To have a little drink even though im pregnant?

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I am bricking it.
I had a small bottle of cider 2 days ago to calm my nerves and had another today.

1.3 units. I am trying not to have another one and I don't even drink!

Aibu to have a little one just to calm my nerves. Or is it really as slippery a slope as they say?

Alcohol will not help your anxiety. Its a scientific fact.

Slippery slope and just not worth it!

I personally wouldn't.

Could you try non alcoholic beer? Budweiser do one.

Yabu , the effects of it on your baby is really not worth it .

Nope, not something I would do while pregnant.

You're using it to self medicate, you'll feel even more anxious wondering what it's doing to your baby. You're not meant to be out and about anyway, pour any you have left down the sink

Risking harm to your baby won't calm your nerves

I'm sorry, find another way

No, not worth it. Talk to your midwife about your anxiety. Alcohol is not the answer.

Find another way to reduce your anxiety. Alcohol is a piss poor answer. Contact your midwife, reach out to friends, do whatever you can to stop yourself from feeling lonely and adding to your anxiety. Hope all goes well for you!

alchohol is not the answer
What is the answer then?
All of the self help, breathe, excersise and sticking to a routine isn't really helping. The stress is also bad for baby and I really don't know what to do.

If we were living in normal times and you said you ‘just fancied one’ I’m sure most people on here would tell you to go ahead.

However as others have said it won’t calm your anxiety and it does sound like a slippery slope. What if tomorrow you have to try really hard not to have a third or a fourth?

for you though, it must be really stressful being pregnant at the moment

Nice bath/ face mask? Some trashy tv like sex and the city or something (that’s my comfort blanket)? Cook your fave dinner?

I was going to say YANBU when I read your title but having read the post, it seems like it wouldn’t just be a one-off. Definitely YABU

The fact you're using it for stress management and feel like you have to try not to have another drink indicated that you really need to not have any. Stress isn't great but babies are born all over the world in truly horrendous, stressful circumstances like war zones! You don't need to self medicate with alcohol.

I'd try to forget about the rest of the world for a while, in whatever way works best for you personally. That may mean turning off the phone, taking a long bath or shower, reading a page-turner, binge-watching something, listening to music or an audiobook, meditating, taking a nap, doing some calming yoga-- whatever distracts or calms you, personally.

Make it part of your daily routine. Give yourself pleasant things to look forward to, every day, even if it's something small.

Non alcoholic beer is your friend at this time, dont diss it until you've tried it. It really does help relax you due to the hops etc and it may be psychological but it seems to have the same effect a placebo effect maybe! Try having a cold one of these during a nice bubble bath followed by big bar of your favourite chocolate and a Netflix series.

I can't get through to my midwife and wont see her for 3 weeks. Her phone is saying line busy, line busy, line busy.

I feel like a right moron because I quit smoking and drinking almost completely (excpet special occasions) with my first but right now all i want to do is bury my head in the sand and have a good time but I obviously cant.

I am not a drinker but i definitely need something to take the edge off. Do they do anti depressants in pregnancy?
Surely the stress is bad too.
Just tell me how to feel better and Ill do it

How pregnant are you? VERY important not to drink at all in the early stages. In late stages women in the old days would be encouraged to have a half pint of guinness on the odd occasion.

But generally no, alcohol isn't great for the baby. Have something else!

Hot chocolate with one teaspoon of Tia Maria is a lovely treat.

The occasional drink in pregnancy will prob be fine but 2 bottles in 2 days sounds like youreally need to step away from the alcohol. Sounds like your using it as a crutch.

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time. I found pregnancy tough, and am finding this state of flux tough, so I imagine both together is really challenging. Any amount of alcohol is dangerous and poses a risk to your baby - there is no safe level, but you know that. Drinking a known depressant isn’t good for your mental health - talk to someone. Your mum, partner, friend, GP - acknowledge its fucking scary, and find a way through. Some cider isn’t going to take away the fear and worry. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy ❤️

@Yesterdayforgotten non alcoholic beer might be a good idea, although im not sure the placebo effect will work if i already know im using a placebo.

Its just what was in the house from the last time i had a drink, so nearly 2 years ago.
I really feel like a twat because dh likes a drink and I always tell him off.

Thank you all though, i was hoping for the 'its only s bit itll be fine' but yeah. It is true i had ine the other day and now i want 2.
Agh trust me to be pregnant and unable to drink my worries away during the bleeding apocalypse

Alcohol is worse for the baby than stress

I really think you should speak to a midwife.

Could you call the community team office and ask for a call back?