To be really worried/ashamed about my weight

[polkadots2]

I had various medical procedures throughout February and an operation at the start of March, I wasn’t able to exercise throughout because it would have interfered with the treatment I was having.

I’ve gained A LOT of weight and I’m quite concerned about it. I was around 10.5 stone in January (5’6”, so higher end of the healthy BMI) I weighed myself today and I’m almost 12 stone! I feel so deflated and ashamed. I’ve felt like crying all morning. My clothes all feel tight and I feel lethargic and unhealthy.

I’m not sure what to do about it, I used to pick up fresh stuff several times a week while eating healthily, I obviously want to minimise the amount of shopping trips now.

Post DC I was around 13 stone and worked really hard to get down to a healthy weight eating low carb. I know it comes down to calories but I’m certain I’m sensitive to carb intake, as I balloon if I have too many carbs - at the moment that’s all we really have in the house!

I’m debating doing fast 800 but I don’t know if that’s a stupid idea at the moment given the circumstances? Not sure if that would cause issues with my immune system either if I end up getting coronavirus

Would really appreciate any advice

@VadenuRewetje perhaps if you had worried more when you slipped into an overweight bmi you might not have had a bmi of 40? Just a thought.

So people shouldn't worry about their weight because you're fatter than them VadenuRewetje ? at what point is OP allowed to address it? Can you give us a particular BMI? Nasty post.

OP I found 5:2 intermittent fasting really helpful at keeping my weight down and it's not too extreme.

Gosh what I would give to be 12 stone

Maybe some posters should have spent the time it took to write a nasty post doing some home exercise instead in an attempt to lower their shockingly high BMI?

OP, imagine if your post was about depression. 'I feel so deflated and ashamed because I am depressed'.

or anxiety?

You have nothing to be ashamed about.

Aw @polkadots2, I know how you are feeling. I am the same height and put on weight slowly and stealthily when I hit menopause. I put on 3 stone over about a 2 year period - it was so slow I didn’t really notice for a while (or didn’t admit it to myself). I am all for being whatever weight works for you and at which you feel confident with yourself. I am around 8 and a half stone, went up to 11and a half. I do not suit being that heavy (others may be fine at that weight, it’s a lot to do with body shape etc too). I lost it slowly over a year or so rather than anything too drastic - I cut out alcohol due to health issues, I also don’t eat much carb heavy food. Those two things make a huge difference - to me at least.

I’m the same height and weight and thought I was alright but I’m questioning that now

No one should feel shame about their weight so YABVU on that one.

Worried... ho hum. It's making you unhappy so I understanding wanting to change it. Probably not easy to change so I understand you're worried about the challenge. Worried is probably reasonable.

My only advice about changing things is...
One Day at a Time.
Every day is a fresh start.

I am exactly same height as you op and was eating what I wanted then had a routine medical I was nearly 12 stone ! Bmi 27. Did fast 800 started in Oct am now 9st 12 and noticeably slimmer. Was large 12/14 now 10/12. Had to buy all new trousers as my old ones literally falling off me. I have a turbo so do an hours cycling and weights every day too

16:8 fasting on most days of the week works really well for me. I have a coffee and a glass of water when I wake up but hold off eating until between 10 and 11am then I eat whatever I like through until 6/7pm then only herbal tea in the evening until bed. I break out odd days here and there but it's such a simple regime, I think it's easy to stick to.

I’m sorry some of your replies aren’t helpful; I’m not going to put my weight but I’ve gained 11 pounds since having my baby and while I’m fully aware it’s not much and I’m still in the healthy range for my bmi it remains that I don’t feel good and I’m not normally this weight. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about what you’re wanting to do or thinking about it at this time. We can’t think about the virus all the time.
I would focus on healthy eating at the moment rather than drastically reducing calories and exercise as much as possible on the current restrictions. That’s my plan especially as I’m needing to have some little vices during this time

Same Through. It’s not a fad diet either. It’s a new way of eating. I find it easy to stick to as I still eat what I like only less of it and over a shorter time scale. Stops the mindless chomping of biscuits I was doing

A few really nasty comments in this thread. I’m trapped in the house with my exH and going through a nasty divorce, I’ve lost my job, have lots of other problems too. But I’m still keeping track of my weight - really need some normality in my life so that I can feel good about myself and keep up my mental health.

Polkadots - please don’t acknowledge the bad comments, but just listen to the positive ones...

It's all relative. Someone who is 20 stone and in a size 22 (or whatever) would probably love to be a size 14. Size 14 is too big for me.

I am 5ft 3, petite and have gone from a comfortable 10, sometimes 8 on a good day to hitting the 12's and very very flabby, especially around my mid section due to letting go with the pizza and wine consumption. I get I am not obese, but I feel big FOR ME, and I don't want to buy new clothes when I have a wardrobe full of size 10's.

Just because you are on the smaller scale doesn't mean you aren't allowed to feel all the emotions that go with weight gain out of your comfort zone.

Anyhoo OP, completely empathise. I have the fast 800 book and recipe book, I just need to get my head in the zone. I lost weight years ago doing strict low carb but just can't seem to get myself on that bandwagon again. Actually that's a lie, it's staying on it that's the problem.

There’s a killer virus sweeping the nation.

Is there? Really? None of us had heard, thanks for letting us know.

OP, I'd start with small changes for now particularly with the current situation putting limitations on exercise, what food is available in the shops, etc. Download an app like My Fitness Pal and use it to work out how many calories you need each day in order to lose 1-2lbs a week then try to stay either at or under that amount. This way you can eat whatever you fancy or are able to get on your shopping - we've had some very weird online subs here! - and you're being mindful of making good choices.

polkadots2 don't be ashamed. What I took from your post was that you are aware of the effect your weight has/had on you mentally and physically and you want to make sure that doesn't happen again, that's positive thinking.

Set yourself small, relatively easy to achieve targets, small changes every day soon add up.

Try not to let it get you down and good luck.

Hey :) I got down to a really nice weight a few years back, but then I started a stressful job and it all piled back on.
With the lockdown, although there have been so many negatives (and I know I'm incredibly lucky compared to others), the one silver lining has been that it's given me time to think more about my own body and my own health.

I've been doing the Joe Wicks workout at 9am every day on youtube, and even did it this morning using one of his older workouts.
I've also been eating a lot healthier (much more fruit and veg, though obviously limited by only shopping once per week).
I already feel healthier and have lost a small amount of weight in the last week. Going on daily walks has also helped.

Maybe make a plan of some small changes that you can implement whilst you're stuck in? Once it's beome part of your routine, hopefully it'll be easier to keep up once lockdown is over :) Good luck!

Anyone know if joe wicks is in tomorrow at 9am or does the guy take sundays off??

Anyone up for pledging to do his workout tomorrow if it’s on?

OP, Don't you think you and your body have been through enough recently?
Cut yourself some slack and just look after yourself for a bit.
Eat sensibly and if you aren't moving about much (who is?), a bit less than usual.

Ignore the ignorant smug and unkind. So many people sympathize with you and how bad you feel about your weight. It's really hard to tackle but doing something, small steps and changes, does work. It doesn't change who you are... Keep busy, try to delay snacking at home, have a focus, be as active as you can. Good luck.

Some nasty fuckers around at the moment. I second my fitness pal. If you've just had surgery lay off the exercise, most weightloss is done with diet anyway.

Good luck

I am in the same place as you. Its ok to be concerned enough to want to lose a bit of weight. Its not ok to feel ashamed.

I just want to add you shouldn’t really pay too much attention to the scales, just how you look and feel in yourself.

I’ve seen people my weight that are 4 or 5 dress sizes bigger than me

Equally I’ve seen people a stone lighter than my lightest weight. They look lovely, but even at a heavier weight than them i looked a bit ill (not my opinion, other people were checking I was ok etc even though I was super excited at the low number on the scales!)

You should go with what’s comfortable and right and healthy for you.
It sounds like you’re not happy right now so work on it.
But don’t punish and shame yourself by doing a fad diet.

@GrumpyHoonMain... fuck me, you’re nasty. The OP asked for a dive and I think a little encouragement. We all need it, right now. Why don’t you just not comment if you can’t be a little bit kinder?

Omg. Oh to be perfect.