In thinking this 'pregnant' April Fool's is is revolting?

[brightfiresout]

For context I've suffered for years with infertility and many miscarriages. By some miracle managed to have ds.

My Mum told me this morning that my brother and his girlfriend were pregnant. After a while I realised it's April 1st. Asked if it was a joke. It was.

My Mum's a clever woman, surely she could see how utterly cruel a joke this was?

Not to add that my other brother (not her son) died a couple of days ago so I'm feeling raw from that.

I've had a strained relationship with her and she's been having moments of being pretty unpleasant to me recently.

Aibu in thinking she must have known how awful a thing this was to say?

I don't want to over react but I feel like this is a tipping point, I've had enough.

Cruel

what a bitch

Pregnancy April fools are never ok, they are very poor taste

Pregnancy April fools in general annoy me. Coming from your mum directly at you is just horrid especially give your circumstances

There's nothing funny about that, especially for someone in your position, OP.

I'm so sorry for your losses.

I would take a big step back from your mum.

I'm sorry, OP. I've been in your situation with infertility, and also have one DC (and will now only ever have one). It's an indescribably painful thing to go through.

Sending you empathy on your many losses, including the most recent loss of your brother. You'd think this would not be beyond even the most basic mother worthy of the name, let alone an internet stranger.

She knew what she was doing. This is gratuitous. She's horrible.

@brightfiresout YANBU, what a stupid, ridiculous, and cruel 'jape.'

And I am so sorry about your brother.

The 'I am pregnant' April fools 'joke' is pathetic and old, and as some people have said, it's in poor taste, and it has never been funny.

As for the 53 y.o pretending she is pregnant (that @MagnoliaJustice mentioned,) how embarrassing. I am not a million miles off that age, and if I did that, my (adult) DC would be so mortified that they would probably unfriend and block me from social media, and ghost me for a few months.

And no-one would have a 'surprise pregnancy' at that age. They would only be pregnant at 53, if it was IVF or donor eggs.

Yadnbu. Thankfully I haven't seen anything on Facebook yet but after 15 years of infertility and 4 miscarriages any twat that does post one will be getting blocked and deleted!!

@Lozz22

I'm glad I wasn't imagining it. I've gone non contact for a while before and try my hardest to stay low contact with her. She really can be vile.

The last time I saw her she called me fat at a family gathering. I've tried really hard to maintain a relationship with her.

One of the last times I spoke her her she made a revolting comment about coronavirus and 'dirty Asians'. She's become a deeply unpleasant over the years and it breaks my heart to say I really don't like her any more much as I do love her.

YANBU. People should NEVER use this as a prank, it is incredibly insensitive and also just not funny.

OP even if you hadn't endured miscarriages and the loss of your brother, it would have been a cuntish thing for your mum to do.

She's a twat.

That’s no joke.

Your mum is vile and cruel. I am so sorry for the loss of your brother.

Extremely cruel.

Did she actually know it was a “joke”? If she did, that’s shit.

She’s a nasty piece of work, to do that 2 days after you have lost your brother?
What an absolute monster.

FWIW I cut my mum off 4 years ago as she’s a manipulative nasty witch. After 30 years off abuse from her and her turning my family against me enough was enough.
I feel no shame and am a lot happier.
Don’t be ashamed or guilty for telling her to fuck off out your life. Just Cos she’s blood doesn’t make her family.

Pregnancy April fools are bad enough but this is even worse considering your bereavement and how recent it is. Just disgusting behaviour from her. I'd be tempted to cut her out of my life in all honesty.

Yanbu.

With the best will in the world, yer maw is a bastard.

I’m so very sorry for your loss

She knew; she just didn't care. Give yourself some distance. She isn't bringing anything to enhance your life right now.

So sorry about your brother. They're irreplaceable. 😢

She sounds fucking sinister. I'm so sorry.

Wow, I thought you were going to mention the one from that Hollyoaks woman and I thought it wasn't that bad. But your own mum in those circumstances is hideous!!

Wtf.

Sorry for the loss of your brother. Walk away from her now. She will bring you nothing but misery

This sums up my thoughts exactly

"Unfunny kind of 'joke' under any circumstances, but given your history and current situation it's outright nasty and spiteful.

She sounds beyond cruel."