To ask you all to be a little more kinder to each other?

[DiscordandRhyme]

It's that everyone is struggling at the moment.

There is no one person or group of people that is suffering hardest - we are all taking a toll because we need to do what is right for the majority, as well as ourselves.

Instead of dissing the middle class as they 'finally get it' when it comes to money struggles or chuckling at the unemployed Mum as she 'can't possibly find this hard' - there's no need to play pity party top trumps.

Instead, can we actually help each other by sharing our knowledge or ideas. If we feel we must judge, is it not near to scroll past that particular post?

Nobody is less deserving of sympathy here-- we are all struggling for our own reasons.

I know IANBU to want it but likely U to expect it when people are stressed as hell.

I agree. But I doubt this thread will go well.

Your title is hurting my eyes.

It’s be more kind or be kinder to each other!

tongue in cheek

Some people are less deserving of sympathy and they take their chances on an open forum, especially at the moment.

I agree OP.

YANBU OP.

@jim apologies wine has been had, rarity during the week.

@anne get what you mean in that some people seem to want sympathy for very little - but then everyonecopes with different levels of pressure.

I think you're right. Regardless of everyones situation, we didnt have long to prepare for this, and no ones just sailing through life with the complexities this virus has caused. Everyones losing out in one way or another, so we should all try to be as kind as we can.

A very good opening post, Discord. Yes, we do need to be more tolerant and kind, it's so easy to be annoyed at 'little things'.

This is my new account as lost password to last one but yes it's such a shame to see everyone complaining instead of just knuckling down.

It's awful on here atm, it really is...

Good post OP.

Yes be kind. I have a list of who suffesr most

1. Those who are ill
2. Those who have lost everything financially
3. Those caring for the sick but at least still have a job and enough money to buy food
4. Those with no state help - no furlough, no self employed help
5. Parents at home working full time with under 4s around and no childcare.

etc etc

There has bee a lot of vying for who has it worse on here, especially dividing people into age groups, kids have it worse, the middle aged have it worse, the over 65s ard selfish bastards/ have it worse. I really don't see the point in this. It is shit for everyone in different ways. It isn't a competition.

Yeah it does seem to be a misery competition. I don't think I have it worse at all. I still feel low of mood but acknowledge I'm incredibly lucky.

Yes be kind. I have a list of who suffesr most

Why do you need a list? Why not just be kind to everyone? Competitive misery helps nobody

I quite agree. Most people are doing their best.

Yes you are right although the 'be kind' thing kind of grates as its usually the people who are least kind who are spreading it on SM considering other peoples circumstances are not the same as yours seems to be an impossible concept on here at the moment so not many on here will want to listen.

Its always been a vipers pit for some things but its gone cosmic recently with poster vying to post the nastiest response to anyone who asks a question, or who points out that 'their rules' are not the actual guidelines.
I ignore much of MN these days apart from a few sensible, threads where people are doing their best and following rules in circumstances unknown previously in our lifetime yet can still carry on with life, not competing to be the best at isolation nor social distancing, being stoic, no curtain twitching, etc and perish the thought having a laugh, just following guidelines and making the best of it!. Its a real shame as I love this site for its usual articulate and sensible advice, support and great for a laugh. Not any more. Its actually quite a scary reflection on society as a whole just now and it aint pretty.

Is there a clap for it?

On a serious note, I agree some behaviour is disgusting

This is a horrible site at the moment, everyone attacking each other, have decided to give it a break for a while, no doubt cue sarcastic remarks, “off you flounce”, etc, because really it doesn’t matter to anyone, but I hate to see the casual nastiness on here when we could really do with supporting each other, never more so than now

I don't think people should say "mn is horrible" or the site when they are talking about AIBU. I haven't seen anything described on property or gardening.

I don't think people should say "mn is horrible" or the site when they are talking about AIBU
Its not just AIBU though its every thread that mentions anything that goes against 'my rules' as interpreted by 'me'.

There seems to be a lack of kindness and empathy to those who are struggling with the lockdown, indeed it is reported today that women and the young are being most affected by it, so unsure why this is on here.

i do wonder if some on MN are possibly more wealthy and therefore it might affect them less perhaps.

Well a thread where the OP came for help has just been deleted because a particular poster decided to merail with increasingly unkind posts.

Real shame HQ allow that to happen rather than deleting posts.

So yes, MN is more unkind but the inconsistent modding has to be held at least partially culpable.