Will the baby be ok sharing our bedroom?

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I’m just looking for advice. My partner and I had recently managed to by a one bedroom flat and then found out I was pregnant (I wasn’t supposed to be able to conceive so overjoyed but unexpected!) we live in London and this is where my partners business is and all of our support systems are so moving too far away isn’t really possible. We are looking to move to Kent.

we have two choices; move very shortly and I must return to work shortly to do this (our son is now 5 months old) or stay put in our one bedroom flat with our son sharing our bedroom in his own cotbed and I can take an extra year off to be at home with him.

I’m a teacher so returning to work would be in September 2021 when he would be 23 months old. But he would share a bedroom with us until he was 23 months old. He’s likely to be our only child due to my issues conceiving. I don’t want to miss raising him to work unnecessarily but worry him sharing our bedroom for nearly 2 years may be unhealthy and unfair on him. We could afford to move when I return to work but not before then. Does anyone have any advice or experience with this?

Thank you so much for your time :-)

I type this with my 18 month old snuggled beside me and 3 empty bedrooms throughout the house 🙂 it's absolutely normal to have them in your room, congratulations! My only advice would be to think clever about storage and the baby equipment you buy between now and the birth,We lived initially in a small flat when baby was born and the only thing I found hard was where to out all the bulky stuff. You won't need a full size cot for a few months, get a Moses basket or next2me crib and only get the cot when you are ready to move baby over.

We lived in a 1 bed flat till my dd was nearly 2. Then moved to a 2 bed house but she still stayed in our room for a couple of months, then gradually moved into her room.

Later on if things got abit cramped when and if he needed a toddler bed, could you make the bedroom his with his toys, still your cupboards etc, and the front room some nice sofa beds and you and partner sleep in there and just pack the sofa up every morning?

Just an idea?

If that's not feasable, in with you isn't a problem at all...

Much nicer to spend the baby years at home with him rather than having to rush back to work

It’s absolutely fine. Japanese children aren’t expected to sleep alone until they’re about 8. Obviously it would be nice to give your ds a bedroom before then. But it isn’t essential for a very young child.

Given the amount of time spent feeding and getting up to a baby I had mine in my bedroom too.
We had a cot and it was big enough to feel spacious.
With the current covid pandemic I would scrap going back to work have time at home and relax.
These years are demanding at times and teething so also consider how you will find that.
I had no kiddy stuff except a nice mobile and cot.
No child cosying up in a cot with a parent is neglected.
Read your update your enjoying parenting so Enjoy!