To feel that my husband being so overweight... puts pressure on me to stay healthy

[stayathomewannabee]

My husband is - at a guess - maybe 3 stone overweight.
He's exactly 6ft tall - he smokes but he gave up drinking a few years ago. He says he's an alcoholic but he was binger when he did drink.
Anyway long story - his job is quite demanding in terms of he's a manager who has to directly manage 8 people and answer to bosses himself.
He enjoys it though.
However since we had our children he has slowly put on more and more weight...
He doesn't exercise and sleeps quite badly - he often ends up snoring on the sofa by 10am most weekends. He gets angry with me and tells me he works hard.
Then there's me - a total exercise nut. I do yoga and run and do spinning. I enjoy it but I wonder if I'm putting pressure on myself to do more because I'm worried my husband's health is going up go downhill.
We are both in our late 40s. Our daughters are still at primary school.
I am so worried and during lockdown he's only eating more..

I’m six foot, if I was three stone overweight from excess body fat I would be obese. He’s putting himself at risk of type 2 diabetes, heart disease, hypertension, high cholesterol etc.

A 42 waist is huge, it also puts him in the very overweight category when you look at his height to waist ratio.

An ex became very overweight during an 18 month relationship, despite it being a short time shortly after we broke up he was diagnosed with a fatty liver and type 2 diabetes. I have seen him a few times since and it’s clear he hasn’t changed his life style.

As much as his current weight is a health issue, he has to actively want to change and he needs to do it for himself, all you can do is support any efforts.

Look into sleep apnea, and sleep hygiene. Poor sleep quality has a huge impact on physical and mental health. Record him snoring and play it to the doctor, it's especially important if he's stopping breathing in his sleep. There's a questionnaire called epworth sleep chart, can be done online. It's short but gives an idea of how poor his sleep is. My husband has a cpap machine at night for his apnea and it's made a huge difference to him. If he's defensive , just tell him calmly how worried you are about him. Ask him if he'd get checked out just to reassure you he's okay. He will need to lose weight, but if his sleep improves, then he'll feel better able to exercise and his mood will lift as well.

I'm not sure you're asking the right question here.

Why is the amount of exercise you do an issue? Do you want to do less? Do you think you need to do more in order to stay fit? Is your exercise a problem in some way?

It sounds as though your actual question is more like, "How can I get my husband to be healthier?" or even just, "Am I right to be worried and pissed off with my husand for not taking care of himself?"