Homeschooling is a disaster for my son

[Ilovetea09]

Hello. I know some schools are saying don't worry etc but our school has said work set is mandatory and needs to be of a high standard. And also I want my son to do it because he needs to keep up.

Anyways, he is in year 4. So work is ramping up now. My son has SEN but is not diagnosed. Not going into it all now but basically we've had lots of problems in school with his focus on his work, gets distracted, has no confidence in his ability and has a meltdown when anything is even slightly difficult.
School deals well with him and have been getting good results from him. He's just had the best school report ever.

We are in day 23 of isolation as we finished school a few days earlier than they closed to everyone. It has been a complete nightmare. He does not want to do any of the work at all. Goes blank and needs 1 to 1 assistance on every question and wanting me to tell him the answer. We've had screaming, crying and smashing fists on to the table daily since this started. He can manage maybe an hour of work tops and then I have to leave it for everyone's sanity.
Im also trying to help my 6 year old do her work too. She is no problem.

Any advice on how I can deal with this? I've been very encouraging and praise him hugely when he does it.
And I have unfortunately lost my temper a few times and had to leave the room as I am frustrated he knows what to do but won't even try.
I have asked his teacher to give us a call and speak to him and explain he needs to do it. I don't know how we are going to get through how ever many more weeks there will be. Easter break is giving us peace but just means it will be twice as hard to get him to start the work again

This is so difficult for parents of children with special needs. My DS(11) was just about to attend his first ADHD assessment when this all kicked off. He has huge issues with attention, focus and organisation. He also has a tendency to fidget and hum while I'm trying to talk to him, so home schooling has been a big headache. I know that structure would help, but I struggle with maintaining structure myself (and strongly suspect I have ADHD too).

I am trying not to mention going back to school work after the holidays as I know it fills DS with dread. I think, closer to the time, I'll have a talk with him about what he can manage and how. We are in NI and he scored very highly in his transfer tests, so his teachers are clearly able to coax work out of him in a way I have no understanding of. I am in awe of them, believe me! But when that bloody ClassDojo app starts pinging every five minutes after the Easter break, I swear I will hurl my iPad out the window.

My younger son just gets on with the work with no drama, which helps a lot. I honestly don't think I could cope if he had similar issues.

That is a very brutal email, wow.
Surely a school cannot decide like that to make the work compulsory?

I would be asking them where they are getting their info from tbph. Because they are supposed to be working with families, not adding to the stress. They are also supposed to be taking care of staff mh.

It should be things like revision etc. It's not about the actual learning, its supposed to be about keeping the brain active, hence a list of sites/apps/activities.