Kicked my the rat bag DH out during corona

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He cheated on me before the pandemic broke out by visiting a site for people looking for Marital affairs . We tried to work things out , but then corona broke out , and we couldn’t access mediation- so we’re stuck in same house taking about divorce / separation. He says he wanted me back then our house got vandalised, by whom we don’t know . I have just found out that he had just joined another dating site messaging during corona lock down so he can make his moves post corona . This was just three days ago.

I kicked him out yesterday on the ‘discovery day ‘ and the day he told our ds that were were going to go our Separate ways

He is in a vacant property that we have together so no risk to anyone except the unfortunate women who may inherit him

You’re clearly a very strong and determined lady. I wish I had it in me to do what you’ve done.
I genuinely hope everything works out for you and your DS.

@Hoarder123
It’s ok , appreciate you coming back to me and your apology . Thank you for being big enough to do this in such a public way.

It just shows us all out there about rushing into judgement when not knowing the full story. We are all guilty of this at times x

Bravo! A very appropriate response to his actions and since he is not homeless no harm done.

well done op

@NeedSome1ToHelpMe

You will never know your strength if you don’t exercise your muscle .

It’s not been easy , but I know that I deserve to be treated better and the only one who can stop the madness is ultimately me . He may not be here in this house now with me , but I have my sanity , and can focus on my future without being in the loop of trying To figure out why he did this, and allowing him to make me an option .

I tried to work it through like a caring human being .

Once is a mistake , twice is a choice .

Whatever you are going through , you need to understand you can get through it . You can have the life you want , because the only one that can change your life is You.

All the best to you and others going through this type of dog poo right now

Thank you OP

I just need to find the strength inside me to finally kick him out. And be strong enough to not back down.

Plan your exit . Go to CAB to know your rights

Look at counselling if that can be an option for you both or separately.

Gather your evidence , take copies of important documents, he will spin you more times than a washing machine at full throttle

Build up your support group - I got the strength by going to chump lady site and of course on here !

Have a place you can go to if all gets too much .

Wait for corona times to be over before making any decisions - if you have no options

But most of all Don’t be his option