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Group of 6 teenagers sitting on grass verge drinking cider from cans

66 replies

Jenasaurus · 10/04/2020 16:51

Outside my flat, not the same household and not 2 metres apart. Is it unreasonable of me reporting them.

OP posts:
TomHardysCBBC · 10/04/2020 17:51

And well done to you OP. You should feel proud of yourself. Or not.

slashlover · 10/04/2020 17:51

Can you not name them without a photo? If not, how do you know they aren't the same household?

slashlover · 10/04/2020 17:53

Wow your a prize bitch arnt you TomHardyBBC your a great member of this forum with your helpful advice

Whereas you sound lovely OP

Davespecifico · 10/04/2020 17:54

Of course report. Doesn’t matter what the OP’s motivation is. They are potential spreaders of the virus. They’re sitting, which could spread the virus. They’re drinking meaning judgement could be impaired. They’re out with people from different households meaning more potential to spread.
Glad you’ve reported OP.

Frozenfan2019 · 10/04/2020 17:54

sonichu why do you not know who she would report them to? We are all encouraged to report people not following government guidelines. They are risking their lives and the lives of many others. The police will probably respond.

OP people are being prickly about this I think because there are so many similar threads. Yes, though, reporting is the right thing to do.

Calmdowndeary · 10/04/2020 17:55

This is why I roll my eyes about the youth having it hard. Round my way, it’s business as usual

TomHardysCBBC · 10/04/2020 17:55

I think it's you that's the 'bitch' OP. Salivating over reporting teenagers when you have no idea just how shit their life is at home or why they're doing what they're doing.

You seem like the kind of person who would want to report that anyway but CV has in your view, given you a legitimate reason.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 10/04/2020 17:57

you have no idea just how shit their life is at home or why they're doing what they're doing.

Well it’s not going to get any better if the little toe rags end up killing a vulnerable relative, is it?

lazylinguist · 10/04/2020 18:00

Not sure how the drink or the fact that it's in cans is particularly relevant tbh.

Sonichu · 10/04/2020 18:01

"sonichu why do you not know who she would report them to? We are all encouraged to report people not following government guidelines. They are risking their lives and the lives of many others. The police will probably respond."

Because the only time I've ever anyone saying they're going to "report" anyone is on MN.

Iamblossom · 10/04/2020 18:04

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Iamblossom · 10/04/2020 18:05

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Harrysmum2020 · 10/04/2020 18:06

Well my neighbours in the next garden are having a party with music and friends and half my street are on a doorstep together with a car blaring music and eating. It’s actually usually a quiet street it seems being told you can’t do something is making people worse so I feel your pain op but I’m sure the police haven’t got time for this.

Davespecifico · 10/04/2020 18:15

Report them Harrysmum. Police are breaking up multiple parties and bbqs because these people could be spreading the virus.

TomHardysCBBC · 10/04/2020 18:15

@T0tallyFuckedUpFamily. For some sadly, life would get better. But that's my view. It doesn't mean they'd want to lose a parent or carer or that they would think life would be better without them.

But if you're being abused every fucking day or exposed to DV (on the rise under COVID) or your alcoholic parent puking and pissing on themselves, or withdrawing from heroin (just a small example of what many teens are going through ) which is bad enough normally when you can get out of the house most of the time, then wanting to get out and 'would life be better if a vulnerable relative died' doesn't come into it. Because they're teens and not adults and not thinking that far ahead. They just want to be safe for today.

Flopdrop · 10/04/2020 18:17

I wouldn't take photos but damn right I would report them. A lot of people are bending the rules, but something like that is obviously wrong and dangerous.

IAmReportingYouForBBQing · 10/04/2020 18:19

To be clear, the police didnt set up a website because they particularly care about reported breaches of corona virus lockdown. They did it because people were actually calling 999 and 101 to report the most trivial of SUSPECTED breeches and preventing actual crimes from being reported. Not to mention malcious reports.So the website was set up in the hope that the curtain twitchers would all gleefully use that to their hearts content and still get their "competitive quarantine" buzz from reporting the lesser people who have the audacity to even look like they could be breaking the rules.

Ultimately it takes a very specific type of person to inform the police about their neighbours behaviour and movement patterns etc. And I am very glad I am not that person. It is the government that has let us end up in this situation and now they have turned it into sneaks reporting on their fellow neighbour anonymously and without compunction. Anne Frank wouldnt have lasted a week in the UK these days.

Be honest OP, you were desperate to report those teens and would have done it even without the other mumsnetters lining up beside you with their virtual little pitchforks. All of you, just recognise that thing inside yourselves and see it for what it is. Its jealousy and bitterness that they do not feel the same pressure to comply as you do. That is what triggers all these reports. Not Being Interested In Doing The Right Thing.

WakeAndBake · 10/04/2020 18:20

We are all encouraged to report people not following government guidelines.

Denounce the evil-doers!

Increase your social credit score!

We are ALL watching.

Incontinencesucks · 10/04/2020 18:25

I think they'll be a lot of this this weekend and the next month will result in a surge of people ill as these lot and their like go forth.

Incontinencesucks · 10/04/2020 18:29

Very sadly an elderly gentleman down my road is very ill and his grandson, who was caught messing with other households and purposefully getting in other peoples faces as 'a laugh' is beside himself. Apparently he 'didn't think it would happen'. He's a bloody shit if I'm honest but he posted on fb page near here to admit what a dick he's been so good for him. Just shame for his ganda, hopefully he'll be ok. Obviously no idea if he gave his GD something but it's certainly playing on his mind.

Flopdrop · 10/04/2020 18:41

IAmReportingYouForBBQing Are you serious? A group of six people who dont live together drinking cider without social distancing is in any way acceptable to you?

WakeAndBake · 10/04/2020 18:45

@ flopdrop

If only there was a hotline to report on people who were not enthusiastic enough about reporting other people!

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 10/04/2020 18:47

Many teens and younger children are vulnerable, it's true. But it is perhaps a little condescending to assume that every group of teens acting the asshole are escaping something terrible. Statistically, most are just naturally thoughtless and terrible at assessing risk.

IAmReportingYouForBBQing · 10/04/2020 18:47

@flopdrop I didnt say it was acceptable. I said the way the country is turning against the neighbours is despicable. CUrtain twitchers watching everybody coming and going, reporting anonymously. That sort of behaviour is insidious and will last a lot longer than coronavirus. All I said was the people that DO report things should actually address the reasons why. And if they are honest, they won't like what they see. So of course they won't even try and will contiue on with the pious " I self quarantine better than you" rhetoric .

IAmReportingYouForBBQing · 10/04/2020 18:48

And I am curious how the op knows they dont live together? could be from a blended family. Could be from a shared student house. Could be from a care home.