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Original poster

To end the relationship

64 replies

9millioncansofbeans · 08/04/2020 07:07

Morning all,

Firstly, I know I can end a relationship over anything.
Secondly, it’s a complicated relationship. We used to date for about 6 months then we broke up. This was two years ago. We’ve stayed close but never got back together as the issues between us are still there.

Anyway, he doesn’t believe covid-19 exists and he does not believe it can be transmitted in the way were being told. He thinks it’s all a conspiracy to remove our human rights. So he is carrying on as normal. On top of everything and all the issues between hd this just feels like the icing on the cake.

Am I unreasonable to have lost any respect for him over this? When we argue over it he says I’m small minded for just believing a government who lies all the time. I’m a nurse and I’m losing colleagues to this virus and his stupidity feels on another level.

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MonaLisaDoesntSmile · 08/04/2020 07:09

Oh dear... Yeah not a relationship I would want to be in...

donquixotedelamancha · 08/04/2020 07:16

Run away.

YeahWhatevver · 08/04/2020 07:18

He sounds like a complete arse.

Definitely get out.

StealthMama · 08/04/2020 07:20

It doesn't sound like there is any relationship other than a past one. Not sure why you are still in contact with him if you are not in a relationship and don't seem to be friends?

Time to move on.

Lllot5 · 08/04/2020 07:30

If you’re not in a relationship why are you even talking to him. Block move on.

Sparklesocks · 08/04/2020 07:35

Would be a firm deal breaker for me. A) because he could infect you through carelessness and B) because I have no interest in sharing my life with someone with such a lack of critical thinking

Original poster
9millioncansofbeans · 08/04/2020 08:08

Thanks all. I’m not physically seeing him at the moment as I’m abiding by the lockdown rules but I didn’t know if I wes over reacting to not want to associate with someone who thinks covid-19 is a conspiracy. He doesn’t believe you can catch any virus or pass them on.
I knew that he believes HIV/Aids is not a real disease but also a made up conspiracy and that was bad enough tbh. And that the Earth is not a globe.

I would class our current relationship as a friendship but with the history of being in love. I’m just checking out if I’m over reacting to this given that emotions and tensions are high. It feels like the icing on the cake of all the ridiculous conspiracies he believes in.

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TorkTorkBam · 08/04/2020 08:10

I could not be friends with someone so stupid. Is he a big stoner?

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9millioncansofbeans · 08/04/2020 08:15

@torktorkbam yes ....
at least 3 joints a day. More often 4.

This was one of the major reasons a relationship between us did not work.

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altiara · 08/04/2020 08:16

I’d find it hard to be friends with someone like this, sounds draining and irritating!

Whathewhatnow · 08/04/2020 08:18

I knew he was a stoner!

Whathewhatnow · 08/04/2020 08:19

Bloody, bloody skunk. It is a menace.

Dozer · 08/04/2020 08:21

You made a big mistake being “friends” (you were / are not friends) and “staying close” to this ex. Would stop all contact.

AtrociousCircumstance · 08/04/2020 08:21

Bloody hell OP, you need to have a good think about why you attached yourself to someone so, so stupid, irresponsible and arrogant.

Dozer · 08/04/2020 08:22

It should have been obvious before / when you dated him that he’s a loser!

Shoxfordian · 08/04/2020 08:23

No vaccine for stupid
Block and delete op

Justrunitunderthetap · 08/04/2020 08:28

Totally sympathise. My partner says he 'sort of gets it', but bends the rules to suit himself. He has issues with what he interprets as being told what to do. I've told him we're over unless he gets a grip.

Luckily, we have separate homes. He asked me to move in during covid-19. I missed out on an opportunity to witness his selfishness on a daily basis, there. What was I thinking?

Completely reasonable grounds to bail out, in your case. Get out while you have the chance and good luck. STAY SAFE.

MysteriesOfTheOrganism · 08/04/2020 08:28

There's a massive difference between having reasonable doubts and being delusional. I know which camp I reckon he's in. Avoid!

HIVpos · 08/04/2020 09:41

I knew that he believes HIV/Aids is not a real disease but also a made up conspiracy and that was bad enough tbh. And that the Earth is not a globe.

As a nurse YABU for not having dumped him when you knew this about him. This would also make me wonder if he’d ever been tested?

hardboiledeggs · 08/04/2020 09:43

Yep, dump him and don't think twice about it. Too many people like him kicking about at the moment sadly.

Cherrysoup · 08/04/2020 09:49

How on earth can you even be friends with such an idiot?

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9millioncansofbeans · 08/04/2020 09:53

@HIVpos I did end the Romantic relationship when I learned of these beliefs, among other things.

I just stayed in contact on a friendship basis. But I’m not sure why. Thank you all for making me realise I’ve been silly to maintain contact. Covid has just highlighted the obvious

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Lllot5 · 08/04/2020 09:54

I can never understand why people have to be friends or stay in contact with an ex. Baffling to me just block him.

Otherrooms · 08/04/2020 09:59

He sounds like a follower of David Icke to me.
End it OP.

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9millioncansofbeans · 08/04/2020 13:44

@Whathewhatnow how did you know? He’s the only person I’ve ever known whose smoked it at all Nevermind On this level

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