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To think DM is overreacting and I don't need to go to A&E (Not Coronavirus related)

109 replies

Chaosdragon · 28/03/2020 14:28

Last Monday one of the dogs headbutted me straight in the nose. Horribly painful. almost instantly swelled up to twice its normal size and my vision went blurry. The swelling has mostly gone down now, leaving me with a bruise and its obviously painful to touch but on the whole its OK as long as I don't touch my nose, cheek or eyes.

However, I am still having blurry vision in one eye, and this has worsened into headaches and a sort of dull numbness all over my neck arms and back. I foolishly mentioned this to DM earlier in a phone call , when I said I hadn't driven out to the supermarket as I didn't feel up to driving, and she has obviously been putting my symptoms into the 111 checker as she has sent me a photo of it telling me to ring 999 and since rang me up several times to berate me for not doing so, and says if I don't do something she will call it for me. She does have form for being a bit precious.

Having attempted to duplicate this its obvious to get that result I need to pick this options "head injury in last 7 days" and "blurred vision". I assume the danger is some sort of brain bleed or the like, but surely a headbutt from the dog is not in the list of things that would cause that?

I have half debated compromising going to A&E just to shut her up, but I assume that the hospital has enough to deal with right now and really its not an essential journey.

So AIBU to do nothing despite my "symptoms"?

OP posts:
HarrietThePi · 28/03/2020 16:09

Hmm on reading the update I feel more like you should just go to a&e... They won't know that you've been told to wait. I don't understand why it matters whether it was a person or a dog, it's still a head injury that's left you with blurry vision and neck pain.

notthemum · 28/03/2020 16:11

For the love of God or anything else you may or may not believe in.
Please ignore 111 and get down to A and E.
If you do this and we are wrong you can come back and smugly tell us.
If not you need to be there.
💐

Custardcreamies101 · 28/03/2020 16:12

You need to go to a&e with those symptoms. What’s the point calling 111 if your mum has used the online symptom checker?

TheMotherofAllDilemmas · 28/03/2020 16:21

If you only had a bruised noise, I would asume I would tell you to stay at home. Blurry vision? No, ring 111.

whirlwinds · 28/03/2020 16:24

In this instance I would actually ignore 111 and go to A&E, I have a high threshold going to A&E personally but we are talking head injuries with prolonged symptoms. This is a case of being safe rather than sorry. Go please.

Quartz2208 · 28/03/2020 16:32

It seems odd that she thinks a person could but not a dog which I think underestimates how a dog could use their weight

I would go because her logic seems flawed - a dog couldnt do that much damage even though a person could when a dog clearly has!

QuestionableMouse · 28/03/2020 16:32

You need to get checked out.

Poshjock · 28/03/2020 16:38

I'm inclined to disagree with 111 (something that happens surprising often). We have a mantra in Remote Medicine - Life/Limb/Eyesight. These are the priorities. With the history of your injury and symptoms I would be concerned about eye orbit injury - there are a lot of bones in there. By attending A&E you will be able to have your eyes properly looked at and into - your hospital may even have an opthalmology emergency clinic where you will be seen by a specialist.

Never take chances with eyesight. Just go. No-one will be angry or annoyed with you as you have a residual symptom that strongly merits further investigation. A&E unit - not minor injuries.

GabsAlot · 28/03/2020 16:49

I think eye damage is serious and actually shouldnt be left

SelfIsolationMeansMorePeppa · 28/03/2020 17:00

I think the same OP. Eyesight is one thing I wouldn't take chances with either.

Manchestermanchester · 28/03/2020 17:04

You don’t ring 999 you go in a taxi to accident and emergency

L0bstersLass · 28/03/2020 17:23

I agree with the many others. This needs checking out. It could be serious. Go to A&E.

Upthehillanddownagain · 28/03/2020 18:14

OP just go to A&E. Now.

The problem with 111 is that they're not trained medics, they're just people reading questions on a screen. And those questions cannot cover every nuanced eventuality.

Given the symptoms I would bet my life that the doctors would rather you went and got seen and they find there's nothing that won't settle down in time, than you don't go and risk it turning out to be something serious.

Go!

browzingss · 28/03/2020 18:19

OP spoke to a medical professional though. Not the first line call handler, as she used 111 online and received a call back by the nurse.

Wynston · 28/03/2020 18:53

Did you go to a&e???

SheldonSaysSo1 · 28/03/2020 19:09

I would have to disagree with 11 (although I'm not medically trained). I would be concerned that your eyesight could deteriorate and it may not be reversible. For something like eyesight I'd always be more cautious even with the current pandemic.

agonyauntie2020 · 28/03/2020 19:26

+1 for go to A&E

Etinox · 29/03/2020 09:54

@Chaosdragon how are you today? Any continuation of symptoms, please go to A&E.

QuestionableMouse · 29/03/2020 11:07

There are countless stories about how 111 doesn't always get it right.

They told my dad he was suffering from reflux when really it was a heart attack!

ittakes2 · 29/03/2020 12:32

I read your update about 111 saying get a gp appointment Monday. GPs don’t have the equipment to look into your eye. Google eye a&e’s - something like moorfield’s eye hospital - but they have smaller clinics all over the place. Moorfields is massive but if you find a smaller clinic less people in waiting room. You should find one open today.

hatsandshoes · 29/03/2020 12:38

In the nicest possible way, OP wowwwww you're really annoying. Get thee to A&E!

QuestionableMouse · 29/03/2020 12:38

If you're in the north east, James Cook hospital has an eye A&E. The staff are lovely.

LucyAutumn · 29/03/2020 13:07

Hope you're ok OP

123deepbreath · 29/03/2020 13:21

Paramedic here, if I was called to you and you displayed these symptoms which me if be popping you up to A and E for a check, it helps that my local ED has a set of ophthalmology nurses attached to it so they'd be able to check the eye issue if it didn't appear linked to the head injury. Hope everything's okay OP.

TuscanGreen · 29/03/2020 13:24

Your mum is right