To have a little drink even though im pregnant?

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I am bricking it.
I had a small bottle of cider 2 days ago to calm my nerves and had another today.

1.3 units. I am trying not to have another one and I don't even drink!

Aibu to have a little one just to calm my nerves. Or is it really as slippery a slope as they say?

God woman. Pull yourself together. It's a teratogen in other more simpler terms, poison to the baby. If you wouldn't tip a can of cider to a baby's lips then don't drink it while your pregnant. The alcohol crosses the placenta. Find another way. Anything else really (besides a fag!).

Theres a book called expecting better by Emily Oster, she looked into all the mixed messages women are given during pregnacy, including alcohol. She found that there is no evidence that drinking 1-2 units will cause any harm to the baby, after the 1st trimester. Infact guidanc in Australia is that you can drink this. Their evidence is based on an nhs study. The nhs say nothing at all because they think if they tell women they can drink that then women will drink more, which would be harmful. There is so much done to make women feel guilty in pregnancy. If you'd drank a 2l bottle of strong cider then that certainly would have been a problem. Don't beat yourself up, thisnisnsuch a hard time particulalry if you're pregnant. Be kind to yourself!

Can I just say that when I was pregnant with DD I went I the GP because I could not sleep whatsoever, I had very had insomnia and had went there ok the hope of getting sleeping tablets or something like it. The Dr actually told me to have a small glass of red wine before bed as it would help me sleep and wouldn’t prescribe those type of drugs during pregnancy. True story and that was 5 years ago.

You really need to get a grip. Your behaviour is pretty disgusting.

Everybody is stressed right now, not once have I thought about drinking. BECAUSE I'M PREGNANT and because it could produce dire consequences. Jesus. I could say more but would rather not get banned.

There's no bloody evidence because you can't do the study! It's completely unethical to give pregnant woman alcohol and no ethics board will let the study through. There is NO safety/dose data, none.

Are you reading the news each day OP? If so stay away from it (it’s reduced my stress)

Stress isn’t good for the baby but neither is alcohol

It’s not worth the risk to your unborn baby

@FizzAfterSix not even a glass, ahh i was starting to feel like an alcoholic!
Just feel like a pick me up and having a bath and a bit of chocolate just isnt cutting it with 3 kids in a small flat, worries about dh and work and then getting ill/ worries about relatives getting ill etc.

@BogRollBOGOF
More like just helping relax for a bit. I havent been able to sleep for a while now and argh! I just wish i wasnt pregnant.
I wont do it again incase i slide into a tank of vodka i just needed a vent and 22 shots of tequila

OP I think you just need to firstly realise that what you're feeling is normal. I'm also pregnant and could murder a beer. I'm gonna have a non alcoholic becks this evening.

What are your main anxieties at present? Have you tried colouring books? Reading? Anxiety is a bitch so I completely understand.

I've just started hypnobirthing and am hoping thay will help

Don't risk the beer

Thats not really true, plenty of women now and in the past have enjoyed an occasional drink during pregnancy and have perfectly healthy babies, myself, pps, my mother, grandmother, mother in law included (and plenty more especially in countries where guidance says a small drink is fine eg France, australia...). Which is in itself evidence. My main point though is that society uses pregnancy as another way to control women. I personally got tutted at for eating a burger while pregnant! People think if a women is pregnant they have a right to judge her choices regarding her body. The op came here for some support. The truth is that the amount she drank will not have a negative impact but there are people calling her disgusting etc which is the opposite of support.

Also, stay away from the news and social media. After a while you forget what's going on, at least it doesn't feel as bad as it is.

Me and dp spent the day potching in garden and it's been bliss

Hypnobirthing @chocolatequiltedshitpig
Go on tell me what its all about because i have heard of it but never actually looked it up

Alcohol doesn’t help with anxiety and it’s not good health wise for you let alone a baby.

Lots of ways online to calm anxiety.

@UnspeakableBode that’s not true at all. NHS guidance is based on the fact studies show there’s no safe limit, not because they don’t trust women’s judgement so will trick them

Drink is a really bad way of dealing with stress or anxiety or nerves or anything like that, pregnant or not.

You absolutely shouldn't drink during pregnancy if you're not completely sure you can control it. It's clearly a slippery slope for you OP and for your child's good you need to stay well clear.

Stress is far better for you baby than FAS.

Irresponsible. Find another way to deal with it.

If you drink because you need it, you shouldn't drink, whether pregnant or not.

The odd sip of something while pregnant doesn't hurt but it sounds like you know this is coming from an out-of-control place.

I really don't like the body-policing disgust brigade on here.

Would you put alcohol in your baby’s bottle? If no? Then don’t drink. Don’t be so selfish. You’re supposed to put your child first. Drinking and or smoking in pregnancy is child abuse as far as I’m concerned.

@ncfcfthreads its bloody hard, isn't it? These are unprecedented times and I wouldn't beat yourself up about the cider. You know you will do the right thing for your baby. You're going to be a great mum

Just.....no. Please, no.