Neighbours having a BBQ

[paulhollywoodshairgel]

Twice in the last week our neighbours have have friends and kids over for back garden BBQs. AIBU to report it? Husband is reluctant because he doesn't want any aggro with them.

It just feels so unfair. Why do they get to see friends and carry on as normal? I'd love to see my friends and family but we are adhering to the lockdown.

Just needed to vent as I'm so cross.

@LovePoppy Two things can be true at the same time. It is common sense that those not doing the right thing are putting lives in danger. And, it is also common sense that it is not fair on those of us who do the right thing and don't socialise. Both are true at the same time.

@Tealwater, I didn’t say it wasn’t.

I said complaining about fairness and reporting can come across as vindictive.

Again I should have been clearer. Of course I am also concerned about the infection of others. I have had the virus and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

That coupled with the unfairness of it was what I was getting at. My dad is in his own out in the sticks and I'd love to see him but I wouldn't risk his health.

FYI- the neighbours on the other side went round and told them off! Obviously more vocal than I am!! I'm unfortunately not very good at confrontation

I agree, OP. I've had the virus too, I'm still recovering from it now. It really felt as if I was slipping into unconsciousness at one point, it was as if I was drowning. I don't understand why so many people don't get how dangerous and infectious it is.

And yet all some posters are worrying about is a 'police state'. Other European countries have stricter lockdown measures than we have, they're temporary measures to stop a pandemic.

Report them, my neighbours are still having visitors as normal not just a quick drop off of provisions but the family members are going into their homes & staying there for a few hours, I’ve reported quite a few times but am just sent a generic email saying thanks, nothing is being done at all!

Report it! Why do some people think they're above abiding by the rules? The sooner those feckless idiots are stopped, the sooner the rest of stand a chance of seeing our very much missed family and friends.

Report the fuckers

I posted similar a few days ago. I couldn't believe it. It really upset me as I'd love to see my family and friends but I would never ever risk it.
Now my neighbours on the other side are doing the same thing. I'm livid!
Maybe one person does it, they see nothing happens, so others do it too.
What does the news and government have to do to get it to sink in?

The problem is the police just don’t want to know, they have asked people to stop ringing them about what your neighbours are up to!!
They just don’t have a the man power.

Utter dick heads im do bored of the ignorant chavs its depressing

Do those responding with 'mind your own business' not realise that this is not a usual situation and actually it is everyone's business? Their behaviour is having a direct impact on spreading infection, on putting hospitals under more pressure and unnecessarily endangering key workers of all sorts; in inevitably dragging this shitty situation on for longer, keeping our children at home for without proper social interaction, participating in hobbies or formal education and depriving them of their grandparents and other extended family members, keeping people out of employment, putting vulnerable people who rely on carers at further risk, in damaging the economy - for which we will all be picking up the tab for who knows how long? It is everyone's concern, they're is not one person who is unaffected by these selfish fuckers' actions.

off for a glass of wine now!

My neighbours had a party a few days ago and there were a fair few 'outsiders' that when to it so I reported them and the police came, broke it up and ticketed them. They did it before last week and I ignored it but couldn't this time (tiny tiny part of me did it for revenge as they keep parking on my driveway and blocking me in) but I just couldn't sit by and let it happen again, there were people in the street, kids running around, leaning on cars that weren't theirs.

Those types of people are why this is spreading, plus I'm extremely vulnerable as are many on my street so it's very worrying.

For all those thinking but they friends and I'm reluctant to report just think of nearly 1000 deaths in 24 hours including an 11 yr old .

Can't you accidentally on purpose go out and water your garden and aim the hose pipe over the fence and over their bbq and the people. You could say oops we were having a water fight in ours!

Its all of our business. They could spread it further than their fuckwit friends.

@LyndaSnellsSniff exactly, hypocrites, like my neighbours, one on furlough other on disability (about as disabled as David beckham but that’s another story) out praising key workers and nhs clapping yet they know we are both key workers but preventing us from sleeping with their loud music at night.

There will be so many out clapping NHS and keyworkers and then not following the guidance or giving a crap! 😡

So many people aren't following the rules and no wonder the numbers are still going up.
I saw three taxi drivers all chatting looking at each other's phones having a great chat.
We are at the merci of a deadly virus but the rules only apply to some I guess.

@Crumpetsforthequeen well done and I'm glad the police took action.

I’m in the same boat, op. Our neighbours are having friends and family visiting, there have been different ones there the last 7 days out of nine and I’ve lost track of the times they’ve gone out visiting (not come back with shopping). But I’m in two minds whether to report them because we still have to live here and we are their only joined on neighbours, they would know it was us that reported them.

i would report them in a heartbeat, it wouldn't even occur to me not to, provided anonymity was assured.

I was agreeing with your anger and frustration until it was clear that the main reasons for being upset and wanting to report is that you think it's unfair and you're envious of their flouting of rules (and yes - I saw your the later comment clarifying that's not it...)

When it's coming from envy, I'd say stay out of it is probably the best course of action

100% report it!

YDNBU, I agree, report it. I get on really well with my neighbours and reported them yesterday for the same thing, the police turned up, gave them all a warning and kicked out anyone that doesn't live there. My neighbours didn't have a clue it was us

My daughter and grandchildren live nearby and I love them dearly. I haven't seen them or anybody else in 2 weeks and it's so awful, but I know we all have to isolate in order to get through this terrible ordeal. When I hear of selfish, self obsessed, ignorant morons it makes my blood boil. Who do they think they are....!!!! Are they more important than everybody else. They would be the first ones to wail and cry and demand attention if they were infected with this terrible virus......DO WHAT YOU ARE TOLD TO DO and this terrible time in our lives will be over with sooner than later......and I would Inform the authorities if there were any parties/gatherings in my neighbourhood......

Report it 100%

This is not the time to worry about confrontation. There’s a park over the back of my fence and groups of lads (about 8 of them) happily playing football, drinking, smoking etc. Rang 101 without hesitation and posted on our FB community page. I’d do it again too.

Cheeky fuckers, how dare they. I’m delivering food to the doorstep of my mum and we are standing in her front garden chatting 3 metres away through the window. Bloody difficult but it has to be done.

Get photos, email them to the police too.