To ask if you have a 6 or 7 year old

[jezza4pm]

That isn't autistic and doesn't have any learning difficulties,
How often you have to tell them off? How often they misbehave or irritate you?
Whether it be minor or major,

A)more than hourly
B)hourly or less
C)a few times of day
D)daily
E)weekly
F)monthly

I know that probably sounds ridiculous but I'm having a really hard day with my autistic child and starting to worry maybe I don't like him anymore.
Everybody else's children seem so good and being stuck at home with him is so hard at the moment I'm beating myself up that my parenting is to blame. I have 2 younger children that aren't any bother. I really don't want to feel this way.

Daily, my ds6 can go hours and be no trouble , (well as long as he is being entertained ) but can also have episodes of constantly asking for things even when been told no , grabbing my phone and running off with it all sorts of things really . It is hard being stuck in ? Can you take them out for exercise ?

Hourly, more than hourly.
I am a teacher of children with ASC. I find my own neurotypical child MUCH more annoying. I’m sure this would be the same whichever way round it was. You don’t dislike him. Our own children just test us so much.

I have endless patience at school and the kids don’t annoy me at all. Adults, on the other hand...

I have to tell my 6 year old NT child off a couple of times a day as he is forever fighting with his brother or teasing the toddler and winding her up. Whereas my 9 year old with asd rarely gets old off maybe once weekly, so I don’t think it’s asd, it’s down to the individual child. Not all NT children are well behaved

I say 'STOP MAKING THAT NOISE' many many times an hour to my 8 year old who lives for chanting and making annoying mouth clicking noises constantly. She's not autistic and doesn't have learning difficulties.

My 6 year old several times a day because she whinges and shrieks like a toddler instead of talking to us!🙄

My 6 year old probably once or twice a week.
My 4 year old... probably every 2 hours. Both NT, but both very different personalities. Didn’t have to tell my 6 year old really when she was 4 either!

C.
Her brother never caused me this much trouble 🤣.
She’s much more emotional, reacts more swiftly and strongly. She’s quite like me come to think of it!

A) or b) depending on the day 🙈

My 5 year old boy is, as far as I can tell, NT but I harbour a suspicion that there's some mild form of ADHD at play. He can go for hours being no trouble at all but at other times I can be telling him off every 2 minutes and he has a mode where he will deliberately do very silly or annoying things on purpose because he seems to enjoy the attention.

He does well with structure and exercise so lockdown and being at home are exacerbating everything.

I rarely shout at ds (10) with autism. Nt dd (6) however is a different story. She's so full on it's exhausting. Can't remember if ds was the same at that age. Probably. 6 year olds are a pain in the arse.

My seven year old gets my raised exasperated tones once a day or so I guess. More at the moment obvs

DS 7 multiple times a day. He is awesome and I love him intensely however he is very spirited. That's the polite way of putting it.
He shouts instead of talks, hides every time I'm looking for him, hates losing, loses it constantly, strops and sulks and stamps. Never stops when I'm asking him to, makes me shout. He's a handful and yes, you've guessed it, is an utter dream at school

A, many times an hour. He's just 6. I suspect however he has some form of ASD, possibly ADHD or PDA. He almost never does what we ask, is constantly unpleasant/aggressive to his little sister, tantrums if asked to do simple things like put socks on, and rarely sit and focuses on anything.

A few times a day I would say. Not so bad as every hour.
But it might be something that I just have to remind her about like I say oh dear and she sees what I mean (best way to deal with her) or of course it might be more!
But depends on the situation of course

A for both my 5 year old and 8 year old, both nt. The older one is more irritating now than he's ever been, he was lovely til he was 5. The youngest has always been hard work and if she'd been first I'd only have 1 child.

I suspect however he has some form of ASD, possibly ADHD or PDA.

ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) is not a form of ASD. PDA is a subtype of autism, whereas ADHD is a completely seperate condition.

C

I have 6yo twins.
One gets told off hourly (or more!) Hes over excitable, loud, boisterous, and like an untrained puppy.
The other gets told off rarely, less than daily. She just generally does what she's told, and makes a lot less noise and mess than her brother. Shes also cleverer than him, and much less likely to get caught!

My 7 year old does have ASD and it's not so much telling off but a constant stream of..
'Please don't make that noise.'
'Please sit still/stop bouncing/kicking'
'Please walk down the stairs, don't throw yourself/roll/go backwards down them. It's not safe.'
'Indoor voices.'
'No we've just had snack, the next food is at lunch time.'
Just constant and relentless drip drip drip of annoying or dangerous behaviour. He cannot entertain himself for any length of time.
His two younger siblings are easier to manage together than he is on his own. He is really missing his support lady at school and the general school routine which doesn't help.

Twins age 7. One I only have to tell off about twice a year. The other is at least 2-3 times per day. Don't sweat it, they're all different xx

One just-turned 7 and one almost-8... they take it in turns to ensure a constant supply of irritating as shit level annoyance.

I have a mental question mark over one of them for being possibly autistic but well-masking - a few months ago it was almost hourly complete losses of control/meltdowns and now it's down to a couple a day. I suspect it might be her decompressing from masking at school meaning she's calmed down a lot. The younger one now has taken over pushing her luck constantly instead.

My 6 year old? Never.
My friends 6 year old? I’d say half hourly. They’re all different.

Just wanted to say thanks to everybody that replied, it's genuinely helped.
I'm just going to go easier on the minor irritating stuff and try and make it more fun for him.
Cheers

On her own hardly ever. With her sister every bloody hour!