How are you dealing with exchanging Easter eggs/birthday presents.

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Easter this week (obviously) and my DC’s birthday are coming up. Relatives are insistent they are going to drop Easter eggs and presents to the door.. (won’t come in obviously or get close obviously). Aibu to think this shouldn’t happen as it’s not essential? I live about 10 miles away from family. DC can wait - they have enough from us. I know they don’t want to feel like they are letting the children down but imo it’ll be something for them to look forward to when this finishes - whenever that’ll be!

Oh has collected some things from the in laws - he is going shopping for them so has to drop shopping on her step.. she bought things for the kids a while ago. She also lives down the road from his place of work so that’s a little different.

But to think my family should just leave it for now?

Thanks all. My relatives have already bought eggs and presents a while ago so already have it all but my children can wait 😊

We aren't. Easter eggs we just won't bother with (except for our household). Birthday presents will be bought and exchanged once this is over.

I'm buying and sending cards until my stamps run out.

@CherryPavlova if they didn't want their money going straight into the trash then they learned quickly. I restricted presents for several reasons. The main 1 being weight allowances for several international moves. Its pointless for people to buy gifts and then us have to throw it in the trash in less than 2 years.
2) We didn't have the room for the absolite crap. Up until 11 months ago we didn't really jave a choice of where we lived. We got housing that was assigned to us based on the number of children we had and their sex
3) Experience gifts are much better than shit that is going to in the trash. Eventually it all ends up in the trash. Experiences last forever

Leannb I agree experience can be a better gift. You simply said no gifts.

Ex Bil dropped off an egg for DS while he was walking at the weekend, DM can either leave them on her doorstep or mine to be picked up as she lives across the road and I'll buy a couple of eggs when I go shopping this week.

The egg hunt is going to be gloriously crap this year, DMs garden is full of different areas with all sorts of hiding places, mine is flat grass. It's going to be a time trial year

@CherryPavlova I should have been more clear. But yeah I put a stop to the crap years and years ago. When we were living in Osaka my parents and in laws kept sending boxes and boxes of crap to my oldest and then got irrationally mad 2 years later when they found out it was either thrown away or given away

Leannb I do understand no desire for plastic tat! I’d love to visit Japan....maybe an after virus treat.

I have eggs for nieces and nephews but they won't get them until all this is over. However 3 of dd's friends live on our street so we were going to leave those ones on their doorsteps - is that ok?

I put a stop to presents years and years ago. My children get 1 gift for their birthday and Christmas from Grandparents. They don't get gifts during the rest of the year. No one else in the family is allowed to give my children gifts

The ones from my side can wait. I know my DM bought them before lockdown.

DH's side have cancelled. I said to him to message his sibling What's App group. One sibling confessed to having already ate them. However I'm thinking we'll do something with the cousins when we are able to get them all together. Not sure if it will feature chocolate or not.

I've been using Amazon to deliver birthday gifts to people. We don't really buy Easter eggs for anyone except the kids so that's not an issue. My parents asked me to get eggs for my kids when I was doing their shopping and in-laws transferred money for the same thing.

I wouldn't think walking to someone's house and delivering a gift would be a problem, it would be your daily exercise. Driving to do the same is a bit more of an issue.

I bought a friends Birthday gift and delivered it in a bin bag 72 hours in advance and left it in her back garden.
She opened it on her Birthday...job done!

We buy our DCs Easter eggs. We don't expect anyone else to buy them!
My DM doesn't normally buy eggs but she has ordered the DCs some presents which already came.

I’ve been buying stuff online for birthdays and having it delivered to the persons house directly. Just ordered a bike to go to my godson for his birthday next Monday. It’s what I do a lot anyway as I live in London and a lot of my side of the family are in Northern Ireland where I’m from.

I didn't know giving kids Easter eggs from other relatives was a thing. Mine are teens now but I've bought a few eggs with my weekly shops, so have enough. They've never had eggs given to them from a body else.
I'm sure your kids don't need any more eggs and birthday presents from relatives can come when this is over. Delayed gratification is a good lesson.

I bought eggs from BIL with our shopping and his GF bought eggs for her kids from us with their shopping. The kids still get their egg "from" their Uncle/Aunt, but there's no journeys.

We used to hide small eggs (the wrapped ones slightly bigger than mini eggs) round the house for DS to find when he was little. He wasn’t overly fussed by chocolate at that age so large Easter eggs were a waste of time. If he got given any proper Easter eggs at that age I just ate them

Just a suggestion if people don’t have much space or many eggs for an Easter egg hunt.

I normally send Easter Eggs/chocolates to nephews/nieces but just doing a family card this year. Might just buy one large Easter Egg to share for us. Have got all the ingredients to make a Simnel cake apart from flour

@ineedaholidaynow - forget the cake, just eat the marzipan

@EveryDayIsADuvetDay to be fair that is the only bit I like. But DH and DS love fruit cake. I had also bought some mini eggs to top a sponge cake for me. Think we will just be eating the cake decorations without any cake!

We are shielding (I have severe asthma) we dropped of some presents for our nieces and nephew who along with their parent have ended up staying at my mils (house renovation unavoidable), we had already been in for 2 weeks and left them outside and left , I've told my mil to not worry about getting our children Easter eggs they have ones here & are harder to get as they need to be dairy free , my niece is dairy free too and I'm making little chocolates in moulds so before Easter , my husband will drop of a bag with chocolates in for them again outside and will drive and make no contact we've been at home 4weeks by then (others are shopping for us & we are very careful with post et c ), our nieces birthday is soon we will funkypigeon or Amazon a present over to her , they can quarantine the parcel for a while before she has it x that s how we will deal with it x

Amazon is our friend. We ordered eggs for the grandkids a couple of weeks ago and I know they have been delivered. Some of them live hours away so no chance of delivering them personally - and we aren't going shopping at the moment so probably wouldn't have been able to get them for those that live locally anyway.

There's six of us. My brother lives alone. He's already started managing expectations in the family whatsapp that my children might not ever get to see this year's eggs because they have fallen victim to his stomach coronavirus. I am cursing him for buying DD's birthday presents off Amazon weeks ago and not getting them sent directly here though. I can't see him playing with them either.

My partners parents are dropping eggs to us for the kids.

We have told them no and it can pretty til after but they won’t listen.

My sister lives 5 minute walk away so Easter eggs and birthday present for my nephew will be left on the doorstep during a daily walk.