Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

@JKscot4 Ah yes the anxiety chestnut too!

My OH has diagnosed anxiety and it’s crippling for him. However it’s a term banded around on MN in such a way that I don’t think many posters genuinely understand what it’s like to live with.

Living my best life
Following social media fads
Really loud people
Jealousy

Completely agree with @Wolfgirrl's examples.

Mums & Dads who rant about their child and then immediately feel guilty and chase it up with a 15 minute speech about how the child is the best thing that ever happened them!

Have a bitch and a moan. Its healthy!!

Any middle aged woman on Facebook with photos of her children, shared posts or tags.

Cat people and the awful 'the cat is the master and your just a servant hehe' shit. Jesus christ go and grow up. It's an animal!!!!

Anybody who drones on about drinking processco and 'thank god it's the weekend'

People who use handkerchiefs. Imagine carrying around a moist rag with snot on all day.

Anyone who claims to be triggered by certain words/people chewing with their mouth open. It's all attention seeking bullshit.

This #BeKind shit that is going about after Caroline. If you call anyone out now for something shitty they've done it all #BeKind. NO. People should be held accountable. There is a very big difference from not being a twat for no reason and keeping people accountable.

Women who act like a martyr. You see it all the time on mumsnet. On here to bitch about their partner/husband but would never actually do anything about it in real life because it makes them feel needed and important. Go out. Leave your husband to it and get a hobby.

Ha! I came on to say ‘fisting cutlery’ - I’m nicking this brilliant description.

Wow loads of things on this thread I agree with.

I dislike men who employ pathetic power play moves or who use office jargon. For example: going in to shake hands with a high hand, palm down, so the other person has to be the submissive who goes under, palm up. This did happen to me once; a very short man (I am 5’ 10”). Also - I’m looking at you, David Cameron - men who intersperse their talk with ‘but hey!’, or who start their sentences with ‘So.’

I generally dislike any men who are obviously trying to be trendy. It bespeaks a weak mind. Things like ankle-flapper trousers in Peaky Blinders style.

Currently, I really, really hate the Corpus-Christi Cambridge University Challenge team. The other night, almost involuntarily, I said ‘Oh fuck off will you?’, watching them ostentatiously debate an answer.

Women who go off on a rant about unreasonable women and "poor blokes" and end it with "and I'm a woman!!" like they think they deserve a medal for crossing enemy lines...

Adults calling their parents ‘mummy’ and ‘daddy’. Ick.

Definitely this, and also adults who use the word 'tummy' when not talking to a small child, and 'yummy' or 'scrummy' in any circumstance. I had to unfollow a colleague on social media due to the unfortunate frequency of posts referring to 'my lovely mummy' or the 'scrummy' food she'd just eaten. She's 39 years old.

People who believe that magical memory water, aka homeopathy, works.

When people say "brought" instead of "bought"

Saying “pacifically” instead of “specifically”

Or “somethink” rather than “something”.

Ok for five year olds but just embarrassing in adults.

People who are so hooked on their phones, eg. Shop workers behind counters or, dangerously, drivers.

Gonna in writing
Whistling - the work of the devil
Yum as in that's so yum

@Mintjulia I say pacifically specifically to see the look on people's faces. I don't know why, I just find it funny that so many people get annoyed by it.

I say everything else normally, I promise.

@wheetos I think you have exactly the same hated things as me. There is something that links all the behaviours you mention, it's hard to define but a kind of "look at me, aren't I quirky" type mentality.

My SIL is lovely but she's definitely very "this is the cat's house, we just live here" because the cat sat on a chair for a bit.

The be kind stuff irritates the shit out of me too. If you say anything at all critical, it's all "be kind". It's just another way of telling people (women mostly) to shut up. I'm all for not slagging off women's appearances or outfit choices or whatever, but that doesn't mean I can't call a spade a spade if someone's being a dick.

Oh God and can I add another one? the whole "my child is a nightmare" crap. The constant whining about how difficult it is to have children and the resultant unfunny memes.

Having children is no doubt hard but people act like it is some kind of awful trial. It's hard to describe because I don't want to dismiss people's experiences but it's the world weary "oh god, good luck" when you announce you're pregnant or "say goodbye to sleeping" or whatever.

Especially when people have multiple children. Why did you have more if it's so awful?

It's like they feel child rearing is beneath them.

I only have one and not having more but I've done far tougher things, had times when I slept less and had more stress...I've had nights when I cried the same as everyone else but it's not that hard.

Men with long nails. Hands are bad, feet are even worse.

Women who use the word ‘mama’. Even more hideous is the phrase ‘you got this mama!’

People who add the word ‘my’ to a phrase. ‘I love my food’, ‘I love my nights out with the girls’

Waistcoats.

**Even more hideous is the phrase ‘you got this mama!’
Oh god, I can't stand that!! I don't even know why but it really gets under my skin.

I really hate it when people eat/drink noisily. I’ve only recently noticed that DH does it, I still love him of course but it’s really put me off eating while I’m lockdown with him. One of my children constantly makes inane sounds as well which I also find maddening.

@LoveIsLovely that is all said lightheartedly. It’s rare for people to actually complain even when it is really hard.

Anyone that says or writes:

Cuppa
Brew
Chocs/posh chocs

Or eats with their mouth open and holds their cutlery in a contrived manner, I may have had to change chairs in restaurants recently to avoid having this in my eyeline.

@Reginabambina Whether or not it is meant in jest, it is boring and annoying. Weirdly, it is mainly Brits and other English speaking countries that do it, other people don't seem to do the same "oh isn't life so shit and boring" bit in quite the same way in my experience.

And I personally feel that the fact that it is treated a such a joke is quite a worrying sign of total emotional immaturity.

Women with black slug eyebrows. Why do this !?

I think most of these are not at all irrational, actually!

I was recently dating someone who had started to give me the ick. It was a cumulative thing. Lots of little icky things (he wore lots of turtlenecks as per PP's comment). He also said 'absolutely!' too much in conversations and 'literally'.

The nail in the coffin was when he was getting undressed and took his socks off last. He stood there for about 5 seconds in just his socks and I found myself irrationally angry.

I mean - I was trying to get over the ick and avoid dumping him. How was that image going to help?!

I ended it.

"Women who use the word ‘mama’. Even more hideous is the phrase ‘you got this mama!’"

This! It makes me gag. My favourite parenting website (that actually has science based and expert written articles) titles almost every post with 'mama', as in 'here's what you need to know about Covid 19, mama' I haaaaate it. It's sooooo condescending and it reduces the reader to being addressed 1) solely as a mother when presumably she is many other things as well 2) in Baby talk when she is trying to read about science.

Drives me insane!!!!!

(End of rant. Feeling better now)

People who dont shower or bath everyday.

To answer the OP,

I go way off people who post a lot of details about their kids on Facebook.

Someone from work (who I had a lot of respect for previously) added me and every day posts photos, stories, details. She posts very personal things like tantrums, toilet training accidents, photos of them sleeping, her exasperation with aspects of their personalities and behaviours.. I just feel so uncomfortable about it, like I am reading someone's diary. and I feel so bad for her children who are having such private aspects of their lives documented so publicly before they are old enough to understand.

I just think way less of her now.