Jumping the queue possibly because you're a teacher?

[triedandtestedteacher]

So today I had to take my dd6 with me to the shops. We both donned masks to go. There were two shops next to each other. One with a queue of about 6 people and one with about 2. We joined the longer queue and got to third in the queue with about 3 people behind us when this woman came up and just hopped in front of me. At first I wondered whether she was queuing for the adjacent shop but she was standing very close to the last woman in front ( everyone else was at least 2 metres apart) and looking round furtively because she knew she'd jumped in. My dd who is very ...well 6 started pulling at me and going on and on about how she's pushed in and asking why etc. So I say to the woman 'excuse me? Are you queuing for x shop or x shop' to which she replied that she was queuing for the shop that I was queuing for. I told her that there was a queue and she'd jumped in. Next news her rather large husband appeared and informed me I was pathetic and to go in ahead if I was so bothered. I then said that there was actually at least 3 people she'd jumped in front of. The woman then started ranting at me that I was setting a bad example to my dd to be so rude? I replied that no I was showing her that sometimes you have to call people out when they're being rude and inconsiderate. Unfortunately a shopper two people back shouted 'do we really need this? Isn't there more important things? Anyway you've got a kid with you, shouldn't be out'. The women who had pushed in then repeated how rude and pathetic I was and followed it up with 'I'm a teacher'. Now I'm not sure what she thought the relevance of that was. That she should get priority queuing or that she had a right to tell me how to behave in front of my dd because she was a teacher? I didn't get to ask her because she was then allowed into the shop leaving me to fume outside at the audacity of the woman. I'm a teacher myself but wouldn't attempt to use it to win a disagreement. AIBU? Would you have said anything?

@Letseatgrandma I meant he was a bit intimidating, general attitude and stature not fat

So you got called out for having your DD with you, but it was apparently ok for her to go shopping with her DH? What's with all these grown up adults who are apparently unable to go shopping without their DP? Do they need their hands holding?

I wonder why her husband was out with her?

Cross post, sorry.

A teacher who doesn't understand what queues are for? Aren't teachers supposed to teach by example?

As for the silly remark about you having your child with you... words fail me.

I queued for 30 mins to get into a supermarket the other week and was nearly at the doors when a woman walked up to the trolleys at the door, clocked the queue and the woman ahead of me with her head in her phone and just did a sort of crabwalk to position herself in front of the phone woman.

Then did the whole, "oh is there a queue? I didn't notice" and while I was going yes, it starts back there pointing around the back of the carpark, the woman said it's "ok, go in front of me". Then the doors opened, let another group in, ending with the CF who looked back and smirked

I hope she dropped her eggs and milk on the way home!

What was OP supposed to do with her 6 year old? Leave her home alone 🙄

When her husband said to go ahead if you were bothered-why didn't you?

@FlaviaAlbiaWantsLangClegBack I hate that. It's all very well letting someone go infront of you if it's only you inconvenienced but you can not be generous on behalf of a queue of other people. That's such bad queue etiquette

why were you out with you're child in the first place.

What, she should have left him at home, a 6yr old? Its not a one size fits all rule. Our supermarket is restricting how many people are allowed in at once but they are not stopping kids coming in, its pretty crap if you cannot shop without your kids for any of the many reasons that could apply to op. And if you want to get anything useful you need to go during the day when possible because your dp may not get home until late, whether they are male or female and the shelves are empty.
Sick to death of kids being targeted as plague carriers when adults are just as likely to be picking up and puting back products on the shelves as they check ingredients, cooking times etc. (supermarket worker here so I have seen this more times than I can remember and I am sure I do it myself, plus people putting things down in a totally different place as they decided that something else fits thier needs more so staff have to put them back in the right place) And how many times have items been handled before they go on the shelves?

Op was not in the wrong here, the CF was.

I'm a teacher and I think she was a twat! How awful for you and your dd. I had a convo with my DH earlier about shopping. I said we could go early as I'm a key worker and initially shops said key workers could use the early slots but he said it's now changed to just emergency workers. I replied saying fair enough and tbh I'd feel awkward and am entitled CF to que early just because I was allowed. Teachers are NOT EMERGENCY WORKERS yes we're important but that's it, a cog an important cog but not the biggest one.

I know! I suppose we can console ourselves that we don't live with these idiots...

And not am!!!!!

Omg where's the wine 'an entitled cf' it should have been!

@diddl I didn't because a)to have moved anymore forward would have taken me and my dd very close to the woman, her husband and the woman infront of them ( as they were standing too close) b) it was more than just me she'd pushed infront of

There's got to be more to the story surely? What teacher would actually find it totally acceptable to blatantly cut a queue especially in these difficult times. The fact that no one defended you makes me think there is more to it.

Was the person in front family member. In any case, if you are all waiting 2m apart, how could she had got in front unless only 1m from each?

She and her husband were obnoxious! I bet as a teacher one of the things she insists upon is that her class can kind up nicely. So she was the one setting the terrible example not you! Not to mention the fact that she wasn't respecting the 2m distancing rules. She behaved appallingly and she knew it but was probably too embarrassed to agree that she was just chancing her luck and to slope off to the back of the queue.

Surely if people are frustrated by confrontation happening in front of them that's the fault of the person who barged in not the person who asked them to behave with a bit of courtesy.

It's all very well giving it the 'haven't we got bigger things to worry about?' line, but where does it end?

Queue jumper - let it go, we've got bigger things to worry about
Person threatening you in the street - let it go, we've got bigger things to worry about
Person breaking into your home - let it go...etc etc.

There will ALWAYS be people with bigger things to worry about and others who think that good manners and behaviour should be adhered to, whatever the circumstances. If we all start excusing bad behaviour because we should all be worrying about other things, then the bad behaviour will just get worse, surely.

Well, I'm a single parent and a keyworker (NHS) but I would never think about jumping a queue because I'm fit enough to wait my turn and don't have to work weekends (yet). So I think this woman was an appalling CF and rude with it.

My kids are older teens so they stay home.

@dontdisturbmenow there is. I've worked out what she did now. Basically the shop next door is a small independent with some goods outside. So when they both appeared from the car park he started browsing the goods outside the shop and she sort of stood where you couldn't tell if she was queuing in the queue for that shop while he collected the goods they wanted or the shop I was queuing for. She though nobody would notice

Surely if she pushed in, she would have broken the 2m distance rule?

*line up not kind up

I've not been in a proper big shop for a couple of weeks now. I feel like I'd have gone all Michael Douglas in Falling Down or cried my eyes out. I'd have still said something to her though. YWNU.

@ineedaholidaynow yes she did she was practically up the bum of the woman infront of me but they def weren't together