Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

Yes @LoveIsLovely!! My kids went to school with the children of a woman with four kids and she didn’t seem to like any of them. She was constantly arguing with the two youngest and I’d think “why is she arguing with a 3 year old about the merits of wearing rubber boots on a rainy day? Firm mum voice or joke them into it, but don’t bloody argue with a 3 year old.” They all seemed absolutely miserable (she was a sahm, the husband wasn’t in the playground as he was off earning bags of money so I seldom saw him).

I am, shall we say, less than keen on people who squeal with excitement on seeing a coworker they have not seen in a day or so and call most of the coworkers “babyboy” and “babygirl” (coworkers all being actual adults and not infants and most being at least 40). I have to listen to this all day long (or did before Covid) & it was driving me crazy.

@Soon2BeMumof3 Oh yes, I can't for the life of me understand why you'd do this. Posting photos of your kids is understandable (though I personally don't) but details or worse photos of toilet training I don't get at all.

Morbidly obese women that say they’re ‘women’, oh and so those of us with nice slim figures aren’t?! seems like jealousy to me.

When people say to bigger women “but were you happy when you were slim” as if to say it’s okay to be huge!

Should say ‘real women’ like is slim ones are not!

People that have more than one kid and then act as if they were dropped in by a stork! I know a woman with 5 girls and she is a single mum and knew that she was going to be on her own after the 3rd yet keeps moaning about getting no time to herself, what do you expect with 5 kids and no man to help you?! It just boils my blood, get yourself on the pill! Why anyone would want more than 2 kids in this day and age is beyond me!

A few of you have said whistling. I agree in some instances. For example those that will start to whistle/sing whilst in your vicinity as some sort of barrier to put you off striking a conversation up iyswim. I find it rude & hostile tbh.

Every time I join one of these threads, my mental list gets ever longer as I read. Agree with so much of above.
Plus:

• emoji misuse. Or maybe people who genuinely have little understanding of emotions. It's on MN all the time, "My favourite food is fish finger sandwiches " Stop with the pretend embarrassment, it's hardly a tub of lard.

-men who have soft, plump hands or long, thin, pointy penises.

• I cannot bear the term "little man" to describe a boy. To describe a girl as a "little woman" would be weird, yet the former is everywhere and I feel less warm towards those who use it.
• Bad summer shoes. Crocs, particularly whole families of Croc wearers. Those dreadful sandals that men wear with their boy children in matching pairs. Small children in flip flops.

-People who do not say "Thank you" when I move aside, hold a door or let them go first. Rude!

Former date admitting he didn't declare all of his income so he didn't have to pay 'that bitch' all of the child support she was entitled to

There was no more dates. Instant turn off.

Inappropriatefemale that makes no sense... I know we're being petty and irrational but why do you think fat women aren't women? Or that only either fat or thin women can be women?

Women just means "adult humans of the sex class who produce ova" and has nothing to do with BMI.

I mean that bigger women say that they are real women and I’m saying aren’t slim women too?! I thought I corrected it afterwards

Inappropriatefemale sorry my post hung and cross posted - adding the word "real" is different!

lottie bit of karma for men like him going on right about now

People who get upset over seeing someone's clean washing drying on a washing line in that person's home.

People who immediately latch onto someone being overweight or obese as an explanation for any problem or illness . ' Oh you have ezcema conjunctivits, a cold,
etc. , well if you lost weight it would help'

And long nails on men

Why do so many men see paying for their child as ‘giving that bitch money’?! God see men, not all men of course but about 40% of them are sexist creeps who shun responsibility.

Men in three quarter length trousers, calf socks and trainers bleurgh!
The man that smokes his stinking bong outside my house away from his own incase his social worker mother sees him.

Oh no I think I'm a terrible person because I agree with them all!

@Wolfgirrl at the kitkat scenario

In the queue for Sainsburys (only time I've been out since lockdown) and watched a man in tracksuit bottoms fiddle with his nuts for at least 15 minutes while we waited outside. Yes, he used a trolly. Someone is stuck at home with that

Yes to the #bekind - made the mistake of pointing out Boris has put may families at risk on a fb aquaintance's wall yesterday which was under this hashtag - got completely blasted for holding that opinon/mentioning that with some very personal insults thrown at me in long grammarless rants - yeah...that #bekind really isn't working for you.

Almost all of the above, plus a couple of my own:

people who use the word "obviously" at random points in sentences. I think "obviously" may be the new "like". Obviously, it ought to be perfectly acceptable for me mto just punch them in the mouth when they do this.

Pronouncing "garage" to rhyme with "carriage". The second syllable has a long A, like "ah". Alistair Appleton on escape to the country does this and he needs a slap.

Ditto English people who pronounce "harass" or "harassment" in the American way, with the stress on the second syllable. It sounds both ignorant and fake simultaneously.

And anyone who does tuneless, under their breath humming when they're working. A manager where I work does this, and when she was based in the same office as me, her life expectancy was reduced considerably.

DH - just breathing.
Lockdown is getting to me

Former friend. All instances relate to the former friend.

Heard her in bathroom changing period stuff/pad & didn't wash her hands after - grim ( small house can hear taps & general cafuffle in bathroom if door not closed )

Expected/thought she was entitled to stay at my house payment free long term after short goodwill gesture ( few weeks ) of allowing her to sleep over ( payment free ) as we were working long hours together as overtime & the journey to work from my house was much shorter than travelling from her house, she saved loads of cash in petrol & not paying board at family members house. I owed said friend £20 & she proceeded to put her hand out & ask for it back when I had done her a favour & she must have saved 20 x the £20 from not paying travel costs & board to family member. Upon returning home one day said friend was wearing my hoodie as it saved her washing her own as she needed hers clean for holiday - cheek fucker

One day caught her driving past my house ( looking for family members car ) to see if I was telling the truth re family member staying ( I was telling porkies & wanted her to get THE HINT that the above arrangement of her staying over was no longer what I wanted ) Said friend would give me lift home from work ( we lived just streets away ) and she would proceed to question me multiple times where family members car was if they were staying at mine ??? - cheeky fucker.

Said friend looked at me with a strange cocked head to one side look when I asked her to wash her hands daily upon entering my house after being at work all day.... normal cleanliness I think taking into consideration shared offices keyboards are sometimes as dirty as a toilet seat Said friend rebelled by doing quick rinse & didn't use soap.

Sat in my house for 4 days without shower & stinky feet even though I made it clear that shower could be used.

The list goes on.

Couldn't cope with the dirty ness & All quite minor stuff but the cheeky fuckery behaviour irritated the hell out of me. Can't remember the last time any person of any sort got on my tits so much.

@flapattack23, couldn't agree more, I loathe when grown adults say "sweeties" or "yummy" (and even actually "tummy"- it's a stomach ffs)

@paintedfences how is someone who is clean, thick?

Leopard print.
People who edit photos and don't seem to realise that it makes them look like an alien.
People who think the world should be handed to them on a plate.
People not saying thank you.
Not using indicators.
Men who put pictures of half undressed women on their Facebook. It makes them look sleazy and are usually they're the type who have a tiny penis and would have no chance in dating the sexy lady!