Neighbours having a BBQ

[paulhollywoodshairgel]

Twice in the last week our neighbours have have friends and kids over for back garden BBQs. AIBU to report it? Husband is reluctant because he doesn't want any aggro with them.

It just feels so unfair. Why do they get to see friends and carry on as normal? I'd love to see my friends and family but we are adhering to the lockdown.

Just needed to vent as I'm so cross.

I am having the same issue, family visiting next door, been here all day. How can one child make so much noise in the garden? Parent's jumping up and down on the trampoline much to everyone's delight. They have taken steps to be discreet so haven't pulled up in their car, but all the neighbour's must be able to hear the racket.
We are following the rules and it makes me so angry that nearly 1,000 people have died today and they do not care. They were out clapping for the NHS yesterday the hypocrites.
Neighbour's the other side have now just walked up the road and gone in to their house with a grandchild. Give me strength.
I so want to report them.

These people are directly responsible for the deaths of our wonderful NHS staff and frontline workers. #SerialKillers.

Will the reporting of it ensure that lockdown measures are tightened though? I think I'd rather say something to them directly. Thoughts?

Can I join the rant?? I don't want to do it in real life for fear of being accused of being a judgmental busy body, but how can people have play dates when people are dying in these God awful numbers? Aaaargh.

Just mind your own buissnesz

I think the fact that almost 9,000 people have died makes it everyone’s business.

It's not right or fair but I wouldn't report it or them. It's not your business and the endless posts on social media from people regarding what neighbours are up to or people driving in the cars, walking down the street isn't going to help anyone. Don't waste the resources of 101. I have been burgled twice in a week and police response was "we would love to help but are too busy responding to endless reports of people supposedly breaking the social distancing rules, our resources are stretched and we are experiencing officer shortages due to coronavirus". Let them deal with real crime, please.

I wonder if the people saying mind your own business are the ones breaking the rules? Can't think of any other reason why you'd be happy about people spreading the virus.

YANBU - report them. I don’t understand why it is so hard for some to follow the rules! I live in a small close of 30 homes. I’ve seen at least 5 households allowing visitors into their homes. They are doing it on a daily basis. If there are 5 out of 30 doing it here, how many are doing it across the country? Unbelievable really.

I don't understand why some people are minimising this. You must have seen that nearly 1,000 deaths from COVID-19 were reported today. Medical staff have died as a result of treating people in hospital for this illness.

How is this not a proper crime, @EcoCustard ? Are you really not bothered by all these deaths?
Are you also not able to see that those people who keep flouting the rules are ruining it for the rest of us? Because of their stupidity, not only will more people die unnecessarily, but the social distancing measures will have to stay in place for longer.

Yes I did see that nearly 1000 people died yesterday, sadly I don't live in a cave. Why do you assume I am not bothered by it? You may view it as a crime, I don't. I have seen many preachy, hypocritical posts on social media from many preaching about stay home, stay safe whilst shaming others, if people like the OP are so concerned with their neighbours breaching the restrictions why not actually say something to them, challenge them about it? Instead like so many they dont, just waste yet more overstretched services from behind their keyboard. Unless the government gets its arse into gear many more will be flouting the rules soon out of necessity and need.

I think reporting it due to how unsafe it is is one thing, but “it’s not fair, I can’t see my family/friends” comes across as vindictive

@Katielovescake it's not a case of minding your own business. It's a case of following guidelines. Fair enough if they get ill it's their own fault due to being irresponsible. But not following the advice could mean an even longer lockdown for everyone. How is that fair on other people?

The ‘mind your own business’ people must be habitual rule breakers too. If people are prevented from returning to work etc that IS everyone’s business!

Report
Most police forces have units on to deal exactly with this.

It is up to the police if they respond and how they use their resources. I wouldn't take it up with the neighbours as these things can escalate and go on for years AND they obviously know they are breaking the rules but think they can get away with it.

I think reporting it due to how unsafe it is is one thing, but “it’s not fair, I can’t see my family/friends” comes across as vindictive

I don't think that's the case. I think what's coming across is that they're wondering what's making those other people think they're so special that they don't have to follow the rules.

The actions of a few 'covidiots' could also ruin things for the rest of us by leading the rules on social distancing being tightened up even further.

I’ve reported our neighbours 3 tines for various gatherings of different sizes over the last week.
Nothing was done and nothing has changed.

Just observing my neighbours (My name is Michael Pain),,ive seen two women at separate addresses who have long term partners/lovers who still come round for their dinner and a shag. I've seen a neighbour holding a chav BBQ. She has her lover round and also friends. Another neighbour, both elderly one of whom i know has heath issues have had their daughter visiting. Its almost business as usual.

@Mittens030869, some people on this thread have said how it’s unfair though, because they can’t see their people.

Either way, the people throwing parties are morons

Another one for report here. I'm sure the problem is being caused by those who think they are above the law/ are asymptomatic/ think the rules don't apply to them

Flouting the rules due to necessity and need.
How is it necessary to meet up with friends for a bbq? Please explain.

I'm flabbergasted. How is it none of their business? We're all affected by people flouting the rules. Report them immediately .

This urge to "report".

We will turn into East Germany.

People breaking the rules is vexing- but there is not sufficient authority now in the UK to police such perceived infringements.

You are trying hard to do your bit for the country- some others never will- and that in the end is tough for the good among us.

The lady who lives alone next door is about 69, she has mobility, breathing/heart problems. Her grandkids are in & out of her house everyday & have been for the last 3 weeks. Their dad lives down the road, he comes and goes as well. Everyday when I am in the garden I can hear the grandma shouting at the kids to stop swearing & fighting with each other, their dad is probably drunk or asleep at his flat as he doesn’t work.

I just don’t get it, what does it take to get some people to follow SIMPLE rules. Obviously the fact that thousands dying doesn’t. And the thought that someone close to THEM might just be another one.