AIBU to be so enraged about reckless egg usage??

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D(debatable)H made himself and son eggs yesterday for breakfast despite my slightly worried “have you counted how many we have?” He’s just cooked 4 more for himself and son leaving youngest and me (I’m always last to be thought of anyway) with none. I wanted to bake today. Eggs last longer in a cake right?! . He’s so selfish with food. Just takes what he wants even if it’s the kids’ stuff. Never thinks to replace it or if it might be needed e.g. drinks all the milk then wonders why there isn’t any for coffee. He thinks I’m being a drama queen as he can just pop to shops. And this is why I’m stressed. I don’t want any of us going out unless we have to. And we don’t HAVE to if we eat sensibly. We had a huge row on Monday so I may still be harbouring rage about that. Tell me if any of you have selfish partners. I’m thinking about one previous OP whose OH ate all the treats and her posh biscuits.

Try your local Facebook or Parish Council website. Ours are posting links to all the cafes, pubs etc that have switched to food delivery. Some have eggs available.

Because penis yeah? He has one, he is entitled.

It doesn't matter how many eggs are coming out of other posters' ears, if they are drowing in omelettes, WTAF does that matter?The OP's husband used up something that could have fed the whole family and there was no need for it whatsoever, selfish entitled behaviour. In the circumstances now its even worse.

On MN if a man wants to eat, that over-rides all other considerations. Have a heart OP, you don't want hubby to be hangry eh hun?

Surely the only thing this proves of that you don't have enough milk for everyone and need to plan your food shop better
Nope it proves that he thinks of himself first and doesnt care that there is nothing left for r anyone else. If there isnt much milk left you dont use it all while your 3yr old goes without!

More healthy that they ate the remaining eggs for breakfast and lunch as eggs rather than using them in a cake. We need to try and eat as healthily as possible just in case we become unwell.

Look if it's wifework to "plan" and "organize" the shopping and "ensure" that there is "enough" for all penises then said wife should in true medieval fashion hold the keys to the larders and dole out the fecking food so she has control. Your husband is behaving like an arse, OP. You always make sure the children have enough for starters, saves a lot of trouble. The only people who don't check are the people who count on someone else to solve the trouble.

My DH is a bit like this too - he just doesn't see the need to limit his intake because we're supposed to be reducing how often we go out, and how often we go shopping.
He will also ferret around to find the kids' sweets and chocolate and thinks nothing of eating it.

It's very annoying, so I think YANBU.

I think a lot of people are getting stressed about things that normally wouldn’t bother us. Being cooped up (excuse the pun!) 24/7 is going to put relationships under enormous strain. We must try to stay calm and not let the little things get to us.

I agree with you op.
Everybody needs to stay inside wherever possible.
Selfish behaviour like that displayed by the ops dh is what has led to the situation we now face.
Op- does your dh have a favourite shower gel?
If so use that the next time you shower, keep using it and when it runs out blithely say “Oh well, you can pop out and buy some more.”

He sounds very selfish and entitled.
If someone used the last of my milk they would never, ever do it again trust me.

The problem here are that your DH is being selfish and not considering others, which during a normal situation would be irritating but in the current situation is going to put you all at risk if he keeps creating situations where you have to go out to the shops more often than would be the case if he would agree to plan out meals based on what you have properly.

It sounds like you basically have an extra child at home rather than a responsible co parent.

No eggs from Ocado on Friday and none locally. Neither Tesco nor Sainsbury not even in the overpriced deli.
I'm craving scrambled eggs.

Good god so many selfish greedy men mentioned on here! Stealing kids food from fridges and thier sweets!
Wtf is wrong with them?

We must try to stay calm and not let the little things get to us.
Adults eating food like its all for them while we are trying not to go to shops regularly is not a little thing. Using up stuff first so your 3yr old goes without is a huge thing!

We’ve set up a food inventory in our house using google sheets, and people have to check them out so that we can maintain an eye on what stocks are running low and what might need to be “rationed”- sounds really controlling (I accept it is pretty controlling) but we have two families living in the house and some people with increased risk so we really want to minimise contact. Works quite well - though I took quite a lot of ribbing for setting it up and being so insistent for the first couple of days.
If you live somewhere with access to farm
Shops or businesses that usually only provide to the catering trade these can be quite good places to get eggs etc - and many do delivery or “order and pick up from car park”.

It’s a period of adjustment for us all - hope you and your DH can settle into this new rhythm soon OP.

So annoying. Putting aside whether we should be buying eggs to help British farmers, or whether PP have no shortage of eggs where they live, it’s completely thoughtless and selfish to use the last of anything without at least checking with the other people in the house. And even if you have eggs in the shops in your area, everyone should be staying in as much as possible - ideally going to food shops no more that once or twice a week, if at all possible.

And at least a cake made using the eggs can be shared!

Surely the only thing this proves of that you don't have enough milk for everyone and need to plan your food shop better
Half my last post is missing!

Why is it ops job to teach him basic parenting?
Why is her job to have to explain the current climate regards popping out to shops whenever he feels like it?
Why is ops job to have to monitor stuff and buy more because he keeps stuffing himself with food that's for everyone?
What if op cant afford to just keep buying more?

Don’t you need strong flour to make bread.

@YetAnotherSpartacus

There were four eggs left and he ate them all without checking if others wanted them and during a time where there is a shortage and we are supposed to stop going outside?
No. That's not what happened. He used the last 4 eggs for him AND their son for breakfast (although he and the son did have eggs for breakfast yesterday).

The OP thinks making a cake with them for the family is better than a breakfast of protein-filled eggs because a cake will last longer. Mmm.

He is disgustingly selfish, feeding himself and leaving you and DC to find what you can. Four eggs, four people means one egg each. As this is his everyday behaviour, just more noticeable at present, you really have a problem. I’d like to say I hope you can talk it out. But such selfishness isn’t going to change overnight.
Good luck, OP.

banivani that's pretty much what happened in my family, in my ex husband's family, and how I ran my house. It works pretty well in poor families. My two adult sons would never dream of taking food without asking first.My son with kids take equal responsibility with his wife for shopping and cooking now, but the kids are not allowed to take food without asking.

unbelievably greedy and selfish! Op, he's showing you who he is. I couldn't abide that level of selfishness. Poor kids and poor you.

Maybe he should have asked if anyone had plans for the last four eggs first but---- I wouldn't be enraged about this personally. My kids all love eggs for breakfast.

How about making cakes without an egg? Or scones? Misses point of thread

This crisis is certainly highlighting the continuing sense of entitlement which many men display. Maybe the fact this is being brought into focus will lead to some societal improvements post-virus.

Don’t waste precious eggs in cakes. There’s tons of cake and biscuits in the shop.

But yes, he’s selfish. And probably thick as he doesn’t get it’s going to magically replace itself it the next few weeks.

*No. That's not what happened. He used the last 4 eggs for him AND their son for breakfast (although he and the son did have eggs for breakfast yesterday).

The OP thinks making a cake with them for the family is better than a breakfast of protein-filled eggs because a cake will last longer. Mmm*

Leaving the OP and the youngest without and without asking first.

It would be better because then EVERYONE would get a bit of something rather than 2 people getting something to eat and 2 people going without.

Normally it wouldn't be such an issue but right now it is!

I live in a rural area, and none of the shops have eggs, just about to use the last precious two - one each for me and DH. He sounds like a selfish git, OP, who needs 4 eggs for breakfast even before all this started?