“Ughhh stop walking around”

[Coronashe]

Went to the supermarket today to pick up something click and collect. Went into the store and headed to the cashiers and saw there was a queue and walked past 2 people who were waiting to get to the back. Id probably been in the store all of 15seconds. As I passed one them loudly said ughhh stop walking around.

I can only assume she thought i should have not walked past them and gone all the way round another aisle to stand behind them. Fair enough, maybe, but I didn’t think and I probably walked past her in 0.5seconds, not closely and certainly didn’t linger.

I couldn’t be bothered saying anything but I did think what a prat especially since all she was buying was a bottle of wine (not essential) and then paid in cash (told to pay by card to minimise risk). I did think if you’re going to criticise people then at least make sure you’re adhering to the rules too.

Saying that she did thank the cashier for his job so probably not all bad. But I’ve got home and I feel really irritated by it now.

I usually avoid the shops so when I see these threads I normally think the people they’re complaining about are in the minority and a few bunch of idiots looking cause a fight when there really is none. But maybe it’s more widespread.

Or maybe I’m the unreasonable one and I should have apologised. AIBU?

Ah you two with your little love in.

Now look I accept that there are guidelines and I accept people’s right to get huffy over it (even if I think it’s an overreaction) but only really if you are infallible yourself. My point was simply if you’re out on a non essential journey for wine don’t be so pissy about someone walking past. Didn’t really expect it to be less than obvious but clearly this is mumsnet

I am isolating as vulnerable but not prioritised for help. My husband is in therapy & has a physical ailment not bad enough to have a blue badge but bad enough that he cannot carry shopping or pull a shopping basket.

We cannot get a delivery and its been 3 weeks since we have been able to get supplies. He is a very nervous driver but we have no food left so he went to our local Waitrose in the car tonight just before it closed, so the car park was almost empty.

He parked mid 2 spaces, reasoning that it would allow him or someone parking next to him to respect the 2m distance.

A woman started shouting at him!
She gave him no time to remonstrate before walking closer & closer! He said his instinct was to come home but knew we were in dire straits so walked off into the shop, but said he was uncomfortable the entire time, thinking she’d meet him in the aisles.

Action has magic - wine is only essential if you are an alcoholic. You might need to recheck your priorities. This is a pandemic.

I don’t think people know what 2 meters is, & they definitely don’t understand the arrows. I’d be surprised if they even notice them as they wander up & down in their usual gormless fashion. I’m taking the cattle prod next time.

Everyone is saying YABU for not keeping 2 metres between you and them,but was it actually possible? I've been in situations where it hasn't. Since the lockdown,I have only been using the small independent supermarket downstairs from my flat (about the size of a small Tesco Express) and it also has a sub post office within it. I have always said that the post office had been put in a stupid place,i.e. right inside the door,so when the post office is open,there is ALWAYS a queue just inside the door. It is impossible to get past the people near the front of the queue without walking within 6 feet of them. If you asked them to move for you,THEY would then be within 2 metres of someone,so whatever way you do it,someone is in the wrong!

It's impossible to not walk closer than 2 metres to people in the supermarket. Most people ignore the one-way system, and even if everyone followed it, you'll be walking through the queues as you round the aisle ends near the tills.

It's usually possible to avoid standing within 2 metres of someone else who's standing and you should do this. Though even then, earlier today I was in the queue for the till, 2 metres from the person in front and behind, but I couldn't do anything about the man on the other side of the aisle who spent 10 minutes studying the wine before picking his bottle.

You were in the wrong not keeping the min. 2m distance .
She was worse than you to actually speak because that, in itself, is what could be spreading the virus. She doesn’t know she isn’t infected. Was she wearing a mask?
It’s done now so it doesn’t matter.
I’m sure both wine and chocolate are essentials.

Fear makes people do weird and ridiculous things

carnivalisover that was a really bad experience for your DH.
I think supermarket trips are very unpleasant at present (not that they ever are particularly exciting anyway), you are exposed and vulnerable more than in other places and some people simply follow their habits and forget about safety.
Then you get those who get irritated and can’t keep their mouth shut - there’s no need for it.

So to answer people’s questions - no, I could not have kept 2m away. It would’ve been physically impossible. I kept as far away as possible and that was about 1m to pass her but I guess this wasn’t good enough.

I absolutely could’ve walked down another aisle to get to the back but I would’ve passed far more people standing who were shopping/looking for stuff. This way I passed by 2 people.

Look guys the woman was an idiot. I didn’t really think it was so hard to see. Someone briskly walking past you is of no threat - if you are that worried about it then really you need to be at home and finding other ways to get your one bottle of wine but otherwise you need to accept that we still function as best we can in a society and as long as people aren’t ridiculously loitering next to you/trying to engage in conversation at close quarters/coughing over you then there’s not much else you can do. Loudly and passive aggressively announcing that people shouldn’t be walking around really won’t endear anyone to you.

It’s no more selfish of me to pass her than it was to go round and walk past 4-5 other people. Sigh. Anyway.

I see someone upthread asked me what I was click and collecting. A pair of straighteners.

Thought that would really get all you old goats going as I bring about a severe lockdown and the end of the world in one fell swoop although I’ll have lovely swishy hair.

No not really - I went to pick up a kettle for an elderly neighbour. No good deed goes unpunished eh!

You need a lesson.

Stop carping about others.

YABU

because supermarkets are full of people like you and it adds up.

You walk far too close.
The person behind them was too close
People push past to grab something whilst you are already grabbing something else

so yes, it's annoying. There's another thread asking why people who could drive chose to get supermarket deliveries instead. That's why.

oh Dear lord.

Look guys the woman was an idiot. I didn’t really think it was so hard to see.
So you only started a thread for people to agree with you and make you feel all warm inside?

I did yes

so YABU for starting the thread in YABU

Lol that did make me laugh mama bear

You keep saying she was 'passive aggressive', but she wasn't - she directly said what she wanted, which was for you to stop walking around, which would have stopped you getting so close to her. YWBU to not walk round the other way initially, regardless of where she was.

Thanks Branster

I absolutely could’ve walked down another aisle to get to the back but I would’ve passed far more people standing who were shopping/looking for stuff.

As long as you were 2m from them then how many you would have passed is irrelevant.

(I’m now waiting for you to come along and say you wouldn’t have been able to keep 2m away there either )

No I wasn’t being unreasonable to walk round the other way as there were other people in the aisles why would I walk past a load of other people whereas this way I only walked past 2?!

And yes she was being passive aggressive by announcing into the air ughhh stop walking around. It’s the very definition of passive aggressive. Directing something seemingly into the air like you’re talking to yourself when it’s quite obvious who it’s directed at. Her comment didn’t actually even make sense as I wasn’t “walking around”. I walked straight into the shop when I was told it was my turn to go in and went directly to the cashiers saw there was a queue and joined the back of it. I literally went in the most direct way to where I needed to be rather than wandering up and down the aisles. She could’ve said “please don’t come so close to me” or “excuse me could you go round the other way” all of which is direct and more polite.

Ha heartsonacake! It’s like you’ve been in the supermarkets yourself. Apart from at the front it’s not possible to pass at 2m distance or more.

Apart from at the front it’s not possible to pass at 2m distance or more.

Bingo! Of course you’re saying that because you can’t possibly fathom being unreasonable.

Shall I predict what you’ll want to say next? “No, I’m saying that because it’s true, Miss, honest!”

It’s impossible to keep away from people in the supermarket. That’s why they’re recommending we don’t go too often.

You go round the corner of an aisle and jump into someone. You stand in the queue - 2m apart - which means the queue goes past the start of the checkout and towards the end of the aisle - even with very few people in the shop. I was waiting for the self-checkout at M&S today and a young girl walked up and down in front of me THREE times, whilst FaceTiming someone, looking for someone. She literally brushed past me until I had to move to one side next time I saw her coming.

It’s a risky place to be right now so unless your click and collect was important, I’d give the supermarket a wide berth.

Almost. I wouldn’t presume to add in the miss though nor the honest as I’d put it down to the fact you might not be capable of noting distances in supermarket aisles so the honesty is irrelevant