AIBU to not report my neighbours?

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My elderly neighbours (80+) have had family visiting. Their daughter, her husband and their son (who live in Sussex, we're in London) arrived in the morning and were still there late afternoon as I could see them relaxing in the garden so it wasn't a quick stop to drop essentials.

AIBU to not report them as it is mainly their own health they are putting at risk?

Why would you report them? As you said, it’s not impacting you or your health. You don’t know what their reasons are for being there so it’s none of your business.

You need to make that decision yourself rather than seeking validation on MN.

So they take an unnecessary trip
Mix households

All this ‘none of your business’ really irks, what if you do all the right things and they don’t, they spread the virus, take up beds, would it be your business then?

What if your sister has to take care of them at the risk to her own life? What if your daughters are caring for them in the wards?

Still none of your business?

The op has no idea why they are doing it, it could be for a perfectly legitimate reason that the op has no way of knowing,

They're keeping it alive even if they are only risking there own health. More risk of spreading it and it not dying out

what legitimate reason could there be.

Do whatever you like.
You seem fully armed with all the facts.
I also quite like the way you've worded your AIBU so it's a bit of a head twister, you should get some nicely skewed votes due to that.

Anyway. Crack on. Report away if you're so inclined. Don't if you aren't certain that you know exactly what you're reporting.

I thought that visiting vulnerable relatives to help take care of them was on the allowed list of social contact. And it didn't have to be any specific visiting frequency, so once every 2 weeks would be allowed.

Do you really think you're protecting people by reporting them, do you quite hate your neighbours? Sticky Beak Out, OP.

Is it possible that they will be staying with them now for the duration of lockdown? Joining households permanently to look after elderly parents?

Why would you report them? As you said, it’s not impacting you or your health. You don’t know what their reasons are for being there so it’s none of your business

Because its because of idiotic selfish people that refuse to follow the guidelines this virus will spread and kill more people, that's everyone's business!!

@GreenTulips Very valid reasons there. 👌

I wouldn't not report them based on the "only hurting themselves" thing, because as others have pointed out, that's simply not true. They are potentially hurting the people who will have to care for them if they do get sick.

The horror some have of "reporting" is ott, imo. Don't do it if you don't want to, but it's not like you're handing them over to some evil executioner in a dystopian film. The worst that could happen is that their pride and pocketbook might take a hit.

Ultimately, it's between you and your conscience. Do what you think is right, on a case-by-case basis.

I’d say don’t report

To clarify, as I didn't mean it to be confusing:
YABU - I should report
YANBU - I should mind my own business

I was not planning to report them, I was on the phone to my brother and mentioned the neighbours and he said I should report them.

Surely you should ask them about it before deciding what to do? How can you report if you don't have the facts? You could be wasting valuable resources if it turns out to be legitimate. All this judgement yet unwillingness to simply ask people directly is a really unhealthy side effect of all this. Talk to them, not Mumsnet.

How do you know all this, do you watch your neighbour's every move and who comes and goes?

I wouldn't report.

But it almost certainly won't just impact their own health. If anyone's health is impacted by this visit (ie. if anyone had the virus) then it is likely to spread way beyond. It will affect other people, if the younger ones caught it and now go back to the shops or to work. If any of them require hospital care they could give it to a health care worker or take resources from someone else who has been doing there best to stick to the rules. On a wider scale, the more people who do things like this the more it will spread, the more those things will happen. Not everyone will have a valid reason.

Very stupid to risk their own health yes, but that's their business. But it wouldn't just be them, it's never just 'them', it's not become a pandemic by staying inside families or homes

Excellent public spirited attitude there OP. Report them. What are you expecting to happen after that? Police arrive with sirens and lights? Armed response maybe? Neighbours dragged out by police and whipped down the road to the village stocks to be pelted with essential rotten fruit? How exciting for you. Perhaps you'll get a public service medal for spying on neighbours? And your brother too. A family award. How lovely.

Of course you don't report. Welfare checks on the elderly and vulnerable are allowed.

Of course they had a rest before going home.

How lovely that that you would contemplate a fine and police visit for your 80 year old neighbours for “ the greater good”.

As if anyone would socially visit their high risk mum and dad if they thought there was a chance they would have it ( ie both groups self isolating). And it sounds like they were apart in the garden.

Friends are visiting elderly parents but social-distancing such as being in gardens.They have weighed it up as necessary. I think you should leave this alone.

OP

No, I wouldn't report them.

It’s not just their own lives though is it? If they get sick then they risk the lives of key workers. I’d have had no hesitation in reporting. A welfare check or taking groceries takes minutes and can be done abiding to the 2m rule.