To not give my mum my address?

[Tsubasa1]

My mother is driving me to the end of my tether. Ever since before the lockdown started she has been asking me for my address to send me god knows what... stuff for the kids, eastsr eggs and books are things she has mentioned. I fear she is just using it as an excuse to go to the post office (to get out of the house). She says its safe because people keep their distance there.
In my opinion its taking an unecessary risk because i dont need those things right now and id preffer if she sent me then after this whole thing is over.
I live abroad and we are in lockdown. But people here dont understand social distancing that well and whoever brings us the package might come close to us within 2 metres or less.
On a side note: my mum is 64 and she has kept volunteering at the food bank because apparently there aren't enough volunteers. This is putting her at great risk but she doesn't care one bit.
YABU: Give her your address!!
YANBU: Dont give her your address until after lockdown.

You are not unreasonable. Your mother is putting herself at great risk which volunteering at the food bank is a good thing but still risky behavior. By all the extra packages she is putting you and others at risk. Also,when we lived overseas we didn't tell anyone our address. It was pointless

Well thank goodness your mum has continued to volunteer at the food bank as you sound completely neurotic and obviously only care about yourself and couldn’t give two hoots about anyone else. Unlike your mother.
Good on you op.

@Tsubasa1 how did you forget! Does she live locally to you?

@Leaannb thanks. I don't mind her volunteering even though it worries me to death. Even 1 unecessary package is one too far in my opinion!

It’s weird to not give her your address.

@Lillylouise89 she lives in the UK and i live abroad (in Turkey)

Why on earth are you being so mean or is there another reason you don’t like or love your Mum?

@giggly Thats harsh! I care about other people but I'm just worried about her cathing the virus. I think its great she volunteers of course!

It’s your address, you don’t have to give it to anyone if you don’t feel comfortable doing so.
Ask your mother to save the things she wants to send, as something for your family to look forward to once this situation has eased.
It sounds as though she desperately wants to feel useful and needed, this may be her way of coping.

@Pumpkinpie1 of course I love my mum dearly! YABU!

Just tell her the postal service wherever you are is currently suspended x

@Samtsirch wow thank you I hadn't seen it that way! I wish there was a way I could help her cope that didn't involve 'risky behaviour' in these times...

Sooooo bizarre!

@strawberry2017 good idea!

Judging the the poll and the comments, I'm taking social distancing too seriously?

@Tsubasa1
But why didn’t you give all your friends and family your new address when you knew you were moving? That’s normal behaviour surely?!
I have moved house 4 times in 5 years, every time I told people the new address before I moved. Why wouldn’t you, lockdown or not?

Initially I didnt know my address because its not written on the deed of the house and where i live (Turkey) the names of the streets arent signposted. I only managed to find my address later on on my water bill. Weird!

@Megan2018

Initially I didnt know my address because its not written on the deed of the house and where i live (Turkey) the names of the streets arent signposted. I only managed to find my address later on on my water bill. Weird!

Very weird

Initially I didnt know my address because its not written on the deed of the house and where i live (Turkey) the names of the streets arent signposted. I only managed to find my address later on on my water bill. Weird!

Eh?!

Did you have to take the estate agent (or equivalent) and point at the house, as you couldn't tell them the address? What did you sign for when you bought it?

And how did the postman know where to deliver the water bill? So many questions

YANBU

YANBU OP

I understand where you’re coming from with not wanting your Mum to have your address at the moment because she will just use it as an excuse to go to the post office unnecessarily.

We used to live abroad and the amount of crap my in laws and my Parents sent us was ridiculous, it must have cost them a fortune too - think hideous pretend stuffed cat (for 2 grown adults) WITH those large square batteries posted all the way from UK to Australia ffs. Then there was the hammock (to be attached to 2 trees) when we lived in an apartment 🤷‍♀️

We won’t rush to give our address if we move abroad again 😬

@Batshittery the estate agent brought me to the house to see it... not the other way around! actually not all the streets have names they are just numbered on maps but irl they are not signposted. Life in developing countries is different from the UK. Oh and water guy comes here to deliver the bill.