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Teacher rang regarding home learning

189 replies

OntheWaves40 · 31/03/2020 10:49

DS (14) teacher rang, didn’t speak to me just to DS. I could hear conversation and it was along lines of, you should be sticking to school schedule, you need to finish my subject for last week even if it takes you to 5pm.
DS was working yesterday until 8pm as he was every day last week. We don’t get enough down time. He watched one film last week for 2 hours.
DS was apologetic and said he’d get straight to it. I wish DS would have explained to teacher he was working flat out but DS isn’t confident enough to.
AIBU to think this teacher is wrong to call at home to push pressure on DS?

OP posts:
JemimaPuddleCat · 01/04/2020 20:24

How is it a safeguarding concern for a teacher to speak directly to a student? You do know they spend time together without a parent on a typical day?

Rachel709 · 01/04/2020 20:58

I agree it must take longer to do the same work at home without a teacher. Tell him to relax and not answer the phone.

nellythenarwhal · 01/04/2020 21:22

Jemima- it's inappropriate if a teacher dialled s student's personal mobile phone number. (Not clear from op if it's the house landline or not)

JemimaPuddleCat · 01/04/2020 21:45

Nelly, I'm not denying whether it may be inappropriate - I'm asking why it is specifically a safeguarding concern for a teacher to contact a pupil.

StoneofDestiny · 01/04/2020 22:10

Crikey - teachers should just stay home and spend time with their own families - judging by some mumsnet posters the teachers can't do anything right!

Remotely home schooling hundreds of students is as alien to teachers as it is to parents.

Frankly I'd be impressed to find a teacher chased up my child to see he was working to standard!

StoneofDestiny · 01/04/2020 22:15

It’s rather moronic to think this is unreasonable given the circumstances. Surely the teacher calling is a sign they are actively working towards educating your child? Anyone who thinks otherwise is a waste of space and I truly fear for your kids futures

Agree.
Teachers talk to kids every day in school - is that wrong too?

Allways123 · 01/04/2020 22:24

The school would have sent out a letter or an email informing parents that they would be keeping in contact with families by phone etc to check that all is well with work from home etc.. Imagine if we sent all kids home on the 20th and never checked in on any of them.. School would have asked parents to monitor that their kids are keeping to a work schedule.. By year 10 students do know how to email the teacher if there's something they don't understand...My Yr 8's do it .. I think there's more to this story. No teacher or support staff would randomly ring up a childs own personal phone to speak about anything..let alone missing work... esp because the work is being assigned online and the teacher will send the student an online comment anyway if there's anything they need to remind them of.. The online comment is public.. Ringing up kids.. this is just not the way things are done.. Contact is always made with parental knowledge...so parent is contacted first and the reason for the call is explained to parent then parent communicates what was discussed to child etc. I've never known of a teacher randomly ringing up a student..

Allways123 · 01/04/2020 22:31

I would never ring up a student on their personal phone... I would always go through the parent.. This is to protect myself from any accusation.. If a parent wanted to pass the phone to their child to speak to a teacher surely the parent has to remain present for the duration of the call...

Sh05 · 01/04/2020 22:32

From my son's school we still get weekly newsletters stating clearly that students know how to contact teachers in regards to school work but if parents also want to talk to a particular teacher they can use the schools usual homework platform to do so.
I don't think there's anything wrong in the teacher calling and speaking to your ds in regards to uncompleted work.
As many others have said, by year 10 he should be confident enough to either email or speak to her if he is struggling. Plus if you knew she was speaking to him you should have asked him to pass the phone to you and mentioned your concerns to her. She won't know if you don't tell her.

Namelesswonder · 01/04/2020 22:43

Our teachers (state secondary) are telling the kids not to get stressed and to use their common sense about what they can and can not do. The head teacher wrote to parents and told them to maintain a healthy school / life balance and not allow children to get wound up. This is a unique situation and he is not expecting children to be learning as if they were in school. Seems like a breath of fresh air compared to what most people are experiencing! I’m in Scotland, from everything I hear I think the English education system is deeply flawed.

Allways123 · 01/04/2020 23:03

Same here.. Nameless wonder.. Our Headteacher is more concerned with emotional health and wellbeing than workloads.. Obv he wants kids to do their best but equally he doesn't expect them to be lazy and not bothered about attempting things. kids know that they can email their teachers if there's things they don't understand or if they need more time to finish things off etc.. If he's working till 8 each evening he must be starting his schedule too late.. At any rate he could be handing his assignments in too late because most days there's a deadline..i would check that he's actually doing his work and not doing other things..

willieversleep · 01/04/2020 23:23

I teach. We have been told categorically that if we ring it is to speak to the parent and not the child for safeguarding purposes. I have called parents in my hoy capacity to offer support and reassurance. Currently I'm not worried if pupils do not do the work but have as minimal stress in their lives as possible. Work can be a healthy part of their day for balance and stability but should not be causing conflict or additional pressure within homes where we are all stressed. I believe we will face a big(ger) mental health epidemic after this awful time passes.

cannockcandy · 02/04/2020 12:31

What work is he doing that keeps him busy till 8pm? If this wasnt all happening he would be in school. Therefore he should be doing the schoolwork set for him.
My son is 7 and is doing school work every day and he, technically, doesnt have to but I dont want him to be behind when they finally go back to school.

Fizzysours · 02/04/2020 12:57

@Cissyandflora bear in mind though that teachers are hugely criticised if kids are falling behind, and parents are not kept informed. We are trying to keep you / your child informed. Anybody who teaches teens would find the concept of 'not putting pressure' on them a bit mirthful. It is what we do, so your children achieve qualifications. Many are highly motivated, many more are not. We care desperately about our classes, we worry about the impact this is all having on your kids. We will of course understand kids could be ill, parents are trying to work, but please...we are doing this because we care about their achievement. Far far easier to be slack...many of us have kids at home too.

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