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To ask overseas folk what British quirks they think are weird/funny? Thread 2!

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Burntmybiscuits · 10/04/2020 08:49

First thread is now full: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3874603-To-ask-overseas-folk-what-British-quirks-they-think-are-weird-funny

But I've had some requests for a 2nd one. Here it is!

OP posts:
OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 11/04/2020 08:30

@ColdCottage sorry, I am not sure now. You disagree with which point? Grin I don't want to get jumbled in it

OneWildNightWithJBJ · 11/04/2020 09:01

Have been following the other thread with interest. I’m a Brit and thought I’d add my experiences...

My DC have always eaten the same as us and at the same time. The latest was probably about 6.45pm, which is still quite early according to lots of people! But I don’t understand people giving their kids different food unless there’s a reason for it.

Evening wedding guests... Every single wedding I’ve been to has had evening guests and I’ve never felt second-class. Seems normal to me although I can sort of see how you might feel if you’re not used to it. This was something some Aussie friends commented on years ago.

Queuing. I absolutely will not ever ever think this is anything other than the right way to do things!!!

Washing machines in kitchens. I hadn’t heard of machines in bathrooms until MN, but yes, I can see why having them in the food area is weird. Ours will go in the utility when it’s built, but generally British bathrooms are way too small and we like to hang our washing outside, so want to be close to the back door!

Washing up..! I have never actually used a dishwasher. Our old house had two sinks which was perfect. Our new house has one, so absolutely need a bowl (bowl not basin, that’s what I would call the actual sink). I wash everything first in cold water then take it all out and wash properly in hot, soapy water. Never thought about rinsing the suds off being a thing. I do if there’s a lot, but they drain off anyway.

Separate taps don’t really bother me. I find it hard to get the right temperature with mixer taps if I just want to wash my hands. The hot tap is just right to wash hands before it warms up too much!

OneWildNightWithJBJ · 11/04/2020 09:05

Oh and absolutely agree our kids start school too early. I teach 5 and 6-year-olds and think the amount of time they have to sit down and write is sad.

lockitdown · 11/04/2020 10:03

I must admit the airlock thing is my fave. I feel like I am in a sci fi show every time I come home.

Gwenhwyfar · 11/04/2020 11:05

"I always tell people to use British air con which is a cardi - put it on if you're cold, take it off if you're hot."

I always tell people to do basic things like open a window (it's rare that doing that makes the inside hotter in this country), draw the blinds of wear loose, thing clothing - people tend to think small, tight clothes are best for hot weather rather than long, loose and flowing.

Gwenhwyfar · 11/04/2020 11:07

"chips"

Chips exist in SO many other countries. A massive thing in Belgium, for example. A certain type of fish & chip shop might be typically British, but that's it.

Gwenhwyfar · 11/04/2020 11:10

" I wash everything first in cold water then take it all out and wash properly in hot, soapy water."

I've never heard of this.
I wash and rinse, but it's not how I was taught as a child and loads of people I know don't rise. It is very common.

I don't understand what the airlock thing is.

DollyDoneMore · 11/04/2020 11:16

Come on, people, some of these posts provide more questions than answers...

My French friends are horrified at the pace at which we do things like walking to the bus stop

Why? Too fast? Too slow? And are you sure they are talking out Brits or are they talking about you? Do all British people walk to the bus stop at the same pace?

aurynne · 11/04/2020 11:28

I'm ffrom Spain and lived in the UK for 3 and a half years. For me it had to be the sheer number of insincere expressions the British use:

"How are you?" = "Just answer 'fine', please, I really don't want to listen to you telling me about your life"

"We should go for coffee one day!" = "You'll never hear from me, ever again, and if you text trying to organise that coffe I will find every excuse under the sea not to go"

"Sorry!" just before pushing you, bumping against you or stepping on your foot.

"Come over any time!" = "It was fun but don't you dare actually coming over any time, we will just stare at you horrified because we weren't expecting you"

Neighbours: "Just tell us if there is any issue" = "Don't tell us, we don't care, and if you do we'll turn abusive"

"That's interesting!" = "It's shit"

...ad infinitum. The Brits have an aversion to telling you what they really think.

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 11/04/2020 11:55

Oh yes😂 The invitation to visit, which is not an invitation. My friend laughed at it because she told Brits to come and visit and stay with her for few days in her country after going back. She reminded them few months later and they were absolutely mindfucked that she meant it😂

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DollyDoneMore · 11/04/2020 12:11

For me it had to be the sheer number of insincere expressions the British use:

They are not insincere expressions. Insincere suggests fake or artificial, but they are polite social lubricants. You are misinterpreting them.

For instance, “How are you?” or “Alright?” at the start of a conversation or as a greeting is understood not to be a direct question, requiring a full response. It’s an introduction to the conversation, which might develop into one in which you are indeed asked about your health or state of mind.

(It’s no different to the French “ça va?” Not a purely British thing at all.)

Other phrases that you are judging to be insincere (i.e. “fake”) are designed to be considerate of the other person.

“What do you think of my new haircut?”

“It’s shit!” might be sincere, but it’s not very kind.

“It’s interesting,” is a way of softening the blow.

Of course, these uses are culturally specific. If you are used to a more blunt/straightforward style of discourse (e.g. German or Dutch cultures) then this use can feel dishonest. But if you are used to a more mannered culture (e.g. English or Japanese) then the blunter style of discourse can seem rude and cruel out of context.

Context is what’s missing from so many of the posts on this thread. Many of the things that seem odd about Britain seem less odd when you understand the context.

Davros · 11/04/2020 12:19

Gwenhyfr (sp?) I agree. Modify your clothing, open or close a window etc. Much better than aircon in the UK, we really don't need it and it's bad for the planet (as is my overuse of devices to access MN!Blush)

Gwenhwyfar · 11/04/2020 13:08

Davros - because we're not used to heat, some people just don't think about basic things like closing curtains and blinds if there's too much sun coming in, using the foil thing on the car window. We need a bit more advice rather than air con except for specific situations like hot kitchen restaurants. For individuals who feel the heat more than others, fans can be enough. So many places have aircon all year and it makes no sense. Waste of money and energy and not always healthy or hygienic.

OneWildNightWithJBJ · 11/04/2020 13:11

@gwenhwyfar I just mean that you can’t wash dirty things in the same water and expect them to be clean. So I wash it all first to get everything looking clean and then wash again properly in fresh water!

I will be getting a dishwasher when we redo the kitchen...

Oh and shoes inside the house is disgusting! Definitely not something all Brits do...

Bakedpotatoandgin · 11/04/2020 13:25

@DollyDoneMore too fast, apparently. It might just have been me, but they also reckoned everyone in the (large) bus station was in too much of a rush. Mostly due to our unreliable rural bus service...

aurynne · 11/04/2020 14:23

@DollyDoneMore, the question asked was what things foreigners have found weird, and that is one of the things I, as a Spaniard, found weird. If these are "social lubricants" then I didn't find they lubricated anything. In general I found it was very hard to get to know British people precisely because of that distance that they set at the beginning with all their empty niceties, and i found it very hard to not listen to what they were saying, but what they were meaning to say.

userabcname · 11/04/2020 14:44

My mum was born and lived in south Africa and she moved here with me when I was a child. She was most surprised by how English parents cook separate evening meals for their children and how early children are put to bed (obviously the two go hand in hand!). She still comments on it now! We always ate together at 6pm and my bedtime was always between 8pm-9pm. She came unstuck the first few times I had a friend over after school- usually they'd go home at 5.30pm, which at first my mum took to mean that they wouldn't need a meal. It very quickly became apparent that a meal should be forthcoming in that time!

Mencho · 11/04/2020 14:45

Things the Japanese find weird about the UK:

Even though it rains a lot so many people make do without using an umbrella.
Manual cars instead of automatics.
Not rinsing washing up (although I’ve told my friends this is becoming less common).
Not everyone reversing into parking spaces (in Japan it is considered “common sense” to reverse into parking spaces so they are surprised to see some people driving forward into parking spaces in the Uk).
Vinegar on chips.
Sweets and cakes flavored with ginger or aniseed.
Roundabouts on roads.
Outdoor shoes in homes.
No electric sockets in bathrooms.

There are probably loads more that I’ve forgotten but I’ll be back later if I remember!

phoenixrosehere · 11/04/2020 14:47

*I always tell people to use British air con which is a cardi - put it on if you're cold, take it off if you're hot."

How long is that going to work since it seems to get hotter every year? Almost 900 people died last summer in England.

Davros · 11/04/2020 16:25

I usually go forward into a parking space because I'm going shopping and I want to get to the boot to put the bags in. Otherwise I'm mostly inline parking

HennyPenny4 · 11/04/2020 16:30

that distance that they set at the beginning with all their empty niceties

I moved to the north of Scotland - no niceties, more like a Stazi interrogation Grin but very easy to get to know people. In Glasgow people just chat about anything to strangers. Perhaps the ones who travel are from a certain area and class of the uk that don't mix much.

Graphista · 11/04/2020 17:48

"In Glasgow people just chat about anything to strangers."

Yep! We weegies love a blether. When I first dated my ex when I'd chat away to folk at bus stops etc at first he assumed I knew them (I was living in a village at the time and these were village bus stops) but when I then did so in his home town on a visit there he was like "that's so weird you'll talk to ANYONE" his mother (Welsh) didn't find it weird at all but his dad did.

WaterOffADucksCrack · 11/04/2020 18:39

I've had a ball reading I feel the need to tell you I've had a glass of wine and read that as a ball reading akin to a palm reading!