Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

When people put those massive headbands on a bald babies head so everyone can know that it's a girl.

Anyone, male or female, who has had an affair. It always makes me think less of them.
People who let allow their dogs on sofas and beds.
People who say they 'have' anxiety when they don't
People who have never worked a day in their lives with no good reason.

People who start sentences with ‘Myself and...’
Double it if they start it with ‘So myself and...’.

Very long fake nails
Very long real nails, ugh.

Explosively loud sneezing (looking at you, dh)
People who do explosively loud sneezes and say they can’t help it. Yes you bloody well can! Just don’t yell at the same time!

When people put those massive headbands on a bald babies head so everyone can know that it's a girl.

Yes! And on this note, people who pierce their child's ears so everyone knows what a cute, pretty little girl it is...

Maxi dresses
People who sing hymns under their breath
Colleagues who eat fish or other stinky food at their desk.
Beards
Women who moan about the stress of having lots of children (don’t keep having them then)
People over 25 who buy the latest trainers as soon as they are available.
Hot tubs in the gardens of terraced houses
People who eat pasta with salad.
Family photos on huge canvases.
Hollywood waxes.
Strong dog smells in a house.

Men wearing a baby carrier, I know it's unreasonable.

Early on in the Covid crisis, around the start of February, we had an email around at work that hand sanitizers had been placed at every entrance and anyone going through an entrance had to sanitize their hands. A colleague of mine refused to do so, but didn't really give a reason, kind of shrugged. It just seemed like she didn't like being told she must do something. One time when we walked through reception the person on front desk noticed she hadn't done it and sent her back to use the sanitizer. I saw her stand over the pump and pretend to sanitize, but she didn't actually do it.
It just got me thinking about how she just didn't like following orders in any circumstances and it has really put me off her character. The ironic thing is she is in a high risk group and stands only to benefit from people around her having clean hands. This kind of "rebellion" attitude gets really tiring once you are in a certain stage of adulthood.

Neoflex same attitude as anti-vaxxers.

People (men) who do that thing where they want to show they feel they have been told off in some way, so they hold out their own hand and give it a little smack. Usually done in front of other people to make them laugh. I don't know quite why I hate this so much other than it's not at all funny or clever, it's weirdly camp, it's somehow patronising to the person they are indicating as having told them off? I don't know, but when dh did it once about 5 years ago he is very lucky I was able to wipe it from my memory as quickly as I could. If he ever does it again I will need a divorce.

@crispysausagerolls

I was told the baby on board signs are to signpost to the emergency services that you have a baby in the car if you were to have an accident and weren't conscious or the baby got flung out of the vehicle.

Obviously no excuse for those 'my family' stickers though.

I dumped a guy once because I really disliked the way he spoke to his Mum....

People who diss any women with a hobby like video games or Warhammer or indeed anything that isn't what they do as 'sad'. In fact anyone (usually women) who diss other women if they actually want to be vaguely playful - like going to waterparks or surfing or playing lasergames - had enough of that shit as a girl and I'm still capable of passing as adult when I have to.

I embrace my sadness and nerdyness when I don't have to do adult things.

People who say "y'all" when they're not from the US.

It has become such a thing online in the last year or two and it really makes me cringe.

People who say supper and elevenses. You're not Enid fucking Blyton.

Being in favour of Foxhunting. You're a prick. If it were really for pest control, you're a dick because it's the most unnecessarily expensive method in the universe to have twenty horses, blokes on ATVs, a pack of hounds and half the local police force in your pocket stampeding across the countryside

Yes. People who are 'on the fence' about foxhunting and other blood 'sports' are also awful. You're ambivalent about animals getting torn to shreds for fun? Ok then.

People who only talk about themselves in conversation and don't show an interest in others.

Anyone who starts a sentence with the phrase "I'm not a racist/ being rude but.." They always are.

People who don't stop their dogs begging at the dinner table.

People who film themselves giving money to homeless people, or boast about doing so on social media. Just gross.

Anyone working for themselves who claims to be a 'CEO'. I think you mean sole trader or self-employed.

Also....

sloppy eaters

Mouth-breathers (watched Ocean's 11 the other night and noticed Brad Pitt does this tons. Put me right off him.)

People who look clap like chimps

People who litter - especially food litter - fast food wrappers, chicken bones etc. Greasy chicken bones on pavements make me want to heave.

Man-spreading on public transport. There is no way your nads are big enough that you need to have legs in different postcodes....

People who are perky before 9am

Men who need 'manly' dogs like staffies and rotties because their masculinity is so important they couldn't possibly be seen walking a Labrador.

And top of my list right now competitive home-schooling Mums. Yes, it's fucking delightful that little Polenta has managed to create her own interpretation of Botticelli's Birth of Venus using only tissue paper and PVA glue whilst all the other kids in the class are mashing play-doh into their carpets and binging on CBeebies. Bully for you.

Christ I'm a fucking intolerant bitch!

Men who take excessive pride in their cars.
Overweight women in lycra at the gym.
Snotty children.
Cackling laughter.
Scummy people at airports.
Baseball caps and American memorabilia aficionados.

People who wear ill fitting clothes or unironed clothes.
Headbands on babies and piercings under 13.
Messy and unclean homes
Maxi dresses
White socks and trainers on adults
Adults who moan about their children needing time and money from them
Adults who claim they can’t possibly work and be a parent

People talking about holibobs, living their best life etc

EmpressLangClegInChair I am not sure why she calls everyone “babyboy” & “babygirl”, other than that she is clearly insane. Is she forgetting their names? Thinks it makes her adorable? Thinks it substitutes for an interesting personality? Thinks it reinforces her idea of being a “real mama”? I’m not sure, but I do know I can’t take another year of her.

You sound very tolerant to me Rita, I don't think I could take five minutes of her!

So many things.
Any grown man wearing three quarter length trousers , the ones with loads of pockets on the legs.
Football shirts worn as casual clothing.
Women going to the shops in dressing gowns.
Met some guy for a first date, he was good looking, but had one black tooth in the front. He kept asking why I wouldn’t kiss him. Yuck.
Toilet brushes.

People who can’t understand the thread title “unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person” and do a rant.
People that read the instructions or ask what do the instructions say on very basic items.
People who play in orchestra’s.
People that can’t hold or indeed use cutlery properly.
Cyclists (Lycra ones, not kids and nipping to the shops).
People who lick their finger and dab crumbs up off a plate. Yes to this .Usually the person that laughs loudly with food in their mouth too, spraying people with cake.

People lighting bonfires

Adults, especially men, in brightly coloured Converse shoes.
You look like an overgrown toddler in Clarks doodles.

I had an ongoing crush/mutual flirtation with a guy at work for years. He turned up to a training day in bright red Converse and killed it stone dead

People who ask a hundred questions about you but never divulge one thing about themselves.

They continue to press questions leaving long pauses which they are counting on the other person continuing to speak to fill the silence gap. I have learned to embrace the silence which is awkward but worth it.

The interviewer type conversationalists say very very littke about themselves.

People talking about holibobs, living their best life etc

This. This. This.

It drives me bonkers. The same people describe food as ‘nom nom’ and use the word ‘hubby’. It’s the equivalent of hearing a fork scratched on a plate. Grow up and use real words.