To ask if you have a 6 or 7 year old

[jezza4pm]

That isn't autistic and doesn't have any learning difficulties,
How often you have to tell them off? How often they misbehave or irritate you?
Whether it be minor or major,

A)more than hourly
B)hourly or less
C)a few times of day
D)daily
E)weekly
F)monthly

I know that probably sounds ridiculous but I'm having a really hard day with my autistic child and starting to worry maybe I don't like him anymore.
Everybody else's children seem so good and being stuck at home with him is so hard at the moment I'm beating myself up that my parenting is to blame. I have 2 younger children that aren't any bother. I really don't want to feel this way.

B

There's also the fact different people genuinely find different things annoying.

I can tune out dc3's noises - he does martial arts routines or pretend ninja or star wars battles or he's a medieval child thief escaping capture or he's playing with Playmobil and there are endless sound effects. I find it charming and it doesn't bother me, or I tune it right out.

Whistling or eating loudly on the other hand makes me murderous

I also get unreasonably annoyed when DD tries to "organise" me and nag me to do things I've said I'll do but on her schedule not mine, or when the children bicker but actually in a harmless way I shouldn't interfere with.

DH doesn't mind the things which annoy me but hates the sound effect noises and gets really cross.

It's how you're both wired and the interaction between the personalities often, more than how objectively naughty/ annoying a child is or how "good" a parent someone is.

It depends on the day here. Some days, I barely have to tell DS off at all. Other days it feels like all day long! Generally a couple of times a day, 99% of the time because he isn't listening and doing as I've asked repeatedly.

Between a&b... She is not special needs or anything, just a crazy 7 year old. Mainly to get her to stop talking/spinning about/trying to eat all the food 😂

C, sometimes B. And yes, oh my goodness, the spinning!!

She is 6 7nin 4months shes an old child.
Shes told off very rarely shes doesn't irritate me often .

Depends on the day really! Sometimes it can be none and we'll have a great day, sometimes it could be several times in a day. Just a normal 7 year old with no extra needs or anything but can be very stroppy and is a bit of a perfectionist so gets frustrated easily.

Definitely depends on the day. Some days it feels constant, others hardly at all.

Whistling or eating loudly on the other hand makes me murderous*

Yes i get this too! DH does both things and it's excruciatingly annoying! And now DS has started eating noisily too. Aagghh!

DS is 6 and an only. He's mostly good and doesn't need to be told off that often..on average I'd say we have to tell him off about about twice or x3 a day. He's taken to isolation quite brilliantly really! He does his school work and the times where he misbehaves is always just before bed-time when he has one last burst of madness!

Hmm, without DS1 (has ASD) being a factor, DS2 is pretty good. He can feed off DS1's moods which is wearing, plus just sibling disputes (DS1 is the main offender)

He is lively in a sunny, energetic way- I realised when looking for a nice smiley photo of him as a baby that there weren't many because they tended to be blurred as he has always wriggled around! Even today, he literally quivvers with excitement. Fortunately I find his constant chirriping quite endearing. Generally he is keen to please and affectionate. He's rarely intentionally naughty and is most likely to irritate by being scatty and unfocused.

Mainly it's the sibling bickering that's draining but much of that originates from DS1 and DS2 is on balance a pretty great brother.