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How do I keep neighbour happy

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Dknew · 07/04/2020 14:32

Neighbour lives directly above me and works night shifts and is still working now. He sleeps in the day, his rota changes weekly so Its not as if i can just learn the pattern of when he sleeps.

Me and my 2yo daughter are obviously in quarantine and cant go out and shes a very loud child and naturally bored. Every single sound wakes him up, I've even had a sneezing fit and it woke him up and he complained.

He complaings by stamping around for hours and playing his music so loud, we can barely think and it drowns out my alexa so we cant block out the sound. Me and DP have been laughing and joking around and it wakes up him.

He has laminate flooring, and so do I, and thin walls so we can hear everything. I literally dont know how to get DD, DP and I quiet enough so hes happy (this isnt a new problem so it's not just in quarantine).

I understand its stressful working nights and getting woke up by someone else's kids but I dont know what to do. I make DD stay away from her room (his room is above hers), I try to be quiet in the day but nothing literally works, he must be an incredibly light sleeper.

I'm literally at a loss how to keep him happy but not severely disrupt mine and DD life at the same time.

OP posts:
Froq · 07/04/2020 16:53

shes a very loud child

MN: he needs to wear earplugs

Applejaxx · 07/04/2020 16:53

You don’t need to do anything to keep him happy. I’d be telling him to fuck off and get a grip, what you are doing is normal neighbourly noise. He can’t expect you to be completely silent during the day.

category12 · 07/04/2020 16:56

She's a 2 yr old. Gagging children is generally frowned upon.

Janaih · 07/04/2020 16:57

You are both u to have laminate flooring in flats. Get some big rugs. Anything soft helps to muffle sound.

strawberry2017 · 07/04/2020 17:15

Sounds like you just need to have a chat, it's a none ideal situation for everyone at the moment and as a mother of a 2 year old I understand how hard it is to keep them quiet if they don't want to be.
Carpet would help for both of you but probably not a realistic solution at the moment. Do you have any rugs you could put down as a temporary measure? X

ITasteSpring · 07/04/2020 17:15

shes a very loud child

MN: he needs to wear earplugs

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She's two!

Dontjumptoconclusions · 07/04/2020 17:16

Reminds me of my neighbours. I was snoozing in bed this morning and could hear the neighbour having a sneezing fit.

YouDancin · 07/04/2020 17:18

He sounds like a selfish twat and he's making your life miserable. Night shift work entails sleeping in the day. He should ask his colleagues how they cope with it.

You cannot go out with your child and you are only making living sounds in the daytime. There are many ways to drown out noise, earplugs, white-noise apps, etc etc.
I would carry on the way you are and if he complains ask him what he has done to reduce the noise in his flat and that him throwing tantrum fits isn't helpful either.

Dknew · 07/04/2020 19:19

By loud I just mean very giggly, chattery playful normal 2 year old. We are trying to teach her about indoor voices but, being 2, she still gets quite loud when excited or happy. Shes not the quietest of children. She isnt screechy, shouty and she doesnt have many tantrums.

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Dubdubdubtub · 07/04/2020 19:28

I work night shifts and I totally understand why the world has to go on. So I have ear plugs and an eye mask.

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