To feel like I can't carry on with this 'show' any more?

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I am trying to remain upbeat and positive Infront of the kids but when they go to bed I'm consumed by anxiety of the current situation.
My dd has undiagnosed asthma she's on asthma medication but she's only 3 and no Dr will disagnose it so DH has been placed into a high risk area of his work however if we had proof DD has asthma he would be more protected but we can't get the proof because no Dr will speak to us.

If dh brings the virus home I don't know how did or her younger brother will manage it they've both been very unwell respiratory wise in the past and I'm just so worried.

I feel constantly sick and my face aches from clenching my jaw constantly because of the worry. I know everyone is feeling the same I don't want a pity party just a hand hold maybe?

I miss my mum so much, I see her most days usually and this is killing me. I honestly can't see a light at the end of this tunnel. But I know I need to get up in the morning and put on my brave face again. Right now I'm exhausted with the anxiety and worry of everything

I am incredibly lucky, I know, we have food and dh has his job and my family are all currently well I don't want to complain. AIBU to just ask you to tell me this will all end at some point I can't see out at the minute.

@RaveonThisCrazyFeeling wgntv.com/news/coronavirus/preschool-aged-child-among-latest-cases-of-covid-19-in-cook-county/

It will come to an end. We don't know when yet but the peak will come and then decline, there will be treatments and there will be a vaccine. You just need to keep going in the meantime. You can do this.

@whiplashy it very much does

wgntv.com/news/coronavirus/preschool-aged-child-among-latest-cases-of-covid-19-in-cook-county/

@whiplashy Heres another one

www.fox35orlando.com/news/baby-boy-tests-positive-for-covid-19-youngest-person-in-florida-known-to-have-virus

@whiplashy Here is another one that tells of children in Wuhan being diagnosed and a newborn in England who tested positive

@whiplashy <a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=www.the-hospitalist.org/hospitalist/article/219205/coronavirus-updates/covid-19-pediatric-patients-what-hospitalist-needs&ved=2ahUKEwjQ8KXDw7noAhUJVN8KHf0aBTcQFjAMegQICBAB&usg=AOvVaw2G1TK5iZxmHd1RUtpjWsAs" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=www.the-hospitalist.org/hospitalist/article/219205/coronavirus-updates/covid-19-pediatric-patients-what-hospitalist-needs&ved=2ahUKEwjQ8KXDw7noAhUJVN8KHf0aBTcQFjAMegQICBAB&usg=AOvVaw2G1TK5iZxmHd1RUtpjWsAs

I actually read somewhere that although asthma is considered higher risk generally for this it doesn’t seem to be any worse than for the normal population.

No idea where I seen it

@Leannb

So when someone’s looking for a big of reassurance, you post about 5 links up as to why they absolutely should be worried 😦 really?! 🙄

@Potkettlex Absolutley. This isn't a time to blow smoke up people's ass. When you see incorrect info being shared you need to correct. This virus does not discriminate based on age. There is not a person in this world who is immune from Covid. If people would stop passing along wrong info then maybe people will start respecting your lockdown a little bit better. People have been erroneously that this virus doesn't affect kids hence all the ignoring of self isolation. How many posts have you read on this site alone about kids and teens still playing and hanging out. How many threads have we seen when parents are complaining that their older teens aren't respecting the social distancing and lockdown. They are doing this because people keep saying its only bad for the elderly. It doesn't affect kids. All of this is false. Maybe these links will help that situation

@Pottkettlex and its only 3 links but if you would like I can post several of at least 3 teenagers ages 17-19 who have died from the virus. I can also post a link where a healthy 59 yo died of the virus. People need to stop pitting their heads in the sand

It will all end at some point, that I can give you a reassurance of. It isn't going to go on forever.

In the meantime, I and my colleagues (many of whom have underlying health conditions ourselves as well as vulnerable family members at home) will continue to work in high risk areas because we don't have a choice not to.

It may help you to instigate some of the practices that we have put in place. Ask your husband to keep a change of clothes at work for working in (assuming he doesn't have to wear a uniform, in which case he should keep that at work and change into it on arrival). Shoe covers if he doesn't have separate shoes for home and work.

When he leaves, he should put his uniform either in the workplace wash bags, or a pillow case to bring home and wash.

He comes home, strips off at the door and his clothes plus pillowcase of uniform go into a hot wash. He goes directly into a shower, if he can come into the house via a door close to a bathroom so much the better and if he can shower before he leaves work that's better still.

Once he's showered and in clean clothes then he says hello to you all.

He should stick to using only one car if you have two and minimise anything he takes into work. Phone can go in a clear ziplock bag for work, touch screen stuff will still work and it keeps the phone clean for home use. Pens should be disposable and wiped down with alcohol wipes frequently, his ID badge should be left outside "red" areas if possible or failing that, wiped with alcohol wipes on leaving.

Have an isolation area at home for anything which he needs to take to work and bring home with him, otherwise see if there's somewhere safe he can leave everything at work so the only vector of transmission is him, and reduce that risk as best you can.

Many of my colleagues are moving out of home and into sleepouts, motels, colleagues' spare rooms etc for the duration of this, to minimise the risk of bringing it home to their families. Horrific and I don't blame you for being scared. We all are. Kia kaha

You can’t get an asthma diagnosis until a child is 5 or 6. Little kids can’t do the tests. Until then it is presumed. It’s an incredibly frustrating system.

Just wanted to say that my circumstances are different op but I get you re putting on a show. I get tearful every night after the kids are down because Iv been bottling it up all day. No idea why first few posters were so shitty with you. Take no notice.

Can you self isolate with your mother? I know lots of families where that’s happening. It’s fine to do that if you don’t have symptoms

All of you doubting op because of her daughter not having an asthma diagnosis yet, that's normal at three, asthma is not usually officially diagnosed until the child is older and can do a peak flow test.

My son was diagnosed at 2, he had a nebuliser at home from that age, why won't they diagnose a 3 year old.?

That was 30 years ago, so maybe things are different now.

Very different now, Rubyupbeat.

The principle issue is that some children do have a viral wheeze and so on that they will grow out of, but if the GP officially labels them with asthma, the child might be obliged to declare asthma later on, and lose out on their dreams of enlisting as a fighter pilot, even though they've never used an inhaler since they were four.

So GPs are cautious.

Could your mum move in and your husband stay at hers at all?

Regarding incorrect info, it would also help if people stopped referring to the virus in any context relating to flu.
Its official name is SARS-CoV-2 and it is a pneumonia-causing virus in severe cases. (SARS = Severe Acute Respiratory Syndrome)

Because of the general populace's tendency to call any kind of cold "the flu", I'm fairly certain that categorising CoViD-19 as "like flu" is contributing heavily to people's disregard of the potential severity of the disease.

Certainly it doesn't cause pneumonia in everyone, far from it - but the people who are dying, that's what the cause of death is.

Op... I understand why you feel anxious. And living with anxiety is exhausting,
And while it is true that several stories abound reporting some positive cases in young children and a newborn baby.. Try to put it into context.. Those children have not died. In fact the vast majority of people who are positive have not died, the vast majority of the at risk and over 70's who catch will not die.
Your daughter is on a combination of meds that strongly suggest an allergy component to her symptoms.
Monteleukast is usually a step five asthma medication.. So used last.. But it is also used for allergies.
Is she not on a preventer inhaler?
Just salbutamol and Monteleukast is an odd regime... After this is over. And it will be at some point if suggest you discuss the rationale behind her medication with your gp.
In the meantime if anxiety is taking over then consider looking for cbt online courses. They can be helpful

Optimic
That’s a good idea!

What @Purpleartichoke and @PotholeParadise said.

The GP should have explained this to you. Tests are not reliable so unless it is severe requiring hospital treatment your GP is not going to diagnose.

My DGD had inhalers and more than one course of steroids age 2 - 4 GP said she could not diagnose asthma but would treat her as though she had it. She is now 8 does not have asthma and she sort of grew out of it.

However I do understand that you are worried but I don’t think you are going to get a diagnosis to enable your DH to be moved.

OP 2 of my friends are doctors. One is staying away and isolating from the rest of his family as he is working in a high risk area. Is this a possibilty for you ? Most trusta have hotel rooms they are usimg for this purpose.

Montelukast often works better than inhaled steriods for pre-schoolers.