To ask if you agree with my decision making here?

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My circumstances are that I'm a single parent of 2 DC, 14 and 8. I am disabled and also immunocompromised. I'm a key worker in a pretty stressful role working from home - I'm not self isolating but trying to follow social distancing and lockdown guidelines.

I have a partner who does not live with us normally, he lives alone, very nearby, however he is staying with us for the purposes of lockdown. He is furloughed and is helping me with childcare.

The DCs father has said he will not have the children during lockdown. I have decided not to put the children into school hub childcare as this is busy and presents a higher risk if them bringing the infection home to me. DC1 doesn't really need childcare anyway.

My garden was damaged in the floods and isn't suited to playing out until repaired.

Scenario 1 - trying to sort out a work crisis - should have been my day off. Lots of phone calls and stress. DC2 getting pretty restless as I need him to be quiet. DP needed to go back to his empty house to collect more clothes etc, he offered to take DC2 so they could play out in the garden there for a bit and get them out of my hair so I could resolve work issue. They also took a walk from DP's house and grabbed some fresh bread and fruit before coming home. No close contact with anyone outside our household, only shop assistant at a distance.

Scenario 2: my sister has a v young baby, is self isolating for respiratory conditions. Her online shop was missing her baby formula. I managed to add formula to the shop I had booked and it arrived. We drove it to my sisters house, left it on the doorstep and waved through the window, then left. No contact. On the way home we stopped at a local lakes and took a walk as a family, observing social distancing. The lakes are technically walking distance from home, but I cannot access them from this direction as I use a mobility scooter and the route from 'my side' isn't accessible, but a very short drive takes you to the main entrance which is accessible with smooth paths that I can use. Doing this is the only way I can walk with the kids/DP as the pavements in my area are too narrow for my scooter and it's not safe to drive it in the road (we are semi rural).

Would you agree with the choices I made in the two scenarios above and if not, how seriously would you class them as putting my children at risk?

So he won’t have his own kids but is scrutinising your every move?

What you have done is fine. Your ex is a dickhead, but I suspect that is not news to you.

The problem is your vindictive ex, not you. Your scenarios sound harmless, but XP sounds like a bully who is still trying to control you and the children (telling them to keep secrets etc). Well done for trying to make life as normal as possible for DC in spite of him and now the coronavirus.
Best of luck with it all.

Digressing here OP, but don't irritate your skin with hibiscrub. It is useless against this virus. A nice, ordinary bar of soap would be better.

Both totally reasonable and sensible decisions. Whoever reported you is an unbelievable cunt

Do report him for harrassment and stalking. He does need to learn that lesson and it will save you so much time and trouble later. Really.

Your decision making is fine, don't worry.

I'm a bit of a weirdo, I quite like the smell of Hibiscrub 😂 I do Hibiscrub, soap, Hibiscrub just to be extra obsessive.

Nothing you've described so far is unreasonable. There is a backstory with your ex and you need to let go and detach as much as possible. If the authorities aren't taking it further then you've no problem other than detaching from your ex. Take a deep breather and be kind and strong to know you are doing fuck all wrong. Take revel in the fact you are in HIS bee's bonnet!!