Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

I've not got time to read this whole thread.
But - a few years ago when I was internet dating, I seemed to hate everyone I met, just on the flimsy grounds that we were there with a view to maybe having sex at some point. I knew was being completely unreasonable but I couldn't help it.

I met one guy who arrived with dirty nails, hobnail boots, a damp-smelling hairy coat & one of those cars that is so full of wrappers, trash, orange peel and old CDs it was like sitting in a litter bin... that wasn't good.
But I persevered & I met a perfectly nice man. We started talking about food we liked. Then he said, "Creamed potatoes, mmm, creamed potatoes" - instead of mashed potatoes.

That was it. I stopped internet dating there & then... I couldn't take it any more.

Grown men or women who haven't learnt to cook a basic meal.

Last guy I was dating came under this category and it ended up being a deal breaker.

Equally, people who say they're not really into music. How can you not like music?? Do they have no soul?

Chewing gum. Chomping. Tapping. I have a problem with repetitive sounds....

@flapattack23 and @chandleristhebestfriend what is wrong with whistling? DH's dad used to have a rhyme about 'a whistling woman and a crowing hen, are no use to God nor men' or something like that. I thought it was just sexist rubbish - but presumably you don't like men whistling either? Why....??

I like a jolly little whistle as I'm going about my business! HRTFT but hope others have said the same......

BTW DHs dad would be 104 if still alive........

I haven't read the whole thread but@cms1972 just made me laugh out loud

People who need to tell you how hard they work and how tired they are all the time. Usually the type who martyr themselves and then complain all the time when most of what they do is not needed or asked for or only due to their own impossibly high standards.

People who says chocs instead of chocolate

Using the phrase "fed and watered" about people, like they are plants.

Using the term mental load because a woman sends her MIL a birthday card.

This is something my DH does that drives me crazy.

If he is eating meat or steak, he proceeds to cut it all at once into smaller bites. Then switches his fork to his right hand and puts his knife down on the side of the plate.

It's taken me years to accept this as I initially tried to get him to keep his knife and fork in his hands like a normal person. I do love him dearly but still inwardly cringe every time we go out to eat 😂

@inappropriatefemale you may not have noticed but near enough every comment you make is about hating other women.

You might want to think about that.

Short men who rock onto their tip toes when talking to appear taller and more knowledgeable

Short men are also the ones who sit with their legs spread VERY WIDE on public transport. If they can't take up space vertically, they do it horizontally instead.

Women who open their eyes wide and nod enthusiastically like a car accessory when you're talking to them. They're working really hard to let you know they're REALLY LISTENING to disguise the fact they're not fucking listening at all.

Women who refer to genitals as 'privates', 'down there' or 'bits'.

penguin is he American? Every other person I’ve seen do this has been American.

@AnnUumellemahaye - and the alternate ones are Canadian! I am Canadian and I do this (though rarely as I’m vegetarian so almost nothing needs cutting). To me it looks vaguely threatening when people hold their knives throughout a meal, but I know that to the knife-holders the non-knife-holders also look odd. To me it’s not a right or wrong thing, just a cultural difference.

Not rinsing you’re dishes when hand washing them, however, is wrong!

People who call. Hold ten ‘kiddies’. I can handle them using the word ‘kids’ but saying ‘kiddies’ sounds like something a paedophile might say.

Totally agree. Irrational maybe, but it gives me the creeps.

I had a partner once who, one day while fishing something out from under the television, cocked his arse up in the air like a porn actress simulating a woman gagging for it in a porno. I got the ick there and then and there was no getting rid of it. Didn’t help that he pulled the same pose every time he had to get on the floor for any reason.

People who push their hair off their face using their fourth finger, it looks so fake and artful.
Also fake nails ( often goes with deliberate hair pushing as above) fake eyelashes and excess make up generally. I like to be able to see a person's actual face.
Skinny jeans on men, although just about acceptable on skinny youths.
People in Facebook who copy oth er people's ideas and never have an original thought of their own. It's one thing sharing something interesting or useful, but the whole " I wonder how many people will ........ " makes me want to scream!
Also one photo of your child or dog doing something slightly amusing occasionally is OK, but 20 photos of the same event, are not.
I'm strongly of the view that memes and video clips should be kept off group chats. If I'm in a group so that people can chat/ make arrangements about specific things, it's really annoying when I have to scroll through loads of meaningless tripe to find out essential information, like what time we are meeting. If you have to post menes / clips, do it on FB where it's easier to scroll past!

Misuse of the word choice. Eg. You have 2 choices. No you haven't. You have one choice with two or more options.

People yawning without covering their mouth.

Seeing babies out on a cold day with nothing on their head, usually with a person/people all wearing hats.

Hearing "well, it's like you said" and then go on to say something that you haven't said. Its usually something that is utter rubbish or something I disagree with.

Grey unerpants (on men)!

@LoveisLovely actually that isn’t true - not even close.

Your comment caught my interest so I wanted to see what this woman -hating woman had said. Out of 42 comments about things that irritated her only 10 specifically mentioned women or were relevant only to women.

Of the other 32, at least 10 were complaints specifically, about men. The rest were just about ‘people’ and were things that could have applied equally to men or women.

There were two comments deleted so I don’t know what they said but even if they were about women, the complaints about women still only accounted for 12 out of 44.

I don’t know what she said that made you feel particularly defensive as a woman, or are you just one of those women that sees any criticism of a woman by another woman as betrayal?

Funnily enough, one of her comments was about women like that. Women who ALWAYS take a woman’s side against a man’s no matter what, just because men must always be wrong/unreasonable/lying by by default and the woman must always be the innocent victim by default.

Men who wear noisy shoes, you know with metal heel bits.
I hate it! I didn't think they even existed any more, then I heard a clicky walker the other day and was horrified.

''It is what it is.''

How fucking profound.

Yes yes yes!! I have the “aitch” vs “haitch” debate all the time. I think, apart from my immediate family and a very small minority (prob 2) people I know, everyone else says “haitch” and will not believe me. Even Teachers and people with degrees and doctorates coming out of their arses!

While I’m here, people who eat and talk and spray food make me want to hurl.

Men wearing sandals, sorry just can’t bear it and really puts me off, urgh!

Using a knife like a pen.

Sorry, holding a knife like a pen!

People who end a sentence or argument with "hey ho".. like what even does that mean?!?!?