slot in between. I think I may defect when this is all over. 😁

8by8 · 11/04/2020 07:58

If anybody does notice, they’ll also see you taking the groceries over the road to your neighbours so will understand that you’re helping out.

I’d do it.

Floatyboat · 11/04/2020 07:58

Yabu. Just add their shopping to yours. Not fair on other people to be this wasteful. Why do you need delivery any way? People that can should queue for an hour to get into Asda should queue for an hour.

Floatyboat · 11/04/2020 07:59

Also, I'm a keyworker with young children and manage to go to the supermarket. Really not hard tbh.

disorganisedsecretsquirrel · 11/04/2020 08:02

I don't think you are doing anything to be ashamed of. In fact is this not just kind neighbourliness?

I am on the extremely vulnerable list and I have to say I think the care of people like me has been exceptional. To the extent that I am a bit overwhelmed with emails from NHS Coronavirus service and offers of slots from supermarkets. So, like you , I have shared my slots with elderly neighbours who are not tech savvie /are not on internet and therefore not able to access the same services as me.

TriangleBingoBongo · 11/04/2020 08:04

@HarrySnotter yes, I’ve had to share with my neighbour if we both want the same things. Also keep telling him that he can’t have multiples of things yet he continues to ask for 6 or 4 of things!

TabbyMumz · 11/04/2020 08:09

I honestly cant get carried away over who gets their shopping delivered and who doesnt. In our street only one family seems to get food delivered, everyone else goes to the shop. I dont understand all this about passes and slots, it's like a different language.

TabbyMumz · 11/04/2020 08:11

"Also keep telling him that he can’t have multiples of things yet he continues to ask for 6 or 4 of things!"

There arent many restrictions on things in the shops anymore.

quiteathome · 11/04/2020 08:11

I think it is fine- if being used for something like that.

Although I have been good and not using online delivery. I really wanted to try and get a slot as I am now self isolating for two weeks for the second time- I tried staying up late last night to get a click and collect in a couple of weeks.

Due to getting ill twice with the same thing. I can't get a prime now slot, or a supermarket slot. Someone I know has had two supermarket slots in a week with another booked. I am unsure as to how they manage it.

That is life. And once we are not self isolating anymore I can go back to the supermarket.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 11/04/2020 08:15

You lucky bugger! I can't get a slot for love nor money.

Yes - gift one to your neighbour - it's a lovely thing to do.

WutheringTights · 11/04/2020 08:17

I don't think there's much difference between getting two slots and adding their shopping to yours to be honest. The limiting factor is the size of the vans. With people ordering more stuff they can't fit as many deliveries in the vans so they can't deliver to as many households without hiring more staff and getting more vans. Where before a round might be, for example, 20 houses, with bigger shops they can now only fit, say, 15 houses worth of shopping in the van.

The last few deliveries we've had have been over an hour early because they're doing fewer deliveries per round as they can't fit them in the van.

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