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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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“Ughhh stop walking around”

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Coronashe · 08/04/2020 19:31

Went to the supermarket today to pick up something click and collect. Went into the store and headed to the cashiers and saw there was a queue and walked past 2 people who were waiting to get to the back. Id probably been in the store all of 15seconds. As I passed one them loudly said ughhh stop walking around.

I can only assume she thought i should have not walked past them and gone all the way round another aisle to stand behind them. Fair enough, maybe, but I didn’t think and I probably walked past her in 0.5seconds, not closely and certainly didn’t linger.

I couldn’t be bothered saying anything but I did think what a prat especially since all she was buying was a bottle of wine (not essential) and then paid in cash (told to pay by card to minimise risk). I did think if you’re going to criticise people then at least make sure you’re adhering to the rules too.

Saying that she did thank the cashier for his job so probably not all bad. But I’ve got home and I feel really irritated by it now.

I usually avoid the shops so when I see these threads I normally think the people they’re complaining about are in the minority and a few bunch of idiots looking cause a fight when there really is none. But maybe it’s more widespread.

Or maybe I’m the unreasonable one and I should have apologised. AIBU?

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Scissorsnglue · 08/04/2020 20:48

I didn’t deliberately walk closer. It was unthinking yes though
It is lucky for us that the coronavirus only affects people who deliberately go near an infected person, rather than those who do so unthinkingly.

Tootletum · 08/04/2020 20:48

Everyone has misunderstood the purpose of the 2m advice. It's supposed to stop you having a chat with your mates or going for a walk with people for an hour. Walking past someone in a supermarket for half a second represents a totally negligible risk (it needs close contact for >15 mins), so no, you weren't unreasonable but people have gone bonkers. The actual advice from the WHO is also 1m.

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Coronashe · 08/04/2020 20:48

Indeed scissors. It is one thing to be thankful for I guess in these troubling times.

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NoMoreDickheads · 08/04/2020 21:01

YABU, mind where you're going, plus keep your distance. People are dying you know.

Her being crap doesn't excuse anyone else.

Appiandterri · 08/04/2020 21:02

increasing the amount of time you’re in contact with people and potentially spreading and/or contracting the virus?

I wish the stupid woman in the supermarket today had thought about increased time when, after putting an item in her trolley, she rummaged in her handbag after looking at her list, for her pen, ticked the item off her list, put the pen back in her bag, walked to the next item and stopped, put item in her trolley, rummaged in her handbag for her pen, ticked the item off her list, returned pen -over and over again.
Yes I passed her. I held my breath and hoped for the best whilst cursing her idiocy for lingering and delaying other shoppers in a pandemic. Idiot!
Along with two sets of young women, all with prams so clearly not same household, shopping side by side. And people wonder how long the pandemic will go on for -impossible to say with such idiots around.

Dk20 · 08/04/2020 21:04

I made a similar mistake last week. I went to do my shopping, disinfected the trolley, got my shopping, avoided everyone while walking around the supermarket.. then I went to the till and walked straight past the big yellow sticker on the ground that I should have waited behind while the person in front was being served just had a completely lapse in concentration and forgot all about social distancing for those 2 seconds, until I was told to stand back behind the line .
I think it's an easy mistake to make, social distancing is new to us and isn't an instinct. But equally, if someone pointed something like this out to me I would completely respect their point of view. Many people seem agitated at the minute and worried about the virus and this will cause people to snap.

meemaw12 · 08/04/2020 21:11

If I'd have stayed 2 metres away from everyone in tescos today I think I'd still be there trying to get my shopping done. It just isn't possible while people dither.

Sparklesocks · 08/04/2020 21:14

People are anxious and stressed at the moment and more likely to be a bit on edge. Try not to take it to heart, it’s just part of how things are. But also try and keep your distance where you can.

BelfryBat · 08/04/2020 21:14

@meemaw Perhaps you need to be a bit more considerate of other people. What you describe as a 'dither' is probably me reading a label to check I'm not allergic to an ingredient.

AmelieTaylor · 08/04/2020 21:17

What did you get on click & collect?!

Nicketynac · 08/04/2020 21:19

My local supermarket has one way arrows on the floor - I can’t follow them! I assumed it was just me making a wrong turn and getting “trapped” until I heard another customer asking a member of staff how to get to the bread. He said he had tried and tried and couldn’t get to that part of the store

Useryokyesno · 08/04/2020 21:21

It's not reasonable to decide not to keep 2m away because you seem someone is not buying something essential or because they are less than 2m to another person. The rules of social distancing are the rules they're not contingent on others behaviour.

Amotherof6 · 08/04/2020 21:28

YABVU .... you didn't keep the 2m distance - you are being unreasonable and unsafe....

Just because others are idiots you don't have to be one too - no wonder this virus keeps spreading - simple instructions and too many people (YOU) cannot follow them

2m LISTEN 2m and again in case you didn't understand 2m
!

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Coronashe · 08/04/2020 21:29

I get that usery. I’m simply saying there are also rules about not going out to buy non essential items. As PP said up thread people are dying don’t you know.

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Zaphodsotherhead · 08/04/2020 21:30

The shop where I work has a one way system. Signage, arrows on the floor and a member of staff directing at the door.

People STILL wander aimlessly up and down the shop and try to cut the queue down aisle four by standing in aisle three and then trying to dash to the till...

I am losing my faith in humans and their ability to think at all.

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Coronashe · 08/04/2020 21:31

Completely take your point Amotherof6!

Absolutely and the germs I spread in the 0.5s passing her at 1m away has also weighed heavily on my mind not least because in doing so I caused her to open her mouth to give a mealy mouthed retort which in turn increased the likelihood of her inhaling CV germs.

It weighs heavily on me. Oh lord I need brandy.

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eaglejulesk · 08/04/2020 21:32

This. I agree - people are going a bit OTT.

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Coronashe · 08/04/2020 21:34

Ah I know it is OTT. Completely unnecessary to get worked up on Someone walking past you at less than 2m.

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heartsonacake · 08/04/2020 21:35

YABVU. It’s irrelevant what she was doing/buying/how she was standing. You can’t change her behaviour but you can change yours and ensure you stay 2m at all times.

But given your sarcastic, arsey responses to being told YABU I’m not sure why you posted.

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Coronashe · 08/04/2020 21:37

Lighten up heartsonacake.

It’s not really irrelevant as to what’s she’s buying/standing/doing. If it is as serious as it is then people absolutely should not be going out for non essential items and should not be then having a go at someone walking past them. I was causing far less risk than she was with her single purchase of wine and then using different notes that was handing forwards and backwards to pay.

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Coronashe · 08/04/2020 21:38

Also I agree with the 2m overreaction. Walking past someone at less than 2m is not going to pass on coronavirus.

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Amotherof6 · 08/04/2020 21:39

77% think you are being unreasonable

The guidelines apply to everyone even the OP - who felt the need to come here and look for sympathy because someone was in her terms 'passive aggressive' because she couldn't follow 'simple' guidelines... it seems that the country is full of people like the OP that cannot follow simple guidelines hence the virus continues to spread

Probably end up with much stricter rules since people like the OP can't understand that 2m away means 2m and not 0.5m if walking quickly....lol or pmsl whatever you prefer ....(you really cannot make some of this up). Enforced lock down will be inevitable then

heartsonacake · 08/04/2020 21:40

Walking past someone at less than 2m is not going to pass on coronavirus.

Of course it could, don’t be so silly.

And again: it is irrelevant what she does. You cannot control her behaviour, you can only hope to control your own.

This isn’t a case of “But Miss, Miss! She’s doing that so I can do this!!! And that’s much worse!” You’re not a child, you’re a grown adult. Act like one.

Amotherof6 · 08/04/2020 21:41

Totally agree with you ....
heartsonacake Wed 08-Apr-20 21:35:05
YABVU. "But given your sarcastic, arsey responses to being told YABU I’m not sure why you posted."

Some people eh lol .... why do they post ...

Actionhasmagic · 08/04/2020 21:43

Wine is essential. Keep 2m apart

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