To think 30 isn’t old to start a family

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My niece has recently announced her pregnancy. She’s just turned 30. She’s received a lot of comments saying she’s left it late. Aibu to think it’s a good age to start a family?

I had my DD at 26, most women I met who had their first babies at the same time were 30+. I think it's average, not too old.

Although can imagine the same people saying she's too old would be the same ones to tell me that I was too young. There really is no good age to be a pregnant woman if you listen to other people.

That a joke??? We started at 36 and have 2 healthy kids

LOL no!

Anything over 40 is too old to start a family IMO. But 30?! Not too old at all. Perfect age IMO.

Some people ALWAYS have to fucking comment! Wait til she has her first baby. She will have people demanding to know when she is having the next one... Then if the second one is the same gender (if she has another baby,) people will tell her she MUST want one that's a different gender.

People are gits.

It’s very common now for people to start their families in their mid 30s. Most of my friends did. I was considered very young at 27!

I’d say 30 is the perfect age, really, in terms of balancing fertility and lifestyle/career etc.

Who the hell is commenting that? How rude! I was 35 and made friends at baby groups with mums both older and younger. I’m now 38 and hoping for another one (when this has hopefully all blown over). 30 is not too old at all!

I’m guessing she’s not in London? In London most people haven’t started to try for a family by 35!

Congratulations to her

I had DD at 26 and everyone in my NCT group was at least mid 30’s.

I personally would like to have my family before 30- to get through the baby stage and enjoy my kids while in young. It’s obviously not ‘late’ though.

Depends on your location, family background, social and economic status, culture and ambitions.

Everyone is different. There is no right / wrong way to live YOUR life. I’d have been telling the rude arsehole to get to fuck.

God that’s so rude of people!

Who’s commenting? Very area and job dependant. My first boss used to say they squeeze another generation in about clients. She was solicitor in her 40s with very young children. Office in very deprived area. Most clients same age were already grandparents.

Ludicrous. I hardly know anyone who started before 30.

What an idiotic comment. Don't know where to start:

a) its biologically possible so by definition its not "too late".
b) its more or less bang on the national average
c) anyone who thinks that its better to have kids before you have had time to enjoy your life is clearly pretty thick and dull-witted and doesn't have any other expectations for themselves besides having kids.
d) its none of anyone's business.

Sorry OP but whoever it is who is saying this to her is thick as pigshit and she shouldn't give their opinions the time of day.

I thought 30 was the "average age" for a first time mum.

From a medical perspective you are an old mum

Fertility issues on the increase age probably a factor

lolz - really?? I'm 31 and still not planning on a baby for another year or so - and i'm young in comparison to a lot of my mates hahah :)

There is a millennial saying 'my 20s are for me, my 30s are for my children'

Of course it's not too old.

If she was under 30 people would have been commenting about her being young. I often find in MN people will insist there is no such thing as too old, but any younger than 30 is too young .
Maternal age is no one but the mothers business!

From a medical perspective you are an old mum

According to what, the Bumper Book of Nineteenth-Century Gynaecology?

Very area and job dependant. My first boss used to say they squeeze another generation in about clients. She was solicitor in her 40s with very young children. Office in very deprived area. Most clients same age were already grandparents.

Absolutely, this. When I was pregnant at 39, my midwife used to operate out of two London GP surgeries, one in a fairly deprived area, and one, though only half a mile down the road, in an upmarket area dominated by professionals. In the waiting room in the deprived area, I was the same age as the grannies-to-be waiting with their late-teenage daughters, in the upmarket area, I was average or slightly younger than some.

I had my first at 30 and my second is due this summer at 31. And I wouldn't have it any other way. Motherhood hits you like a chair to the face whatever age you have them at.

in my NCT group 25 year ago nobody was under 30 , ds was induced on my 33rd birthday. However i heard a conversation on the train (have since talked to the person) who was in the middle of adopting and told at 32 she wasnt allowed to adopt a baby because she was the same age as most of the babies grandparents. She went to adopt a young brother and sister

Weird. Why do people say this kind of stuff? It's so intrusive. And why do people refer to 'start' a family? Maybe she'll have one child :-/

I thought 30 was quite young these days!

I thought it was average now