In thinking this 'pregnant' April Fool's is is revolting?

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For context I've suffered for years with infertility and many miscarriages. By some miracle managed to have ds.

My Mum told me this morning that my brother and his girlfriend were pregnant. After a while I realised it's April 1st. Asked if it was a joke. It was.

My Mum's a clever woman, surely she could see how utterly cruel a joke this was?

Not to add that my other brother (not her son) died a couple of days ago so I'm feeling raw from that.

I've had a strained relationship with her and she's been having moments of being pretty unpleasant to me recently.

Aibu in thinking she must have known how awful a thing this was to say?

I don't want to over react but I feel like this is a tipping point, I've had enough.

I'm sorry to hear about your brother - utterly horrible for you

Really sorry to hear about your brother. Could I make a suggestion? Theres a podcast by Carriad Lloyd called Griefcast, which I found really helpful. I think especially now when you dont have normal access to your friends it might be worth a listen. It just makes you feel less alone, and shes v good at expressing what ou might be feeling at any point.

Are you sure you love her? Would it not be more accurate to say she brought you up and you have shared history?
You only know her.
You perhaps love the idea of the mother you wanted.

Sorry about your brother.

I've tried really hard to maintain a relationship with her.
Why?

Please stop trying really hard to maintain a relationship with someone who is utterly vile. It's just not a good thing to do.

Just don't contact her now. At all.

You’re mother is a viscous, spiteful woman. Go NC and don’t look back. Nobody needs this shit in their life, DNA or no DNA.

And it's interesting, when I twigged and messaged, 'wait is this an April Fool's joke?' And got 'yes' and then said 'so his girlfriend ISN'T pregnant?' and got a 'no' there was no more conversation after that. And usually we'd say goodbye etc.

DH has said today that he sees a pattern in her doing/saying something awful to upset me and then weaponising (no idea where he got that phrase from, he very uninterested in feelings etc generally) it with the rest of my family as she always goes around the whole family saying how over sensitive I am and how I'm upset with her.

It's hard to go non contact as she lives with others in my family, and lives near my Grandma and Uncle (who are wonderful but as I just said, she always twists everything to make me look ridiculous). I don't want to lose the relationships with the rest of my family, I love them dearly. I would have gone non contact with her years ago if it wasn't for them.

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