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Kissing family

32 replies

gillys · 06/04/2020 19:57

Am I being over cautious or sensible here?
PiL dropped off some milk + bread at ours after going shopping. DH hugged + kissed his mum. I had a go at him saying he should keep his distance, especially as they've just been to a supermarket. He thinks I'm being paranoid. He has been popping to theirs to visit them over the last couple of weeks. I'm completely avoiding my parents to protect them.
He's making out that in being over the top + need to calm down. Both sets of parents are over 70.

OP posts:
ShinyMe · 06/04/2020 19:59

He's a bloody idiot.

WickedlyPetite · 06/04/2020 19:59

This is why we're going to be in lockdown 'till Christmas.

Because of fuckwits like your DH. What an utter gobshite.

TriciaMcMillan · 06/04/2020 20:00

Of course you shouldn't be hugging and kissing, but why are they out shopping if they're over 70 AND dropping off things for you???

2beautifulbabs · 06/04/2020 20:02

No your not being over the top your DH needs to adhere to the rules like the rest of us
Like you op I haven't seen any of my family or my in-laws it's just me my DH and DCs.

He's at risk of getting it from them or them from him if he keeps doing that he should stay away to keep you all safe 🤦🏻‍♀️ it's a hard time on us all right now and millions of us are scared and would love nothing more than to be able to give our loved ones massive hugs and kisses but for the safety of everyone it's best to stay well away until it is safe to do so

Mrsmadevans · 06/04/2020 20:04

He's an arrogant, ignorant, thick as pigshit, imbecile.

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gillys · 06/04/2020 20:23

@TriciaMcMillan they think they're invincible. They also go to the stables everyday & she's been out riding on her horse.
I didn't ask for the items they just thought they'd get them(:milk & bread) i didn't need any milk as I have plenty.

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WickedlyPetite · 06/04/2020 20:25

I can honestly say that in this scenario I'd be telling 'D'H to fuck off and live with mummy and daddy - while I keep myself and my kids safe.

EatDessertFirst · 06/04/2020 20:27

Agreeing with PP. You DH is a selfish bellend.
Our children can't go to school, people can't work and mostly PEOPLE ARE DYING because of wankbadgers like him.

His parents are just as bad. He should go live with them, to keep you and your DC safe.

raspberryk · 06/04/2020 20:27

You married into a family of idiots, sadly.

MrsT1405 · 06/04/2020 20:27

This is why you need a complete Spanish style lockdown. What's not to understand? Send him home to his mum.

JohnCo · 06/04/2020 20:28

Earlier today I watched as the parents of a neighbour dropped off food. The parents stayed 3 or 4 metres away and stood and chatted, that was sensible.

NoSauce · 06/04/2020 20:28

Why are you letting them in? Why aren’t you insisting they drop the food off at the door and only open it once they’ve gone?

Honest to god.

Original poster
gillys · 06/04/2020 20:43

@NoSauce Did I say i let them in ? No I didn't. They parked over the road DH went out to them. I also didn't ask for the food..

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AlbusSeverusPotter13 · 06/04/2020 20:44

Mucking out stables and riding horses, fine. NOT keeping a 2m distance etc NOT FINE.

Pinkblueberry · 06/04/2020 20:50

No it’s not ok. If kissing was ok right now then why would we all be keeping 2 meters from others and not socialising outside our household. It doesn’t take much common sense to understand - does the government really need to add ‘no kissing people outside your household’ to the list of things you shouldn’t do - it’s common sense and surely doesn’t need spelling out. You’re DH is being an idiot.

NoSauce · 06/04/2020 20:50

You said they “dropped off milk and bread” not that DH went across the road to them.

Original poster
gillys · 06/04/2020 20:54

@Nosauce. Very pedantic. As far as I'm concerned driving to our house & giving my Dh shopping is dropping it off !

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IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord · 06/04/2020 20:55

*Nosauce being across the street from her house is dropping off.

She never said she let them in. Read before you lecture.

RickOShay · 06/04/2020 20:56

We are not in lockdown just because people weren’t social distancing. There are other reasons.
Your dh shouldn’t be kissing his mum, of course not, but there are other factors at play.

NoSauce · 06/04/2020 20:57

I’m not lecturing. The first post reads as though they came in the house. Not going to argue, hope you can get your husband to see what a fuckwit he’s being.

RickOShay · 06/04/2020 20:57

Not sure how calling him an idiot fuckwit gobshite is helping anyone

Smileyaxolotl1 · 06/04/2020 21:04

Yanbu at all and of course you are not being over cautious. You are not supposed to go within 2m of anyone outside your household.
Agree with pps - if he wants to touch his family that much that he is willing to risk your family’s health he should go to live with them.

losingmymindiam · 06/04/2020 21:05

Seriously this lockdown is sending people nuts in here. Some of you are ridiculous in your responses. OP you are right, he shouldn't be hugging and kissing them. They should be staying at home. Have a sensible conversation with him. Show him some of the nhs workers stories etc.

Distressingtimes · 06/04/2020 21:09

giving my Dh shopping is dropping it off !

It isn’t. Items being dropped off are supposed to be put on the doorstep. They are supposed to step back at least 2M before someone picks up the bag.

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