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To marvel at the curtain twitching and spite

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viques · 03/04/2020 15:02

You know when they had witch burnings, public hangings, or if you are French , public executions by guillotine? Well I now realise that they weren't exaggerating the crowds that turned up to enjoy the spectacle judging by the number of nasty , spiteful posts today frothing at the mouth about how their neighbours are using schools, getting deliveries, standing too close, etc etc etc . I think the posters who are hoiking their judgey pants so dangerously close to their tonsils are the same ones who would be denouncing their neighbours to the witch finder, the revolutionary committees and magistrates before packing a picnic and their knitting and taking themselves off for a day trip to the village pond or the local prison.

I know MN can be a playground for mean girls, I know everyone is stressed and anxious, but omg this virus is bringing out the worst in some people.

Chill out guys, eat Cake if you have it and cuddle a Bear to get your blood pressure down.

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Stuckforthefourthtime · 04/04/2020 08:50

It's not fine at all. What gets posted on MN is what a lot of people are thinking while outwardly seeming normal

Agree. And plenty of people are posting hateful crap on our local (usually very friendly) FB pages too, if that's what they'll post under their real names and faces, then I think their real thoughts would make MN right now look downright saintly...

MovingBriskyOn · 04/04/2020 08:57

I love that image @Deathraystare

LockdownLucy · 04/04/2020 13:51

It's definitely become more spiteful and less empathetic since the lockdown. People are running on fumes. Patience is in short supply.

Justincasecakehappens · 04/04/2020 13:56

You can't expect people to be empathetic when everybody is in the exact same boat, and the actions of a few selfish or irresponsible ones are directly impacting everybody else.

Stuckforthefourthtime · 04/04/2020 14:08

You can't expect people to be empathetic when everybody is in the exact same boat, and the actions of a few selfish or irresponsible ones are directly impacting everybody else.

But we're not always in a position to know or judge. The woman who doesn't work but sends her kid to school could have a mental health issue that has led her doctor to recommend this. The person who is running daily, or the family who are at the park and s bit slow to get to the side, and who you think should stay home, could have a heart condition that requires exercise, and/or a tiny flat with a downstairs neighbour who screams every time they do more than tiptoe. And many of those who judge aren't ideal either - maybe someone's judging you for doing small shops 3 times a week, not realising that you don't have a car to transport it home, and are trying to help by leaving delivery slots for those who need them most.

Maybe if we are all a bit nicer, this lockdown will feel quicker...

BronwenFrideswide · 04/04/2020 14:29

You can't expect people to be empathetic when everybody is in the exact same boat, and the actions of a few selfish or irresponsible ones are directly impacting everybody else.

The thread yesterday about the poster's neighbours still taking their children to school nursery was not directly impacting her or anyone else in any way at all, it was just spiteful know-all know fuck all nosiness.

People who drive to take exercise or walk their dogs in an isolated are are not directly impacting anybody.

People having a barbeque in their own garden with members of their own household are not directly impacting anybody.

I could go on.

cologne4711 · 04/04/2020 14:31

You can't expect people to be empathetic when everybody is in the exact same boat, and the actions of a few selfish or irresponsible ones are directly impacting everybody else

but they're not directly affecting me. If someone decides to drive down the road to take their dog for a walk that doesn't affect me. (and it definitely doesn't "impact" me, thank goodness).

Justincasecakehappens · 04/04/2020 14:34

The thread yesterday about the poster's neighbours still taking their children to school nursery was not directly impacting her or anyone else in any way at all,

Confused you don't get the point of lockdown at all do you? Of course bringing kids to school when not absolutely necessary impact us all! I might as well go and have my hair done otherwise. I wouldn't be in contact with key workers if you look at it that way.

What is it that people cannot understand about the lockdown and the point of STAYING HOME, not mixing with anyone else, unless absolutely necessary!

Key workers love to bring their kids who will be in contact with others who shouldn't be there.

Justincasecakehappens · 04/04/2020 14:36

Maybe if we are all a bit nicer, this lockdown will feel quicker...

or maybe if we all realise the rules apply to EVERYBODY and no one is special enough to ignore them, it would end a bit quicker...

BronwenFrideswide · 04/04/2020 14:38

Get a grip Justincascakehappens the poster whose neighbours children are still going to school and nursery had no fucking idea why they were and it could be for any number of absolutely necessary reasons none of which are any business of the poster or anyone else.

Justincasecakehappens · 04/04/2020 14:45

BronwenFrideswide
you are the one who needs to get a grip if you think actions have no consequences on anyone else.

Everybody seem to think they are "special" these days. So yes, others will judge.

JustAnotherPoster00 · 04/04/2020 14:48

I think some people have persuaded themselves that 'going out = now infected'

I never understood the mentality behind the witch trials, how could people become so hysterical that they were murdering women, now I know

BronwenFrideswide · 04/04/2020 14:52

Always a good idea to judge and tittle-tattle without any knowledge of the facts or circumstances, eh? Neither you nor anyone else is entitled to know explicit details about other people why not just accept that those neighbours children are accessing school and nursery perfectly legitimately.

iCorona · 04/04/2020 14:55

There is a massive difference between coming to an anonymous forum to vent about the selfish behaviour of others and burning a human being alive.

BronwenFrideswide · 04/04/2020 14:58

I disagree iCorona judging by some of the threads and posts on MN it is a very small step.

BeetrootRocks · 04/04/2020 14:59

Lol at great example of case in point arriving on thread Grin

iCorona · 04/04/2020 14:59

@BronwenFrideswide then I think you may need to look closer to home for hysteria

Justincasecakehappens · 04/04/2020 15:03

I think some people have persuaded themselves that 'going out = now infected'

I think some people have persuaded themselves that they have some magical immunity and they can keep doing as they please, and the current lockdown only applies to everyone else.

And that NHS workers are just exaggerating when they are begging people to stay home...

Macncheeseballs · 04/04/2020 15:05

OP judging all the people judging Hmm

Orangeblossom78 · 04/04/2020 15:12

I overheard two police officers here in the park on horses..saying 'sitting on a bench is not exercising'.

Thought that was a bit OTT- some people are older / maybe with illness which mean they need to stop for a rest...

Orangeblossom78 · 04/04/2020 15:13

And they are in horseback sitting down Grin

BronwenFrideswide · 04/04/2020 15:14

Uh no iCorona I'm completely calm and rational and don't spend my day twitching the curtain spying on my neighbours like a number of posters on here who then want to denounce said rule breakers, even if the rules are ones said posters have just made up, report them, have them arrested, locked up, denied treatment should they fall ill, all of which have been said in abundance on here.

GoofyLuce · 04/04/2020 15:15

I think people are getting angry because this such a bloody serious situation! It frustrating to see people breaking the rules that are put in place to protect the NHS therefore protecting us all!

longwayoff · 04/04/2020 15:17

Cabin fever everywhere. Time we all took a nice, calming stroll, singly, obviously. Please post an explanatory note in your window and don't breathe whilst out.

VenusTiger · 04/04/2020 15:20

You can't expect people to be empathetic when everybody is in the exact same boat, and the actions of a few selfish or irresponsible ones are directly impacting everybody else.

Totally agree - we have now been "instructed" (M Hancock's words) and yet there are people who think this doesn't apply to them, thus showing their bad attitude entitlement - although, I'm a firm believer in saying what you mean, and meaning what you say, in which case, if you find your neighbours ignoring the instructions, then phone them and tell them how you feel about it - they live next door to you and DO have an impact on your lives.

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