To feel guilty I can't do a weekly shop?

[oliviaskies]

Title, really. Only have an under counter fridge, no freezer, very small cupboard space and I can't carry a lot anyway, honestly because I'm extremely weak (medical reason). I have a teen DD who I don't really trust to follow rules closely enough without me there (very very impulsive), who has a lot of allergies/intolerances (can't have gluten, egg, dairy) so sometimes they don't have things in stock that she can eat.
At the moment I'm having to go to the shop basically daily to ensure me and DD can eat and it's making me feel extremely down and guilty. AIBU? Anyone in a similar situation? I feel like I'm part of the problem.

YANBU there's really no need to feel guilty. Avoid the judgy threads on here if they're contributing to your anxiety. Decent people accept that most people are trying their best to minimise risk within the remit of thir own circumstances. Lots of people will still need to visit shops most days as they can't afford to buy several days of food at once, can't carry it home, or don't have the means to store it. Just minimise risk as much as you can by not touching or coughing on everything on the shop and maintaining a distance of 2m from people and washing hands (which I'm sure you're already doing).

If you don’t have trim in the kitchen could you store times/packets, under beds, behind the sofa, bottom of wardrobe etc.
Maybe ask dd to come with you and explain that it’s only once a week, she may feel better about that than thinking she may have to go everyday.

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Do you have a bike? Even if you aren't confident riding at the moment, you can hang a lot of weight from the handlebars and push it. If it has a rack, that's more weight still - I reckon I could load mine with about 50kg (if I didn't plan to ride it home).

Are you able to get the gluten free foods you need? Round here, gluten free pasta has disappeared entirely, and gluten free flour is hard to find. So you might want to have a bit spare anyway.

bathorshower I don't, as I'm trying my best to avoid unnecessary exercise and worry about having a bike, plus I don't have anywhere to store it if I did have one. I'm struggling with gluten free stuff, especially considering a lot of gluten free pastas contain egg which she can't have. It's already a struggle haha

If you are going as infrequently as you reasonably can, then that's fine.

But, reading between the lines, i think this might have more to do with your eating disorder than your lack of storage. You say you've avoided having a stash of food because of it, need to avoid repeatedly going to and down stairs etc. Given if you need to self isolate, you won't be able to go to the shops (and the more frequently you shop, the more likely you needing to self isolate is), I think perhaps finding some strategies to manage your anxiety over getting food in, might be helpful.

I understand that you aren't very strong at the moment, but 2 people don't need huge volumes of food, and a backpack and a bag should do you for a couple of days at least, so I don't think you really need to go daily. If they don't have the free from foods, could you just use regular food that avoids the allergens (or potatoes or ride rather than pasta)

@oliviaskies, taking it up multiple flights of stairs was exactly what I had to do. You can get ones with triple wheels which are designed for going up a bit at a time - I didn't have one of those, but it was still easier to lift/pull it up a step at a time, resting between floors, than making multiple trips.

Babyboom I think that is a big part of it, yes. The longer we're in lockdown the worse I feel myself getting, so I'm definitely struggling as all my usual coping mechanisms have been completely thrown. It's more having to make sure I have the right stuff, and most weeks I'm not shopping quite daily but if I can't find anything that me or DD can eat I just go the next day rather than trying to find it in another shop, as I feel that might be better, although I'm not sure why I think that.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself op. Just maybe have a plan b to use just in case you have to self isolate but if what your doing now works for you then that’s fine and you have nothing to feel guilty for.